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Ready For Connection, Understanding, And Cooperating

And if you’re currently looking at dating again, you can feel more confident, clear and capable fast.

If you want relationships and friendships where you feel confidence in communicating, connecting, and building intimacy I can help.

Keep On Reading To Learn How This Is Possible For You

Marshall Burtcher

Mentor To Survivors Of Narcissistic Relationships

HAVE YOU BEEN...

HAVE YOU BEEN...

  • Fearing you’ll repeat the same mistakes as in past relationships?
  • Wondering how you’ll handle your needs and wants to be close to them without driving them away?
  • Wondering how to keep yourself in a relationship without givinn yourself up or being smothered?
  • Struggling to figure out how to communicate so they hear and understand you?
  • Fearing conflicts and differences will sabotage your relationship again?
  • Avoiding relationships because they all feel doomed to fail?

THIS IS YOUR PAST TALKING

THIS IS YOUR PAST TALKING

This is entirely NORMAL.

If you’ve been through narcissistic abuse and bad relationships, these fears and concerns are utterly legitimate.

Those things happened and you ended up paying a deep cost because of them.

And yet, part of you wants connection, intimacy and satisfaction in your friendships, family, and relationships.

This is also very, very normal.

This is your love and desire talking!

You see, what you needed and wanted in those relationships wasn’t the problem.

Your needs and wants are good.

The big challenge in building relationships that result in connection, intimacy, and love isn’t our desires.

It is a combination of two factors: Your skills and Who You Choose.

Both of these factors are in your control.

All you actually need is the skills and practices that create connection, intimacy and satisfaction with the right-fitting person.

My students achieve this outcome repeatedly.

They each needed:

THEY NEEDED...

THEY NEEDED...

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A PROVEN PROCESS  TO FOLLOW: Love addiction is rooted in severe neglect of your core needs and a belief that only a special other can complete you.  You need a step-by-step process that helps you undo the neglect, restore your sense of connection to yourself, heal the loneliness and bring healthy connection back into your life.

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THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE: Survivors of narcissistic abuse and codependency comes from a different world than those who haven’t been through that hell.

This means you need the correct knowledge at the right time to make the correct changes and choices that result in lasting healing for yourself.

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THE TOOLS & PRACTICES THAT ADDRESS THE CORE CHALLENGES: Neglect and experience with healthy communication, attachment, a d conflict have set you up for failure.  We end this cycle of failure by giving you the right knowledge and practices that reshape how you bond, communicate, and advocate for yourself.

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THE CORRECT EXPERIENCE & TIMING:  Understanding your experiences helps you make wiser choices.  To have that right understanding, you need to have the correct experiences in the correct time.  Survivors build confidence and clarity fast when they know how to respond to the milestones in relationships as well as how to walk the path to those milestones.

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A SAFE HAVEN: Survivors need real-time, active feedback on their experiences.  A strong community coupled with bi-weekly live mentoring beyond the classroom helps them succeed fast and maintain their growth and achievements.

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ON-GOING RELIABLE RESOURCES & REINFORCEMENT: Most survivors I’ve worked with needed consistent access to support, feedback, cheer-leading, and celebration as they ventured into the world and experienced life.  Knowing someone has your back makes adventure and risk so much safer. 

FROM THE MOUTH OF STUDENTS...

FROM THE MOUTH OF STUDENTS...

IF YOU WANT TO CREATE CONNECTION, INTIMACY, AND SATISFACTION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, I CAN HELP

IF YOU WANT TO CREATE CONNECTION, INTIMACY, AND SATISFACTION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, I CAN HELP

I’ve found most survivors are drowning in a sea of information.  They lack structure, support, and direction.   This cycle of disappointment and failure ends when they have the right structure, support, and knowledge.  
 
Survivors begin to heal, find peace, and find sanity again when they have the practices, support, and tools that are tailored for their unique journey.
 
I help them achieve this through The Relationship Essentials™ Course.

INTRODUCING THE RELATIONSHIP STRATEGY™

INTRODUCING THE RELATIONSHIP STRATEGY™

The Relationship Strategy™ is built for codependents and survivors of narcissistic abuse that are ready to master their skills in building secure adult attachment, kind communication, and safe conflict in their relationships and personal lives.

The Relationship Strategy™ targets attachment distress, communication confusion, and conflict struggles by helping you regulate, build, and practice healthy attachment, comprehension, and cooperation.

The Relationship Strategy™ has one objective: To help you experience more connection, intimacy, and satisfaction in all your relationships

IT ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

IT ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

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STEP ONE: BUILD SECURE ADULT BONDS

Attachment is the highway on which all your needs and wants are met and reciprocated by the other. It is where we feel the most safety and the most dread and vulnerability in a relationship.

I teach you how to build secure bonds with others through:

– Identifying trust patterns in their behavior
– Regulating proximity (closeness) anxiety
– Regulating seperation (space) anxiety
– Building constancy and routine that auto-regulates the bond, even in times of conflict, confusion, upset, and low capacity

You exit this step empowered in nurturing your attachment needs, respecting theirs, and knowing how to connect and nurture each other.

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STEP TWO: COMPREHEND EACH OTHER

Communication is a major challenge we all wrestle with. We make it highly complex, confusing, and fuzzy.

I teach you how to communicate in a way that results in clarity, connection, understanding, and respect.

I do this through teach you:

– How to be direct, clear and simple
– How to voice concerns and complaints without accusations, assumptions, or judgments
– How to confront confusion and get clarity
– How to listen and comprehend yourself and them

You exit this step understanding how to navigate communication in ways that result in more understanding, clarity, and honesty. This empowers you to make honest choices you want to make and live with.

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STEP THREE: BUILD INTIMACY, NOT PROBLEMS

Conflict is scary. It is charged with intense memories of violence and abuse.

This wasn’t conflict – it was harm.

Healthy conflict is SAFE. And I teach you how to create safe conflict through:

– Regulation of your activation states (fear, anxiety, panic)
– Using breath, space, and time to navigate conflict
– Applying Deepened Communication to conflict so it creates intimacy, not division
– Building outcomes that work for you and them

You exit this step understanding what conflict is and isn’t, how to build safe conflict, and how to emerge from conflict with solutions, clarity, and intimacy.

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

From Loss and Heart-break To Love, Clarity, And Satisfaction

THIS RESULTS IN YOUR ABILITY TO...

THIS RESULTS IN YOUR ABILITY TO...

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ENJOY SECURE ATTACHMENT

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GET MORE OF WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE

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ENJOY REAL INTIMACY

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FEEL SECURE AND SAFE WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE

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CONFRONT CHALLENGES AND BUILD CONNECTION OUT OF THEM

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FEEL SAFE IN CONFLICT

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FEEL SEEN, HEARD, AND VLAUED

AND ENJOY MORE CONNECTION, INTIMACY, AND SATISFACTION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

COURSE INFORMATION

COURSE INFORMATION

The Course Details

    • Length: 12 Modules Taught Over 12 Weeks
    • LIVE CLASSES START SUNDAY, February 27th, 2022 & Ends May 29th, 2022
      Class Times: Class is taught at 11am and 6pm Mountain Time
    • THIS IS A BETA COURSE.  This means it is in testing and development.
    • Lifetime Access To Live and Recorded Classes Each module includes a 2-hour training & weekly practices for homework
    • Weekly practices take around 20 minutes on average a day
    • Classes are provided in video and audio (mp3) format
    • Includes access to over 24+ hours of training, comprehensive PDF guides for the practices, and 20+ MP3 tools, including guided meditations, release tools, and more

The Course Modules

Module One:
Topic: Foundation of Healthy Relating (Compatibility, WHAT-HOW-WHO)

Module Two:
Topic: Adjusting The Foundation: Consent And Privilege

Module Three:
Topic: Adjusting The Foundation: Wants, Needs, Capacities, Identity (Me-vs-We to ME-and-WE)

Module Four:
Topic: Attachment Made Safe – What It is And Your Assessment

Module Five:
Topic: Attachment Made Safe – Growing From Anxious/Disorganized To Secure

Module Six:
Topic: Attachment Made Safe – Growing From Avoidant/Disorganized To Secure

Module Seven:
Topic: Communication – Its Purpose And Structure – Assessment

Module Eight:
Topic: Conflict – Its Purpose And Structure – Assessment

Module Nine:
Topic: Communication & Conflict – Building Intimacy Through Comprehension

Module Ten:
Topic: Communication & Conflict – Regulating Activation, Attachment Distress,Space and Proximity

Module Eleven:
Topic: Communication & Conflict – Creating Repair & Resuming Play and Intimacy

Module Twelve:
Topic: Practices And Next Steps

 

INCLUDES LIVE SUPPORT FOR LIFE*...

INCLUDES LIVE SUPPORT FOR LIFE*...

LIVE MENTORING HOURS™ ($4999/yr)

ACCELERATE YOUR HEALING & HAPPINESS WITH LIVE GROUP SUPPORT & COACHING

Live Mentoring Hours is your chance to get custom coaching from Marshall at any time in your journey through the trainings. 

Live Mentoring Hours includes:

    • Access to the Live Mentoring Hours Vault.  Watch over 2 years worth of custom trainings for past students
    • Access to the twice-a-week live group support (aka Live Mentoring Hours)  that happen on Tuesdays @6PM MDT and Thursdays @ 11am MDT (Mountain Time, Boise Idaho)
    • You’re no longer doing it alone.  You’ve got the support of Marshall and the Community at your back each step of the way
     
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*Guaranteed for a minimum of 12 months

HOMEWORK HOURS™ ($3000/yr)

HOMEWORK DONE TOGETHER

Do course homework in the warmth and presence of others students and Marshall.

This allows you to ask questions, share homework with others, and enjoy companionship.

Homework Hours details:

    • Access to the twice-a-week live group support (aka Live Mentoring Hours)  that happen on Tuesdays @5PM MDT and Thursdays @ 10am MDT (Mountain Time, Boise Idaho)
    • You’re no longer doing it alone.  You’ve got the support of Marshall and the Community at your back each step of the way
     
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*Guaranteed for a minimum of 12 months

LIVE & ON-LINE COMMUNITY (Priceless)

THE COMMUNITY HAS YOUR BACK

Taking the leap on your own healing is scary.  I know it was for me.  What made the difference is a warm, supportive community that I could turn to with my questions, my needs for understanding and support, and guidance.

I provide you with this support through:

  • Weekly check-ins via email on your progress
  • Email support from my staff and I (usually a 48-hour turn around)
  • Access to the private and secure Community™ of 2500+ survivors making their way through the same journey as yourself
  • Twice-a-week live group support to give you the personal touch you deserve and need in your journey

AND POWERFUL SUPPORT COURSES...

AND POWERFUL SUPPORT COURSES...

The HEAL YOURSELF Strategy ($497)

HEAL CODEPENDENCY AT ITS ROOT

Go deep on healing the core cause of codependency: the trauma bond.  You are guided back to yourself through 3 simple steps: restoring your safety, sanity, and self.

This is all achieved through 24 modules that gently guide you in adopting simple practices that set you free and empower your natural well-being and happiness.

The KNOW YOURSELF Strategy ($1250)

KNOW, LOVE AND LIVE WHO YOU ARE

Go deep into understanding your personal worth, your unique voice and vision that guides your life towards more of what you want in your life: happiness and well-being.

This is achieved through 15 core trainings and on-going application trainings.

The BE CALM System ($197)

REGULATE AND CALM YOUR ANXIETY AND DISTRESS

The chaos, crazy-making, and roller-coaster of emotions and intensity is why you feel anxiety.  The BE CALM System empowers you with tools that calm your mind and body quickly.  They help you have power and have a say in what you feel

These tools are built on Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing trainings.  You will feel more calm and grounded.

The Reclaiming Yourself Course ($197)

REDISCOVER YOUR INNATE INNOCENCE AND SEE HOW YOUR HEALING FLOURISHES

Abuse and neglect may have taught you to associate yourself with being the problem.  If only you were different, right?  If only you had no needs, or different feelings, or a different personality.

This is the impact of abuse.  We begin healing it through reclaiming your innate innocence in your feelings, personality, wants, needs, and even mistakes.

The HEAL Course ($997)

HEAL THE SHAME, GUILT, FEAR, AND FATIGUE FROM YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

HEAL gently guides you in reclaiming yourself from the shame, guilt, fear,  and fatigue you learned in the toxic experiences within your relationships, including your parents, siblings, peers, partners, and yourself.

The NURTURE Course ($297)

HEAL THE EMOTIONAL NEGLECT BY RESTORING NURTURING CARE TO YOUR NEEDS

NURTURE gently teaches you a practice called “The Nurture Process”.  This simple process allows you to begin identifying, nourishing, and maintaining your emotional needs in healthy ways that promote healing interdependence and self-empowerment.

The RapidHEAL Guides ($297)

SPECIALIZED MEDITATIONS AND GUIDES THAT PROPEL YOUR HEALING AND THRIVING

The RapidHEAL Guides empower your growth and healing and add special support through gentle meditations that reprogramming your emotional associations and help you release your codependent habits.

ALL COURSES ARE...

ALL COURSES ARE...

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WATCH & LISTEN FROM ANYWHERE YOU HAVE INTERNET ACCESS

My courses are designed to be used from the smart phone and the desktop computer or laptop. 

This means:

  • You can log in via the Kajabi App and resume or start your course at any time
  • Listen to the course via MP3 edition or watch the video
  • Print nothing; the PDF’s are a guide; use a notebook or digital document to track your results
  • Do the practices from the convenience and privacy of your smart phone. Most practices take about 20 minutes 3-to-5 times a week.

DESIGNED FOR EFFECTIVENESS

THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE & TOOLS YOU NEED

Each course is broken down into a series of small trainings.  These trainings build on each other (think legos).  As you advance through each training, you place another block in your healing, freedom, and peace. 

You will exit each training and each course with a new skill-set and the understanding of how to apply it to your life.

DESIGNED TO GO AT YOUR PACE

THERE'S NO RUSH!

My courses are self-paced regardless of they’re the live edition or the recorded edition.   They’re designed to adapt to your lifestyle and needs.  This is achieved with my Building-block™ course design (means they work like following a recipe).

This means:

  • You can stop at any point and focus on that step till you’re ready to move to the next step and STILL SUCCEED
  • There’s no time pressure or expectation.  Most students take their time and have wild results despite going slowly
  • Real results happen because of the PROCESS, not the knowledge or understanding you gain.  Do the processes, get the results!

GOT A QUESTION?

GOT A QUESTION?

Get An Answer

CONFIDENCE IN YOUR CHOICE IS WHAT MATTERS FIRST

Get answers to your questions by submitting your question to me and I’ll get back to you within 48 hours. 

Just click below and fill out the question form.

YOU EXIT THE COURSE WITH:

YOU EXIT THE COURSE WITH:

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HEALTHY ADULT ATTACHMENT: You know what your attachment style is and you know how to mature and care for it within your relationship and within yourself.

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DEEPENED COMMUNICATION: Instead of talking at each other, you understand how to hear them, and how to be heard by them.  This creates predictable comprehension and intimacy.

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SAFE CONFLICT SKILLS: You understand how to navigate conflict that results in more understanding, connection, and intimacy.

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PERSONAL POWER: You’ll know how to use your Personal Power for your well-being and happiness, increasing your satisfaction with your life.

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SELF-CONFIDENCE: Instead of questioning yourself, you’ll be rooted in a living self-trust that you can know and live what is real and valid for you. 

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MORE SATISFACTION: You’ll be able to connect with and enjoy more people in ways that matter to you and them, creating mutual satisfaction.

WHO THIS IS FOR

This Course Is Designed For Individuals That:

  • Identify with being a codependent
  • That struggle with trusting their own perceptions of reality
  • That doubt their feelings and senses
  • That wonder what is real
  • That feel unreal or invisible
  • That are struggling to get process in their own therapy and healing
  • That are seeking more peace, freedom, and happiness
  • That want to be themselves without fear, guilt, or shame
  • That want themselves back

There are Pre-requesites To Attend This Course:

  • Must be in therapy or seeking a trauma therapist
  • Must be in or seeking a support community online and in real life
  • Willing to do the work and take it at their own pace
  • Understand there is no quick-fix or instant healing; it takes persistence and curiosity instead
  • Understand that Marshall is not a therapist; he’s a trauma-informed coach and mentor
  • Agree to 100% responsibility for the actions and choices you take in this course

IF THIS IS YOU, JOIN THE HAPPINESS AFTER CODEPENDENCY SYSTEM TO START THIS COURSE

Meet Your Mentor

Meet Your Mentor

WHO IS MARSHALL?

I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING  TO BE THEMSELVES.

After 25 years of codependency and 13 years of freedom from it, I’ve experienced a lot of emotional, relational, and mental terrain that come with knowing, loving, and living who you are.
 
I’ve built healthy, secure intimate and platonic relationships, resilient self-worth, self-trust, and peace in my personal life after a life of trauma, depression, social isolation, and failed relationships.
 
Today, I help survivors experience for themselves peace, love, connection, and the joy of knowing, loving, and living who they are.

COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED

COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED

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HOW DO I KNOW THIS IS THE RIGHT COURSE FOR ME?

Ask yourself this question and listen to you body’s response: “Will this course get me where I want to be?”

If you find yourself heavy and confused, then your answer is no.

If you find yourself light, expansive, and clear, then your body’s answer is yes.

That answer is what I call your “intuitive answer”.

Trust your inner guidance.

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WHAT IF I GET STUCK OR GO SLOWLY?

This is anticipated in the design of all my courses.  You see, this course is teaching you new practices and a new lifestyle.  It will take time to adopt, explore, and experience what you learn.

You can go at your pace and you’ll always have support and guidance along the way.

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WHAT IF I DECIDE IT ISN’T FOR ME AFTER ENROLLING?

I recommend not enrolling if you’re wrestling with this question.  Instead, share with me your concerns or questions by messaging me here: https://www.facebook.com/freetheself

There are no refunds for subscriptions.

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I’M REALLY BAD WITH TECHNOLOGY AND COMPUTERS.  WILL THAT GET IN THE WAY?

All my courses are designed to be accessed through email.  If you’re comfortable with using email, you can do the courses.

All live classes are through the ZOOM app.  Links to the ZOOM classrooms are in all class emails and titled “Link to Classroom”.  Click the link and you’ll be entered into the classroom.

If you have difficulties, reach out to support here: support@freetheself.com and we’ll help you get it working.

The only issue we do not troubleshoot is email delivery.  We recommend having a GMAIL, HOTMAIL, MSN, YAHOO account for the class emails.  Other email services may block or move to spam course emails.

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I’M IN THERAPY. WILL THIS INTERFERE?

All my courses are built on cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and somatic therapies.  This means it will likely be compatible with your therapy and enhance what you’re learning there.

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