Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging
Note: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one’s own behaviors. Please check in with your
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Empathizing With Their Pain While Denying Your Pain…
A thought on creating sanity for yourself: Once I stopped empathizing with the trauma I assumed was behind their abusive behaviors and making up stories
Self-trust Is The Opposite of Codependency
In codependency, trust others as the authority over you (and distrust your own authority). They define what you should be feeling, thinking, doing, and being.
Self-Trust & Natural Completeness
The idea that one’s value is fully determined by their utility (aka productivity or how much they please another) is the root of one’s sense
Confronting The Codependent Fantasy
“What is real?” This is a question that frequently shakes me when clients and students ask it to me.The asking of it reveals the deep
The 5 Truths
I thought I’d never heal from my need for codependency. After all, it was how I loved others. It was how I felt loved, seen,
4 Gems For Your Journey
Talking with a few clients today brought out some deep gems I want to share with you: 1) Codependency often focuses on us tailoring our
Learned Helplessness: What It Is, How It Was Created, & What To Do
A thought on learned helplessness: Learned helplessness is an internalized conclusion of being unable to affect or change one’s conditions or circumstances forever. This conclusion
The One Assumption That Keeps You Fixing Them
Do you try to fix other people’s feelings or problems for them? Do you find yourself fixated on helping them? Do you feel anxiety about
Coping: It Is Keeping You Stuck
Coping. We’ve been trained to tolerate, put up with, and live with mediocre experiences, relationships, energy, health, wealth and living. Mediocrity, as defined by me