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Codependency, People-pleasing, and Perfectionism Is How You Survived.
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Marshall Burtcher – Your Guide Back To Knowing, Loving, and Being Who You Are
Are You A Codependent Who's Been Seeking:
- Peace after abuse and neglect?
- Actual reduction and calming of shame, guilt, or emotional pain in your life?
- Trust in yourself again?
- Trust in life again?
- Friendships and love again in life?
- To like and love themselves more?
- To feel confident in who you are?
- To have the confidence to pursue your desires?
- To love again?
Do You Keep Encountering:
- A sense of no progress (two steps forward, one step back) in your healing efforts?
- Confusion about who you are, what you want, and what you feel?
- The same outcomes and mistakes in relationships and friendships?
- Pain that doesn’t seem to change or leave?
- Shame and guilt that dominates your choices with people?
- Tools, practices, and therapies that are not making any difference?
- Discouragement and a feeling you’re never going to be happy or have a normal life?
- A growing sense that maybe it is YOU that is the problem?
I felt the same way. I believed I was doomed to suffer, be alone, and live with the crippling loneliness, emptiness, and sadness I’d lived with since I was young.
I was wrong. Very wrong. Here’s why:
I learned after a lot of trial and error there were four things missing from my healing efforts:
- I didn’t have the right knowledge at the right time in my journey
- I didn’t have the right tools for where I was in my healing journey
- I had the wrong kind of support for what I was facing
- And it was all in the wrong order
Hi, I'm Marshall Burtcher and I was codependent.
This started with having accurate knowledge about what was actually happening versus what others claimed was happening.
What most people are taught when it comes to codependency:
- It is a disease you have to cope with
- It is an addiction you have to cope with
- It is part of who you are (like an identity)
- It is permanent
Does this sound familiar?
If so, you’re not alone. I believed this was the truth for DECADES.
Then, out of desperation, and a bit of rebellion, I dared to question those claims.
I asked…
“What if codependency was my strategy for surviving the chaos of abuse and neglect?
they were feeling and thinking what they were feeling and thinking, clarity came.
From clarity came hope.
From that hope came real change.
You Need To Nurture 3 Specific Necessities To End Your Dependency on People-pleasing, Perfectionism, and Codependency.
I want to help you experience real, lasting relief from your codependency so you can experience friendships, relationships, success, and peace in your life.
To make this real in your daily life, you need to know how to increase three specific necessities without giving yourself up in the process:
- Necessity One: Your Sense Of Safety Being Yourself And Connecting With Others
- Necessity Two: Your Sense of Connection With Yourself, Others, and Life
- Necessity Three: Your Sense Of Innate Worth
I’ve developed a specific strategy from my own lived experience with codependency (from narcissistic abuse & parental neglect) that has helped over 700+ recovering codependents achieve this while navigating their daily lives with more peace, confidence, and clarity.
I Helped Them Achieve This Through...
Students experience long-term increases in friendships, loving relationships, self-worth, emotional peace, and self-confidence – all because they had the right tools, the right support, and the right knowledge in the right order.
They followed a specific set of trainings that led them through increasing their felt-sense of safety in their daily lives, building real connection with themselves and others, and nurturing resilient, deep self-worth so they know who they are.
This approach targets core areas of one’s life and persona that were attacked and harmed through the abuse and neglect they experienced, including:
- Their experience of what is real
- Their emotional validity
- Their senses and personal awareness
- Their gut and intuition
- Their sense of personal power and legitimacy
- Their limits and boundaries
- Their personhood and sense of identity
- Their self-worth and value
The codependent impulses of people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, controlling outcomes, being a perfectionist, feeling on edge and “walking on eggshells” are transformed into peace, confidence, clarity, and love of Self.
All through having the right knowledge, the right tools, the right support, in the right order.
Because, when you don't know how to nurture your needs, confidently be who you are, or build loving relationships...
You lapse back into people-pleasing
You seek out the old pattern of toxic relationships
Repeat old wounds and traumas
Condemn yourself and lose faith in yourself
Turn away healthy friendships and relationship opportunities
Suffer in isolation and loneliness
I struggled for decades with feeling safe and confident in myself, even after years of trauma therapy and deep work on my codependent impulses…
Join the 700+ students who have experienced my trainings and experience for yourself more freedom, peace, and care.
Come Join Us On This Adventure
And Let Your Time, Effort, And Investment Combine With My Knowledge, Practices, Support, And Structure To Create The Peace, Healing, And Freedom You Are Seeking
Here Are The 4 Outcomes I Will Be Helping You Achieve:
OUTCOME ONE: FEEL SIGNIFICANTLY SAFER BEING YOURSELF AND CONNECTING WITH OTHERS
The nausea, the pounding heart, the sense of panic and distress, the gutting sensation – these are all results of what I call “attachment distress”.
This distress results from having your sense of connection and access to the other person threatened or actually severed.
This leaves you feeling shattered, lost, emptied, and frozen.
I guide you through warming, thawing, and then healing this distress using specific practices, including:
- Somatic grounding practices
- Building emotional space and capacity to feel
- Bringing legitimacy to your experiences and feelings
- Regulating and comforting your distress and pain at losing them or feeling separated from them
- Restoring trust in your lived experience
- Help you pop the codependent fantasies and connect with reality
- Take back and occupy your Personhood
This liberates you from the grip of the trauma bond and the core codependency survival response called “Freeze-Fawn”.
OUTCOME TWO: REDUCTION IN PAIN AND INCREASE IN PEACE
Emotional pain, attachment distress, anxiety, rumination – all of these keep us in a state of feeling powerless, fearful, and codependent.
You will learn how to soothe these pains and begin reducing their intensity, duration, and frequency they show up using somatic practices, support calls that care, and the C.I.C. framework.
OUTCOME THREE: MASSIVE INCREASES IN LOVE FOR YOURSELF AND BEING YOURSELF
Codependency emerges when we don’t have a solid sense of real Self.
This step helps you discover who you are through understanding your:
- Innate Value as a person and a being
- True Voice as a person and an authority in your life
- Genuine Vision of who you are and what you desire in your world
I help you achieve this through very specific practices, including:
- The Innate Value Retrieval Practice
- The Innate Value Activation Practice
- The Innate Value Rooting Practice
- Tuning In Your Voice Practices
- The Lensing Practice
- The Presence With You Practice
- Intuition Listening Practice
This is how you come to know, love, and live who you really are.
OUTCOME FOUR: INCREASE CONNECTION AND BUILD FRIENDSHIPS AND BELONGING IN YOUR LIFE
This is where you graduate from codependency and build interdependency in healthy, compatible, happy relationships of any kind (friendship, romantic, and so forth).
I help you achieve this by teaching you how to:
- How to detect and build on organic compatibility using my WHAT-HOW-WHO Model of relating
- Build relationships on consent and privilege, eliminating the toxic habit of entitlement and obligation
- Navigate building secure attachment and bonding through recognition, reassurance, and safe conflict and communication
- Build conflict habits that create understanding, intimacy and outcomes that serve all involved
- Build communication habits that create comprehension, clarity, and care
This is how you come to experience relationships where you feel seen, loved, and valued.
THESE OUTCOMES ARE CREATED THROUGH THE FIVE FOCUSES I TEACH IN THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM:
Focus One: Restoring Your Emotional Safety
We cannot heal when we do not feel safe. Nurture emotional and relational safety through learning skills and practices that heal and nurture emotional pain, mental panic, and build meaningful connections and resources helps the mind and body start to feel safe enough to heal, grow, and evolve.
Here’s the outline for this Focus:
- Module One: Codependency Origins
- Module Two: Building Inward Awareness
- Module Three: Capacity-directed Healing
- Module Four: Navigating Mind, Emotion, and Uncertainty
- Module Five: Innate Legitimacy
- Module Six: Your Attachment System & Core Needs
- Module Seven: Unwinding Shame & Guilt
- Module Eight: Safe-enoughness
- Module Nine: Rest and Boundaries 101
- Module Ten: Safe People & Resourcing
Focus Two: Restoring Sanity & Reality
Knowing what is real is crucial to being able to direct yourself, establish and follow through on boundaries, know what you want and don’t, and be able to execute your personal power for your well-being.
Further, healing the trauma bond and ending the habit of chasing fantasies empowers you to find real, healthy love and friendships in your life.
Here’s the outline for this Focus:
- Module One: Anatomy Of Fawning
- Module Two: Fantasy Deconstruction
- Module Three: Reality Construction
- Module Four: Sobriety – Part One: Ending Denial & Anger Processing
- Module Five: Sobriety – Part Two: Walking With Grief & Relapse
Focus Three: Take Back Your Power & Sovereignty
Learned helplessness, trying to control others, and feeling powerless show how you’ve never been shown and allowed to harness and enjoy your personal power.
This focus leads you into your personal power and sovereignty, helping you recognize it, use it, and enjoy it.
Here’s the outline for this Focus:
- Module One: Anatomy Of Sovereignty
- Module Two: Creating Congruence & Personal Power
- Module Three: Natural Completeness
Focus Four: Know, Love, and Be Yourself Through Your Indomitable Worth
You’ve learned to believe your worth is conditional and depends on how others feel about you. You’ve learned to believe worth is created, earned, and changeable.
This is why shame, guilt, and rejection have so much power.
This focus guides you in discovering, for yourself, that your worth is independent and free of all conditions.
This sets your true self free and you begin to know, love, and be who you really are through that your real, indomitable worth.
Here’s the outline for this Focus:
- Module One: Value Identity
- Module Two: Hearing Your Voice
- Module Three: Real Worth
- Module Four: Differentiating Yourself
- Module Five: Liberating Your Worth From Meaning
- Module Six: Self-sense
- Module Seven: Identify With Real Worth
- Module Eight: Embody & Express Who You Really Are
Focus Five: Master Healthy Relating
Relationships, communication, attachment, and conflict are scary, complex experiences for relational trauma survivors like codependents.
This focus gives you a framework to use in building healthy, safe relationships, navigating conflict and attachment pain, and creating communication that works.
Here’s the outline for this Focus:
- Module One: Foundation Of Healthy Relating
- Module Two: Operational Trust
- Module Three: Consent & Privilege
- Module Four: Value Systems
- Module Five: Use Of Power In Relationships
- Module Six: Building Secure Attachment
- Module Seven: Creating Real Communication
- Module Eight: Navigating Conflict Into Intimacy
- Module Nine: Removing Possessiveness, Implementing Real Connection
- Module Ten: Biography & Relating Map
WE HEAL TOGETHER THROUGH THE SEVEN CORNERSTONES OF BADASS SUPPORT
Support Cornerstone One: Live Guidance & Involvement Of Marshall Burtcher
Support Cornerstone Two: Twice-a-Week Live Support Calls
Support Cornerstone Three: Twice-a-Month Directed Emotion Processing Sessions to help reduce pain and increase peace
Support Cornerstone Four: Twice-a-Month Specialized Focus Trainings to help deepen your mastery of living free of codependency
Support Cornerstone Five: Twice-a-Month Facilitation Practices to help you make the tools and practices real in your life
Support Cornerstone Six: Go-At-Your-Own-Pace Design
Support Cornerstone Seven: A Living Community That Supports You, Celebrates You, and Witnesses You
Let’s look at each of these pillars below.
CORNERSTONE ONE: LIVE TRAININGS WITH MARSHALL
Marshall Burtcher's Personal Involvement
This work isn’t you just watching a video and doing a practice.
This work is *living*.
I am personally involved in the Communities, teach the live trainings, and run the support calls. You will get to ask questions, practice tools, and get support from me personally as you grow and heal.
Put another way, you are not doing this work alone anymore.
CORNERSTONE TWO: TWICE-A-WEEK LIVE SUPPORT CALLS
THE TWICE-A-WEEK LIVE SUPPORT CALLS
Now you can call in and get real-time support from Marshall and other students as you do the work.
Every Tuesday and Thursday, you are invited to attend live support calls.
There are two types of calls:
- Homework Support: Get questions about homework answered, do the homework together, and practice tools and concepts with Marshall and other students
- Live Mentoring: Bring your daily life challenges, celebrations, and discoveries and share them here. You will get support from Marshall and other students
Yes, you get support both in the homework and with your daily life.
The current call schedule is:
- Homework Support: Tuesdays 5pm and 10am Mountain Time via ZOOM
- Live Mentoring: Tuesdays 6pm and Thursdays 11am Mountain Time via ZOOM
CORNERSTONE THREE: LIVE PRACTICE SESSIONS FOR MASTERING TOOLS AND CONCEPTS
THE PRACTICE SESSIONS
No longer do you need to wonder if you’re doing a practice correctly, or have to do it alone. You can do this together live with other students and Marshall. We master the tools and practices you’re learning together.
The Practice Sessions focus on a particular tool or practice you’re mastering and we do it together. These are recorded and added to the library to support your further mastery.
These sessions take place on Sundays at 7pm Mountain Time twice a month via ZOOM.
CORNERSTONE FOUR: STUDENT-INSPIRED SPECIALIZED TRAININGS
THE SPECIALIZED FOCUS GROUP TRAININGS
Take your healing and mastering deeper with these custom trainings designed to help advance your freedom, peace, and power in your personal life.
The Specialized Focus Trainings are developed in response to the needs students express and innovative trainings Marshall develops to help you thrive.
Classes include topics like:
- Healing the fawn response
- Healing the trauma bonds
- Communication that works
- Resolving Conflict
- Playing in daily life
- Building Friendships
- Money
These classes are offered on Mondays at 7pm Mountain Time through the month (usually 2 times a month) via ZOOM.
Trainings are recorded.
CORNERSTONE FIVE: EMOTION AND PAIN PROCESSING
DIRECTED EMOTION PROCESSING GROUP SESSIONS
Knowledge is not enough to embody and your deep, healthy self. Nor are practices and tools.
You need a process that helps you integrate and bring to rest the deep pain and hurts that drive your people-pleasing, perfectionism, insecurity, shame, and guilt.
The Directed Emotion Processing Sessions gently guide you through connecting with your inner reality, caring for the pain there, and emerging with more peace.
These sessions take place on Sundays at 7pm, often twice a month (schedule varies based on need and other requirements) via ZOOM.
Sessions are recorded.
CORNERSTONE SIX: GO-AT-YOUR-OWN-PACE DESIGN
GO AT YOUR OWN PACE
Often pressure to get things done, do things in a specific time frame, or an impulse to please the teacher interferes with organic healing, causing frustration, burnout, fear, shame, and withdraw.
My trainings and practices are designed to accommodate YOU, not you accommodate them. You can go as slow you need or go at the pace set with the live classes.
This allows you the time and flexibility to do the work and live life, too. It also helps you begin trusting your own capacity and body’s wisdom.
CORNERSTONE SEVEN: COMMUNITY SUPPORT & CELEBRATION
LIVING COMMUNITY
Discover friendships, support, and play in the Communities.
Communities are where you and others can connect over mutual interests, challenges, as well as get support for the specific work you’re doing in a particular course.
Communities include:
- Course-specific Communities
- Topic or Interest Communities*
- Support Specific Communities (such as ADHD, Aging, Neurodiversity, Race, etc)*
- User-created-and-operated Communities (such as knitting, puzzles, etc)*
Connect with and build friendship with fellow students.
* Currently in development and may not be immediately available
THE GUIDING PRINCIPLES & RULES THAT GOVERN ALL CLASSES AND COMMUNITIES
GUIDING PRINCIPLES:
- Inclusivity: We are an inclusive community, supporting the LGBTQIA community, Transgendered individuals, neurodivergent individuals (Autism, ADHD, etc), and minorities. Respect the pronouns of those that specify their pronouns
- Kindness: Speak kindly and directly with others. No shaming, gossiping, or putting down others
- Positive Intent: Assume positive intent on the part of others, as the majority of persons do not have ill intent in their actions, even if it is a painful impact
- Boundaries: Stay in your lane and do not try to fix or coach others
RULES:
Generally, these rules are here as a means of creating structure and clarity about expectations. It is rare that there is a conflict in these areas.
- Political, religious, and spiritual discussion is not allowed unless it is in a spiritual, political, or religious group. These types of groups are currently not available in the Communities
- Bigotry will not be tolerated
- Racism will not be tolerated
- Harassment of any type (sexual, religious, racial, etc) will not be tolerated
- Emotional, verbal, or online harassment, abuse, or intimidation will not be tolerated
- Proselyting or preaching will not be tolerated
- Communication and other rules are outlined here: Community Rules
- Resolve conflicts, disagreements, or misunderstandings between each other with care. Do not involve Marshall or his staff in personal conflicts with other students.
THE 2023-2024 TRAINING SEASON STARTS AUGUST 14, 2023.
HERE ARE THE DETAILS:
CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM LIVE CLASS INFO:
- Course: The Codependency Healing System
- Live Class Start Date: Monday, August 14, 2023 at 11am Mountain Time
- Class Time: Mondays at 11am Mountain Time
- Class Ends: May 20, 2024
- THIS IS 10 MONTH JOURNEY
- Length: 35 live trainings, 10+ pre-recorded bonus trainings
- Time Investment In Your Healing: 1-2 per module; homework 20-60 minutes per week
- Recorded Classes Available 24/7
- Live Sessions Taught via ZOOM
- Attendance of any of the live trainings is not necessary for your success; watch the course trainings and do the practices to see results
THE COURSE FEATURES:
- Video and audio versions of the trainings
- Printable PDF homework guides and class slides
- Follow-along MP3 and video versions of tools and practices that guide your healing and growth
- Online access via PC or Smartphone via Chrome browser for login
YOUR TIME INVESTMENT IN YOUR HEALING:
- Class averages 2 hours in length
- Trainings come with printable PDF version of the slides for note-taking
- Homework is 20-60 minutes a week on average
- It is always go-at-your-own-pace
- 35 core trainings, 10+ pre-recorded bonus trainings
- Attendance of any of the live trainings is not necessary for your success; watch the course trainings and do the practices to see results
AT THE END OF THE SEASON, YOU'll BE ABLE TO:
- Soothe your anxieties and fears
- Increase your sense of peace gently, easily
- Access and feel your real worth at anytime
- Identify healthy and unhealthy people very quickly
- Identify trustworthy persons
- Soothe pain and distress and reduce it significantly over time
- Speak directly, clearly, and kindly without massive anxiety or fear
- Identify and reduce your shame and guilt
- Identify and neutralize your fawning habits
- Feel safer staying out of fixing other people’s feelings and problems
- Be able to hear your voice, your wants, your needs, your boundaries and follow-though on them
- Increase your self-trust
- Identify and use your personal power for your well-being
- Increase safe, secure connection with others and reduce attachment anxiety or avoidance
- Discover community, build friendships, and cultivate love
- Handle rejection without shaming yourself
- Care for hurts and fears in ways that soothe and nurture yourself
- Identify your needs and nurture them
- Know your boundaries and follow-through on them
AND, ULTIMATELY, LIVE YOUR LIFE FEELING SECURE, EMPOWERED, AND EXCITED ABOUT IT.
IS THIS A GOOD FIT FOR YOU?
This Is Designed For Individuals That:
- Identify with being a people-pleaser and seek love through approval
- That struggle with trusting their own perceptions of reality
- That doubt their feelings and senses
- That wonder what is real
- That feel unreal or invisible
- Struggle to create healthy relationships, trust, and connection
- That are seeking to have relationships and friendships that are satisfying
- That are seeking more purpose and prosperity in their life
- That want to be themselves without fear, guilt, or shame
- That want themselves back
There Are Pre-requesites To Join:
- Must be in therapy, seeking a trauma therapist, or be willing to if recommended by Marshall
- Must be in or seeking a support community online and in real life
- Willing to do the work and take it at their own pace
- Understand there is no quick-fix or instant healing; it takes persistence and curiosity instead
- Understand that Marshall is not a therapist; he’s a trauma-informed coach and mentor
- Agree to 100% responsibility for the actions and choices you take in this course
TO JOIN, YOU MUST HAVE A MEMBERSHIP.
CHOOSE THE ONE THAT WORKS BEST FOR YOU BELOW:
ENROLLMENT OPENS JULY 29, 2023
Heal Your Codependency While Creating Real Peace, Love, And Joy In Your Daily Life
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LIFETIME ACCESS MEMBERSHIP: $1250 (Normally $1500)
Get unlimited, lifetime access to all the trainings, live support calls, and updates. This includes:
- The Codependency Healing System live trainings and recordings ($4000 value)
- The Actually Heal Trainings, live and recorded versions ($497 value)
- The Practice Sessions ($497 value)
- The Directed Emotional Processing Sessions ($497 value)
- The Specialized Focus Trainings ($997 value)
- The Support Calls ($7,000 value)
- All updates and future trainings about codependency and healing ($6000 value)
Exclusive to the Lifetime Access Membership, you get:
- The Indomitable Worth System ($997 value)
- The Self-Trust Course ($997 value)
- The Breakthrough Sessions ($97 ea) – when taught (6 times a year)
YEARLY ACCESS MEMBERSHIP: $797 (normally $997)
Get 12 months of access to all the trainings, live support calls, and updates. This includes:
- The Codependency Healing System live trainings and recordings ($4000 value)
- The Actually Heal Trainings, live and recorded versions ($497 value)
- The Practice Sessions ($497 value)
- The Directed Emotional Processing Sessions ($497 value)
- The Specialized Focus Trainings ($997 value)
- The Support Calls ($7,000 value)
Exclusive to the Yearly Access Membership, you get:
- The Self-Trust Course ($997 value)
- 60-day Upgrade Period where the $997 fully applied to the upgrade cost
MONTHLY ACCESS MEMBERSHIP: $75/mo (normally $125/mo)
Get monthly access to all the trainings, live support calls, and updates. This includes:
- The Codependency Healing System live trainings and recordings ($4000 value)
- The Actually Heal Trainings, live and recorded versions ($497 value)
- The Practice Sessions ($497 value)
- The Directed Emotional Processing Sessions ($497 value)
- The Specialized Focus Trainings ($997 value)
- The Support Calls ($7,000 value)
Note: Do not enroll if you cannot afford it for at least 10 months. If you cancel, you will not be able to rejoin till next year.
ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
Is Live Attendance In The Codependency Healing System Included?
Will This Interfere With Therapy?
The trainings and practices in the Heal Your Codependency Membership are designed with personal therapy in mind. It is built around the principles that the student leads their therapy.
The courses involve tools that are oriented to the somatic, or felt-sense part of reality and experience, and included cognitive reframing practices using questions, exploration, and experience.
Will I Be Required To Complete Everything In A Specific Amount Of Time (or, Is it REALLY Go At Your Own Pace?)
All trainings and courses are go-at-your-own-pace.
Is There A Refund Or Guarantee Period?
Refunds are available for 14 days for only the Lifetime Access Membership and Yearly/Annual Membership.
Refunds are issued within 14 days of enrollment. Beyond that, all sales are final.
There are no guarantees, as results are dependent on you doing the work. However, we commit to helping you identify additional resources if needed for your success with this work. This may include referrals to therapists or specialists. Costs for these services are not included in your enrollment. You will be required to pay for those.
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WHO IS MARSHALL?
I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING TO BE THEMSELVES.