Saying no in healthy relationships is safe and will, eventually, feel safe. Being told no in healthy relationships is safe and will, eventually, feel safe.
You see, it is not the no that is a threat. It is the behavior that comes with either communicating or receiving the no.People’s unsafe behaviors make relationships dangerous. Not boundaries. Not difference. Not disagreement.
If saying no or being told no results in unhealthy, scary behaviors, the boundary was not the problem. The unhealthy behaviors are – and always will be.