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Ready For Connection, Understanding, And Cooperating

And if you’re currently looking at dating again, you can feel more confident, clear and capable fast.

If you want relationships and friendships where you feel confidence in communicating, connecting, and building intimacy I can help.

Keep On Reading To Learn How This Is Possible For You

Marshall Burtcher

Mentor To Survivors Of Narcissistic Relationships

HAVE YOU BEEN...

HAVE YOU BEEN...

  • Fearing you’ll repeat the same mistakes as in past relationships?
  • Wondering how you’ll handle your needs and wants to be close to them without driving them away?
  • Wondering how to keep yourself in a relationship without givinn yourself up or being smothered?
  • Struggling to figure out how to communicate so they hear and understand you?
  • Fearing conflicts and differences will sabotage your relationship again?
  • Avoiding relationships because they all feel doomed to fail?

THIS IS YOUR PAST TALKING

THIS IS YOUR PAST TALKING

This is entirely NORMAL.

If you’ve been through narcissistic abuse and bad relationships, these fears and concerns are utterly legitimate.

Those things happened and you ended up paying a deep cost because of them.

And yet, part of you wants connection, intimacy and satisfaction in your friendships, family, and relationships.

This is also very, very normal.

This is your love and desire talking!

You see, what you needed and wanted in those relationships wasn’t the problem.

Your needs and wants are good.

The big challenge in building relationships that result in connection, intimacy, and love isn’t our desires.

It is a combination of two factors: Your skills and Who You Choose.

Both of these factors are in your control.

All you actually need is the skills and practices that create connection, intimacy and satisfaction with the right-fitting person.

My students achieve this outcome repeatedly.

They each needed:

THEY NEEDED...

THEY NEEDED...

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A PROVEN PROCESS  TO FOLLOW: Love addiction is rooted in severe neglect of your core needs and a belief that only a special other can complete you.  You need a step-by-step process that helps you undo the neglect, restore your sense of connection to yourself, heal the loneliness and bring healthy connection back into your life.

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THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE: Survivors of narcissistic abuse and codependency comes from a different world than those who haven’t been through that hell.

This means you need the correct knowledge at the right time to make the correct changes and choices that result in lasting healing for yourself.

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THE TOOLS & PRACTICES THAT ADDRESS THE CORE CHALLENGES: Neglect and experience with healthy communication, attachment, a d conflict have set you up for failure.  We end this cycle of failure by giving you the right knowledge and practices that reshape how you bond, communicate, and advocate for yourself.

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THE CORRECT EXPERIENCE & TIMING:  Understanding your experiences helps you make wiser choices.  To have that right understanding, you need to have the correct experiences in the correct time.  Survivors build confidence and clarity fast when they know how to respond to the milestones in relationships as well as how to walk the path to those milestones.

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A SAFE HAVEN: Survivors need real-time, active feedback on their experiences.  A strong community beyond the classroom helps them succeed fast and maintain their growth and achievements.

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ON-GOING RELIABLE RESOURCES & REINFORCEMENT: Most survivors I’ve worked with needed consistent access to support, feedback, cheer-leading, and celebration as they ventured into the world and experienced life.  Knowing someone has your back makes adventure and risk so much safer. 

FROM THE MOUTH OF STUDENTS...

FROM THE MOUTH OF STUDENTS...

IF YOU WANT TO CREATE CONNECTION, INTIMACY, AND SATISFACTION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, I CAN HELP

IF YOU WANT TO CREATE CONNECTION, INTIMACY, AND SATISFACTION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, I CAN HELP

I’ve found most survivors are drowning in a sea of information.  They lack structure, support, and direction.   This cycle of disappointment and failure ends when they have the right structure, support, and knowledge.  
 
Survivors begin to heal, find peace, and find sanity again when they have the practices, support, and tools that are tailored for their unique journey.
 
I help them achieve this through The Relationship Strategy™.

INTRODUCING THE RELATIONSHIP STRATEGY™

INTRODUCING THE RELATIONSHIP STRATEGY™

The Relationship Strategy™ is built for codependents and survivors of narcissistic abuse that are ready to master their skills in building secure adult attachment, kind communication, and safe conflict in their relationships and personal lives.

The Relationship Strategy™ targets attachment distress, communication confusion, and conflict struggles by helping you regulate, build, and practice healthy attachment, comprehension, and cooperation.

The Relationship Strategy™ has one objective: To help you experience more connection, intimacy, and satisfaction in all your relationships

IT ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

IT ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

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STEP ONE: BUILD SECURE ADULT BONDS

Attachment is the highway on which all your needs and wants are met and reciprocated by the other. It is where we feel the most safety and the most dread and vulnerability in a relationship.

I teach you how to build secure bonds with others through:

– Identifying trust patterns in their behavior
– Regulating proximity (closeness) anxiety
– Regulating seperation (space) anxiety
– Building constancy and routine that auto-regulates the bond, even in times of conflict, confusion, upset, and low capacity

You exit this step empowered in nurturing your attachment needs, respecting theirs, and knowing how to connect and nurture each other.

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STEP TWO: COMPREHEND EACH OTHER

Communication is a major challenge we all wrestle with. We make it highly complex, confusing, and fuzzy.

I teach you how to communicate in a way that results in clarity, connection, understanding, and respect.

I do this through teach you:

– How to be direct, clear and simple
– How to voice concerns and complaints without accusations, assumptions, or judgments
– How to confront confusion and get clarity
– How to listen and comprehend yourself and them

You exit this step understanding how to navigate communication in ways that result in more understanding, clarity, and honesty. This empowers you to make honest choices you want to make and live with.

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STEP THREE: BUILD INTIMACY, NOT PROBLEMS

Conflict is scary. It is charged with intense memories of violence and abuse.

This wasn’t conflict – it was harm.

Healthy conflict is SAFE. And I teach you how to create safe conflict through:

– Regulation of your activation states (fear, anxiety, panic)
– Using breath, space, and time to navigate conflict
– Applying Deepened Communication to conflict so it creates intimacy, not division
– Building outcomes that work for you and them

You exit this step understanding what conflict is and isn’t, how to build safe conflict, and how to emerge from conflict with solutions, clarity, and intimacy.

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

From Loss and Heart-break To Love, Clarity, And Satisfaction

THIS RESULTS IN YOUR ABILITY TO...

THIS RESULTS IN YOUR ABILITY TO...

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ENJOY SECURE ATTACHMENT

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GET MORE OF WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE

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ENJOY REAL INTIMACY

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FEEL SECURE AND SAFE WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE

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CONFRONT CHALLENGES AND BUILD CONNECTION OUT OF THEM

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FEEL SAFE IN CONFLICT

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FEEL SEEN, HEARD, AND VLAUED

AND ENJOY MORE CONNECTION, INTIMACY, AND SATISFACTION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

COURSE INFORMATION

COURSE INFORMATION

The Course Details

    • Length: 12 Modules
    • Lifetime Access To Recorded Classes
    • Each module includes a 2-hour training & weekly practices for homework
    • Weekly practices take around 20 minutes on average a day
    • Classes are provided in video and audio (mp3) format
    • Includes access to over 24+ hours of training, comprehensive PDF guides for the practices, and 20+ MP3 tools, including guided meditations, release tools, and more

The Course Modules

Module One:
Topic: Foundation of Healthy Relating (Compatibility, WHAT-HOW-WHO)

Module Two:
Topic: Operational Trust

Module Three:
Topic: Consent & Privilege vs Entitlement and Obligation

Module Four:
Topic: Structure Of Connection & Value Systems

Module Five:
Topic: Use Of Personal Power In Relationships

Module Six:
Topic: Attachment In Adult Relationships

Module Seven:
Topic: Effective Community

Module Eight:
Topic: The Anatomy Of Conflict

Module Nine:
Topic: Building New Connections

Module Ten:
Topic: Navigating Existing Connection – Part One

Module Eleven:
Topic: Navigating Existing Connection – Part Two

Module Twelve:
Topic: Navigating Change & Endings In Relationships

INCLUDES ONLINE & EMAIL SUPPORT...​​

EMAIL SUPPORT

GET ANSWERS AND GUIDANCE VIA EMAIL

Taking the leap on your own healing is scary.  I know it was for me. Knowing I could email my mentor at any time, even years later, for guidance and help brought me a sense of peace and support in my healing.

This is what I provide you when you enroll:  lifetime access to email support from me, Marshall Burtcher.

ON-LINE COMMUNITY

THE COMMUNITY HAS YOUR BACK

Taking the leap on your own healing is scary.  What makes the difference is a warm, supportive community that students could turn to with questions, needs for understanding and support, and guidance.

Marshall provides you with this support through:

  • Email support from my staff and Marshall (usually a 48-hour turn around)
  • Access to the private and secure Community™ of fellow survivors making their way through the same journey as yourself

UPGRADE OPTION: LIVE SUPPORT

Choose "Live Support Edition" Below When You Enroll

LIVE MENTORING HOURS™ ($4999/yr)

GET UNLIMITED ACCESS TO TWICE-A-WEEK LIVE SUPPORT CALLED, "LIVE MENTORING HOURS" WITH THE "LIVE SUPPORT" UPGRADE

Live Mentoring Hours is your chance to get custom coaching from Marshall at any time in your journey through the trainings. 

Live Mentoring Hours includes:

    • Access to the Live Mentoring Hours Vault.  Watch over 2 years worth of custom trainings for past students
    • Access to the twice-a-week live group support (aka Live Mentoring Hours)  that happen on Tuesdays @6PM MDT and Thursdays @ 11am MDT (Mountain Time, Boise Idaho)
    • You’re no longer doing it alone.  You’ve got the support of Marshall and the Community at your back each step of the way
     
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*Guaranteed for a minimum of 12 months

HOMEWORK HOURS™ ($3000/yr)

GET UNLIMITED ACCESS TO TWICE-A-WEEK HOMEWORK STUDY GROUPS WITH THE "LIVE SUPPORT' UPGRADE (info below)

Do course homework in the warmth and presence of others students and Marshall.

This allows you to ask questions, share homework with others, and enjoy companionship.

Homework Hours details:

    • Access to the twice-a-week live group support (aka Live Mentoring Hours)  that happen on Tuesdays @5PM MDT and Thursdays @ 10am MDT (Mountain Time, Boise Idaho)
    • You’re no longer doing it alone.  You’ve got the support of Marshall and the Community at your back each step of the way
     
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ALL COURSES ARE...

ALL COURSES ARE...

FULLY DIGITAL

WATCH & LISTEN FROM ANYWHERE YOU HAVE INTERNET ACCESS

My courses are designed to be used from the smart phone and the desktop computer or laptop. 

This means:

  • You can log in via the Kajabi App and resume or start your course at any time
  • Listen to the course via MP3 edition or watch the video
  • Print nothing; the PDF’s are a guide; use a notebook or digital document to track your results
  • Do the practices from the convenience and privacy of your smart phone. Most practices take about 20 minutes 3-to-5 times a week.

DESIGNED FOR EFFECTIVENESS

THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE & TOOLS YOU NEED

Each course is broken down into a series of small trainings.  These trainings build on each other (think legos).  As you advance through each training, you place another block in your healing, freedom, and peace. 

You will exit each training and each course with a new skill-set and the understanding of how to apply it to your life.

DESIGNED TO GO AT YOUR PACE

THERE'S NO RUSH!

My courses are self-paced.  They’re designed to adapt to your lifestyle and needs.  This is achieved with my Building-block™ course design (means they work like following a recipe).

This means:

  • You can stop at any point and focus on that step till you’re ready to move to the next step and STILL SUCCEED
  • There’s no time pressure or expectation.  Most students take their time and have wild results despite going slowly
  • Real results happen because of the PROCESS, not the knowledge or understanding you gain.  Do the processes, get the results!

GOT A QUESTION?

GOT A QUESTION?

Get An Answer

CONFIDENCE IN YOUR CHOICE IS WHAT MATTERS FIRST

Get answers to your questions by submitting your question to me and I’ll get back to you within 48 hours. 

Just click below and fill out the question form.

YOU EXIT THE COURSE WITH:

YOU EXIT THE COURSE WITH:

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HEALTHY ADULT ATTACHMENT: You know what your attachment style is and you know how to mature and care for it within your relationship and within yourself.

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DEEPENED COMMUNICATION: Instead of talking at each other, you understand how to hear them, and how to be heard by them.  This creates predictable comprehension and intimacy.

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SAFE CONFLICT SKILLS: You understand how to navigate conflict that results in more understanding, connection, and intimacy.

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PERSONAL POWER: You’ll know how to use your Personal Power for your well-being and happiness, increasing your satisfaction with your life.

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SELF-CONFIDENCE: Instead of questioning yourself, you’ll be rooted in a living self-trust that you can know and live what is real and valid for you. 

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MORE SATISFACTION: You’ll be able to connect with and enjoy more people in ways that matter to you and them, creating mutual satisfaction.

WHO THIS IS FOR

This Course Is Designed For Individuals That:

  • Identify with being a codependent, people-pleaser, fixer, “nice”, or over-achiever
  • That struggle with trusting their own perceptions of reality
  • That doubt their feelings and senses
  • That wonder what is real
  • That feel unreal or invisible
  • That are struggling to get process in their own therapy and healing
  • That are seeking more peace, freedom, and happiness
  • That want to be themselves without fear, guilt, or shame
  • That want themselves back

There are Pre-requesites For This Course:

  • Must be in therapy, seeking a trauma therapist, or willing to find one if Marshall advises it
  • Must be in or seeking a support community online and in real life
  • Willing to do the work and take it at their own pace
  • Understand there is no quick-fix or instant healing; it takes persistence and curiosity instead
  • Understand that Marshall is not a therapist; he’s a trauma-informed coach and mentor
  • Agree to 100% responsibility for the actions and choices you take in this course

YOU CAN START TODAY FOR:

LIFETIME ACCESS

$ 500 Lifetime Access
  • The Relationship Strategy™
  • The Heal Yourself Strategy™
  • The Support Courses
  • Lifetime Email and Online Community Support
  • Lifetime Access To The Recorded Classes

UPGRADE TO THE SELF-STUDY SYSTEM

$ 997
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Lifetime Access
  • The Self-Trust Course™
  • The Heal Yourself Strategy™
  • The Know Yourself Strategy™
  • The Relationship Strategy™
  • The Support Courses
  • Lifetime Email and Online Community Support
  • Lifetime Access To The Recorded Classes

LIVE-SUPPORT EDITION

$ 1497 Lifetime Access
  • Twice-A-Week Live GROUP Support On Tuesdays & Thursdays
  • Twice-A-Week Live HOMEWORK Support On Tuesdays & Thursdays
  • The Self-Trust Course™
  • The Heal Yourself Strategy™
  • The Know Yourself Strategy™
  • The Relationship Strategy™
  • The Support Courses
  • Lifetime Email and Online Community Support
  • Lifetime Access To The Recorded Classes

Meet Your Mentor

Meet Your Mentor

WHO IS MARSHALL?

I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING  TO BE THEMSELVES.

After 25 years of codependency and 13 years of freedom from it, I’ve experienced a lot of emotional, relational, and mental terrain that come with knowing, loving, and living who you are.
 
I’ve built healthy, secure intimate and platonic relationships, resilient self-worth, self-trust, and peace in my personal life after a life of trauma, depression, social isolation, and failed relationships.
 
Today, I help survivors experience for themselves peace, love, connection, and the joy of knowing, loving, and living who they are.

COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED

COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED

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HOW DO I KNOW THIS IS THE RIGHT COURSE FOR ME?

Ask yourself this question and listen to you body’s response: “Will this course get me where I want to be?”

If you find yourself heavy and confused, then your answer is no.

If you find yourself light, expansive, and clear, then your body’s answer is yes.

That answer is what I call your “intuitive answer”.

Trust your inner guidance.

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WHAT IF I GET STUCK OR GO SLOWLY?

This is anticipated in the design of all my courses.  You see, this course is teaching you new practices and a new lifestyle.  It will take time to adopt, explore, and experience what you learn.

You can go at your pace and you’ll always have support and guidance along the way.

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WHAT IF I DECIDE IT ISN’T FOR ME AFTER ENROLLING?

I recommend not enrolling if you’re wrestling with this question.  Instead, share with me your concerns or questions by messaging me here: https://www.facebook.com/freetheself

There are no refunds for subscriptions.

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I’M REALLY BAD WITH TECHNOLOGY AND COMPUTERS.  WILL THAT GET IN THE WAY?

All my courses are designed to be accessed through email.  If you’re comfortable with using email, you can do the courses.

All live classes are through the ZOOM app.  Links to the ZOOM classrooms are in all class emails and titled “Link to Classroom”.  Click the link and you’ll be entered into the classroom.

If you have difficulties, reach out to support here: support@freetheself.com and we’ll help you get it working.

The only issue we do not troubleshoot is email delivery.  We recommend having a GMAIL, HOTMAIL, MSN, YAHOO account for the class emails.  Other email services may block or move to spam course emails.

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I’M IN THERAPY. WILL THIS INTERFERE?

All my courses are built on cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and somatic therapies.  This means it will likely be compatible with your therapy and enhance what you’re learning there.

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