And if you’re currently looking at dating again, you can feel more confident, clear and capable fast.
If you want relationships and friendships where you feel confidence in communicating, connecting, and building intimacy I can help.
Mentor To Survivors Of Narcissistic Relationships
This is entirely NORMAL.
If you’ve been through narcissistic abuse and bad relationships, these fears and concerns are utterly legitimate.
Those things happened and you ended up paying a deep cost because of them.
And yet, part of you wants connection, intimacy and satisfaction in your friendships, family, and relationships.
This is also very, very normal.
This is your love and desire talking!
You see, what you needed and wanted in those relationships wasn’t the problem.
Your needs and wants are good.
The big challenge in building relationships that result in connection, intimacy, and love isn’t our desires.
It is a combination of two factors: Your skills and Who You Choose.
Both of these factors are in your control.
All you actually need is the skills and practices that create connection, intimacy and satisfaction with the right-fitting person.
My students achieve this outcome repeatedly.
They each needed:
A PROVEN PROCESS TO FOLLOW: Love addiction is rooted in severe neglect of your core needs and a belief that only a special other can complete you. You need a step-by-step process that helps you undo the neglect, restore your sense of connection to yourself, heal the loneliness and bring healthy connection back into your life.
THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE: Survivors of narcissistic abuse and codependency comes from a different world than those who haven’t been through that hell.
This means you need the correct knowledge at the right time to make the correct changes and choices that result in lasting healing for yourself.
THE TOOLS & PRACTICES THAT ADDRESS THE CORE CHALLENGES: Neglect and experience with healthy communication, attachment, a d conflict have set you up for failure. We end this cycle of failure by giving you the right knowledge and practices that reshape how you bond, communicate, and advocate for yourself.
THE CORRECT EXPERIENCE & TIMING: Understanding your experiences helps you make wiser choices. To have that right understanding, you need to have the correct experiences in the correct time. Survivors build confidence and clarity fast when they know how to respond to the milestones in relationships as well as how to walk the path to those milestones.
A SAFE HAVEN: Survivors need real-time, active feedback on their experiences. A strong community beyond the classroom helps them succeed fast and maintain their growth and achievements.
ON-GOING RELIABLE RESOURCES & REINFORCEMENT: Most survivors I’ve worked with needed consistent access to support, feedback, cheer-leading, and celebration as they ventured into the world and experienced life. Knowing someone has your back makes adventure and risk so much safer.
The Relationship Strategy™ is built for codependents and survivors of narcissistic abuse that are ready to master their skills in building secure adult attachment, kind communication, and safe conflict in their relationships and personal lives.
The Relationship Strategy™ targets attachment distress, communication confusion, and conflict struggles by helping you regulate, build, and practice healthy attachment, comprehension, and cooperation.
The Relationship Strategy™ has one objective: To help you experience more connection, intimacy, and satisfaction in all your relationships
Attachment is the highway on which all your needs and wants are met and reciprocated by the other. It is where we feel the most safety and the most dread and vulnerability in a relationship.
I teach you how to build secure bonds with others through:
– Identifying trust patterns in their behavior
– Regulating proximity (closeness) anxiety
– Regulating seperation (space) anxiety
– Building constancy and routine that auto-regulates the bond, even in times of conflict, confusion, upset, and low capacity
You exit this step empowered in nurturing your attachment needs, respecting theirs, and knowing how to connect and nurture each other.
Communication is a major challenge we all wrestle with. We make it highly complex, confusing, and fuzzy.
I teach you how to communicate in a way that results in clarity, connection, understanding, and respect.
I do this through teach you:
– How to be direct, clear and simple
– How to voice concerns and complaints without accusations, assumptions, or judgments
– How to confront confusion and get clarity
– How to listen and comprehend yourself and them
You exit this step understanding how to navigate communication in ways that result in more understanding, clarity, and honesty. This empowers you to make honest choices you want to make and live with.
Conflict is scary. It is charged with intense memories of violence and abuse.
This wasn’t conflict – it was harm.
Healthy conflict is SAFE. And I teach you how to create safe conflict through:
– Regulation of your activation states (fear, anxiety, panic)
– Using breath, space, and time to navigate conflict
– Applying Deepened Communication to conflict so it creates intimacy, not division
– Building outcomes that work for you and them
You exit this step understanding what conflict is and isn’t, how to build safe conflict, and how to emerge from conflict with solutions, clarity, and intimacy.
Topic: Foundation of Healthy Relating (Compatibility, WHAT-HOW-WHO)
Topic: Operational Trust
Topic: Consent & Privilege vs Entitlement and Obligation
Topic: Structure Of Connection & Value Systems
Topic: Use Of Personal Power In Relationships
Topic: Attachment In Adult Relationships
Topic: Effective Community
Topic: The Anatomy Of Conflict
Topic: Building New Connections
Topic: Navigating Existing Connection – Part One
Topic: Navigating Existing Connection – Part Two
Topic: Navigating Change & Endings In Relationships
Taking the leap on your own healing is scary. I know it was for me. Knowing I could email my mentor at any time, even years later, for guidance and help brought me a sense of peace and support in my healing.
This is what I provide you when you enroll: lifetime access to email support from me, Marshall Burtcher.
Taking the leap on your own healing is scary. What makes the difference is a warm, supportive community that students could turn to with questions, needs for understanding and support, and guidance.
Marshall provides you with this support through:
My courses are designed to be used from the smart phone and the desktop computer or laptop.
Each course is broken down into a series of small trainings. These trainings build on each other (think legos). As you advance through each training, you place another block in your healing, freedom, and peace.
You will exit each training and each course with a new skill-set and the understanding of how to apply it to your life.
My courses are self-paced. They’re designed to adapt to your lifestyle and needs. This is achieved with my Building-block™ course design (means they work like following a recipe).
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HEALTHY ADULT ATTACHMENT: You know what your attachment style is and you know how to mature and care for it within your relationship and within yourself.
DEEPENED COMMUNICATION: Instead of talking at each other, you understand how to hear them, and how to be heard by them. This creates predictable comprehension and intimacy.
SAFE CONFLICT SKILLS: You understand how to navigate conflict that results in more understanding, connection, and intimacy.
PERSONAL POWER: You’ll know how to use your Personal Power for your well-being and happiness, increasing your satisfaction with your life.
SELF-CONFIDENCE: Instead of questioning yourself, you’ll be rooted in a living self-trust that you can know and live what is real and valid for you.
MORE SATISFACTION: You’ll be able to connect with and enjoy more people in ways that matter to you and them, creating mutual satisfaction.
This Course Is Designed For Individuals That:
There are Pre-requesites For This Course:
I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING TO BE THEMSELVES.
HOW DO I KNOW THIS IS THE RIGHT COURSE FOR ME?
Ask yourself this question and listen to you body’s response: “Will this course get me where I want to be?”
If you find yourself heavy and confused, then your answer is no.
If you find yourself light, expansive, and clear, then your body’s answer is yes.
That answer is what I call your “intuitive answer”.
Trust your inner guidance.
WHAT IF I GET STUCK OR GO SLOWLY?
This is anticipated in the design of all my courses. You see, this course is teaching you new practices and a new lifestyle. It will take time to adopt, explore, and experience what you learn.
You can go at your pace and you’ll always have support and guidance along the way.
WHAT IF I DECIDE IT ISN’T FOR ME AFTER ENROLLING?
I recommend not enrolling if you’re wrestling with this question. Instead, share with me your concerns or questions by messaging me here: https://www.facebook.com/freetheself
There are no refunds for subscriptions.
I’M REALLY BAD WITH TECHNOLOGY AND COMPUTERS. WILL THAT GET IN THE WAY?
All my courses are designed to be accessed through email. If you’re comfortable with using email, you can do the courses.
All live classes are through the ZOOM app. Links to the ZOOM classrooms are in all class emails and titled “Link to Classroom”. Click the link and you’ll be entered into the classroom.
If you have difficulties, reach out to support here: firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll help you get it working.
The only issue we do not troubleshoot is email delivery. We recommend having a GMAIL, HOTMAIL, MSN, YAHOO account for the class emails. Other email services may block or move to spam course emails.
I’M IN THERAPY. WILL THIS INTERFERE?
All my courses are built on cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and somatic therapies. This means it will likely be compatible with your therapy and enhance what you’re learning there.