The trap of “becoming a better person”
“Gotta be a better person…” No. Not for me, at least. I grew up under the concept that I was inherently sinful, bad, wrong, and
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Self-trust Is The Opposite of Codependency
In codependency, trust others as the authority over you (and distrust your own authority). They define what you should be feeling, thinking, doing, and being.
The 5 Truths
I thought I’d never heal from my need for codependency. After all, it was how I loved others. It was how I felt loved, seen,
A Paradox With Feeling Safe
There’s a paradox about nurturing safety… Safety is not the lack of intense emotion, or of feeling anxiety, unsure, or even insecure. These are emotions
Learned Helplessness: What It Is, How It Was Created, & What To Do
A thought on learned helplessness: Learned helplessness is an internalized conclusion of being unable to affect or change one’s conditions or circumstances forever. This conclusion
The One Assumption That Keeps You Fixing Them
Do you try to fix other people’s feelings or problems for them? Do you find yourself fixated on helping them? Do you feel anxiety about
Trauma and Codependency
Trauma and codependency… Go hand-in-glove. Codependency is the coping mechanism you created in order to survive the trauma of being love shamed and love deprived.