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Ready To Feel Warmth, Connection And Belonging Instead Of The Emptiness, Loneliness and Sense Of Being On The "Outside"? (hint: It doesn't involve you changing yourself)

If you want to know how feel the warmth of connection and feeling seen, known, and cared for by yourself and others, I can help.

Marshall Burtcher

Expert In Transforming Codependency Into A Satisfying Life

HAVE YOU BEEN...

HAVE YOU BEEN...

  • Struggling with a loneliness you cannot seem to fix?
  • Walking with an emptiness you struggle to fill?
  • Feeling like you’re on the “outside” and looking in on life?
  • Trying to find peace with the ache within you?
  • Feeling lost as to what you need and how to get those needs met?

THIS IS NEGLECT TALKING

THIS IS NEGLECT TALKING

Neglect is what didn’t happen that should have.  It is the invisible trauma we don’t know is there until we encounter experiences that show us what we didn’t get, yet so deeply needed.

You can quickly assess if you’ve been neglected. Ask yourself these questions:

Do you feel a sense of feeling seen, valued, or known by another?

Do you have a sense of being “real” and having importance in other people’s lives?

Do you believe others think about you during their day in warm, loving ways?

Do you have a strong sense of your emotions and what they’re telling you?

Are you able to identify what you are in need of and ask for it?

Was there frequent play and rest in your childhood?

Or…

Were you shamed for having needs, wants, and feelings?

Were you told to “grow up” when you were in pain?

Were you told to “figure it out” when you had problems?

Did you feel alone, isolated, and not included by others?

Did you crave attention, to be seen and heard?

Do you feel numb and lost when you’re asked, “do you know who you are?”

Do you find yourself trying to be independent and not need anyone else?

Do you find yourself craving others and hoping they’ll take care of you?

If you relate to the second set of questions – you were neglected.

You were not given consistent, reliable nurture emotionally, mentally, and relationally.

This leads you to feeling numb, burned out, overwhelmed by emotions, craving others and their attention, affection, and love. You struggle to identify your needs and feel safe asking for them and being seen, valued, and loved.

This is the impact of neglect.

I’ve helped hundreds of survivors reclaim their belonging, connection, and learn to nurture their needs, soothing the emptiness and loneliness they walk with.

How did they do this?

THEY DID THIS WITH...

THEY DID THIS WITH...​

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A PROVEN PROCESS  TO FOLLOW: Neglect requires experience and somatic (felt-sense) experience to heal. You need a step-by-step process that helps you reconnect with yr needs and begin nurturing them within yourself and within healthy, safe connection with others.

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THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE: Survivors of narcissistic abuse and codependency comes from a different world than those who haven’t been through that hell.

This means you need the correct knowledge at the right time to make the correct changes and choices that result in lasting healing for yourself.

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THE TOOLS & PRACTICES THAT ADDRESS THE CORE CAUSES:  Survivors that heal need the right practices that help them develop a healthy relationship with themselves and helps them tap into their value as a human being, rather than an object.

Survivors learn how to calm their pain and distress, tap into their core worth, and build warmth and connection with themselves and others.

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THE CORRECT EXPERIENCE & TIMING:  Understanding your experiences helps you make wiser choices.  To have that right understanding, you need to have the correct experiences in the correct time.  Survivors build confidence and clarity fast when they know how to respond to the milestones in relationships as well as how to walk the path to those milestones.

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ON-GOING RELIABLE RESOURCES & REINFORCEMENT: Most survivors I’ve worked with needed consistent access to support, feedback, cheer-leading, and celebration as they ventured into the world and experienced life.  Knowing someone has your back makes adventure and risk so much safer. 

FROM THE MOUTH OF STUDENTS...

FROM THE MOUTH OF STUDENTS...

IF YOU STRUGGLE WITH A PERSISTENT SENSE OF LONELINESS, EMPTINESS AND BEING ON THE "OUTSIDE", I CAN HELP

IF YOU STRUGGLE WITH A PERSISTENT SENSE OF LONELINESS, EMPTINESS AND BEING ON THE "OUTSIDE", I CAN HELP

I’ve found most survivors are drowning in a sea of information that leaves them confused, frustrated, lost, and ultimately failing to succeed in their healing.  They lack structure, support, and direction.   This cycle of disappointment and failure ends when they have the right structure, support, and knowledge.  
 
Survivors begin to heal, find peace, and find sanity again when they have the practices, support, and tools that are tailored for their unique journey.
 
I help them achieve this through NURTURE™.

INTRODUCING NURTURE™

INTRODUCING NURTURE™

NURTURE™ is built specifically for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists struggling to feel connected to themselves and others, like they are real, and nourished emotionally.  They wrestle with deep loneliness, emptiness, and a sense of being on the “outside”.

Through specialized practices, NURTURE™ helps them connect again with their core belonging and begin healing the emptiness and disconnection that they’ve lived with for so long.

NURTURE™ has one objective: Help You Enjoy A Sense Of Warmth And Connection To Yourself And Others

Hi, I’m Marshall. And My Loneliness & Emptiness Nearly Killed Me

I grew up in a family system and culture that demanded independent living, low emotional sharing, and high levels of being “self-reliant” in everything.
 
I can count the amount of times on one hand adults took time to recognize my feelings and inquire into my experience as a child.  This is severe neglect!
 
This produced deep feelings of loneliness, isolation, emptiness, and feeling “outside” of the group.
 
I struggled for decades to recognize, feel, and enjoy the warmth of mutual connection with others and often drowned in a deep internal loneliness and emptiness that therapy and self-help failed to fill.
 
Then I discovered how to create real connection that fostered that deep warmth within myself, a sense of belonging with others, and a fullness where the emptiness was.

You See, Loneliness & Emptiness Are Not The Problem.  They’re The Symptom

We are born with ten specific core needs that have to be actively nurtured by caregivers when we’re in childhood to produce an abiding sense of belonging, inclusion, and emotional nourishment.

When these are chronically neglected, we develop loneliness, emptiness, numbness, a strong sense of “independence” and needlessness to cope.

To build and enjoy real connection with yourself and with others, you must come to know these ten core needs and how to nurture them.  This heals the loneliness, emptiness, and sense of “not belonging” that dominates your emotional relationships.
 
This is what I help you do in my 10-week course, NURTURE.

NURTURE ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

NURTURE ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

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STEP ONE: SOOTHE THE LONELINESS

Loneliness becomes the background noise of one’s life when we’re chronically neglected and ignored.  This becomes deeply painful, creating a sense of being “outside” of the group and not being able to recognize connection and belonging.

You will learn how to identify, connect to, and soothe this loneliness in a way that produces a sense of warmth and belonging within yourself.  You no longer will be dominated by your loneliness.

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STEP TWO: KNOW & FILL THE EMPTINESS

Neglect leaves us walking with a massive deficit emotionally and relationally, creating a lingering, persistent sense of emptiness within ourselves.  We know something is missing, but we’re not sure what it is or what to do about it.

You will learn how to know this emptiness and discover what is *actually* in that emptiness that you need to know, nurture, and integrate into your life.

Your emptiness heals as you come to know it.

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STEP THREE: BUILD WARM BELONGNG

Nurturing our needs requires structure, routine, and practice.  The Nurture Process™ helps students:

  • Self-nurture through inward practices that connect them to internal resources for comfort, care, and nourishment
  • Develop interpersonal nurture by identifying healthy, safe people who respond to their needs in the way those needs work
  • Build reliable resources within themselves and within their social network so they can sustain their well-being and nurture

 

This is where students experience re-connection, care, and belonging again in their lives.

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

Real People.

Healing Their Trauma.

Living Their Happiness.

From Love Addiction & Deep Shame to Freedom and Play

From Fear to Loving His Relationship, Life and Career

From Confusion and Lost to Direction and Clarity

THIS RESULTS IN YOUR ABILITY TO...

THIS RESULTS IN YOUR ABILITY TO...

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IDENTIFY AND CONNECT WITH YOUR WARMTH AND BELONGING WHEN YOU FEEL LONELY

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CONNECT WITH OTHERS IN MEANINGFUL WAYS

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TRUST IN YOUR WORTH

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SOOTHE EMPTINESS AND LONELINESS AND PROMOTE WARMTH AND CARE TOWARDS YOURSELF

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BUILD CAPACITY & BOUNDARIES

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CREATE LASTING FRIENDSHIPS THAT NOURISH, SUPPORT, AND EMPOWER YOU, YOUR LIFE, AND YOUR WELL-BEING

AND ENJOY A SENSE OF BELONGING

COURSE INFORMATION

COURSE INFORMATION

The Course Details

    • Course Length: 10 Modules (10 weeks total instruction)
    • Each module includes a 1.5 hour training & weekly practices for homework
    • Weekly practices take around 20 minutes on average a day
    • Classes are provided in video and audio (mp3) format
    • Includes access to over 20+ hours of training, comprehensive PDF guides for the practices, and 20+ MP3 tools, including guided meditations, release tools, and more

The Course Modules

The curriculum is broken down into sections.  Each builds on the one previous to it creating lasting results.

CORE TRAININGS

Module One:
Topic: Neglect, Belonging, & Attachment

Module Two:
Topic: Building Attunement to Self

Module Three:
Topic: Capacity & Needs

Module Four:
Topic: Intranurture Part One: Emotional Connection

Module Five:
Topic: Intranurture Part Two: Autonomous Worth

Module Six:
Topic: Intranurture Part Three: Building Warmth With Self

Module Seven:
Topic: Intranurture Part Four: Inquiry & Internal Nurture

Module Eight:
Topic: Internurture Part One: Safe People, Resources, & Community Building

Module Nine:
Topic: Internurture Part Two: Receiving

Module Ten:
Topic: Internurture Part Three: Contributing & Boundaries

 

INCLUDES ONLINE GROUP SUPPORT FOR LIFE...

INCLUDES ONLINE GROUP SUPPORT FOR LIFE...

LIVE & ON-LINE COMMUNITY (Priceless)

THE COMMUNITY HAS YOUR BACK

Taking the leap on your own healing is scary.  I know it was for me.  What made the difference is a warm, supportive community that I could turn to with my questions, my needs for understanding and support, and guidance.

I provide you with this support through:

  • Email support from my staff and I (usually a 48-hour turn around)
  • Access to the private and secure Community™ of 2500+ survivors making their way through the same journey as yourself
  • Twice-a-week live group support to give you the personal touch you deserve and need in your journey

AND POWERFUL SUPPORT COURSES...

AND POWERFUL SUPPORT COURSES...

REGULATE AND CALM YOUR ANXIETY AND DISTRESS ($297 value)

The chaos, crazy-making, and roller-coaster of emotions and intensity is why you feel anxiety.  The BE CALM System empowers you with tools that calm your mind and body quickly.  They help you have power and have a say in what you feel

These tools are built on Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing trainings.  You will feel more calm and grounded.

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THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING TOOLS LIBRARY ($197 value)

This library of over 40+ tools and meditations will assist you in deepening your peace, freedom, and well-being post-codependency.

ALL COURSES ARE...

ALL COURSES ARE...

FULLY DIGITAL

WATCH & LISTEN FROM ANYWHERE YOU HAVE INTERNET ACCESS

My courses are designed to be used from the smart phone and the desktop computer or laptop. 

This means:

  • You can log in via web browser and resume or start your course at any time
  • Listen to the course via MP3 edition or watch the video
  • Print nothing; the PDF’s are a guide; use a notebook or digital document to track your results
  • Do the practices from the convenience and privacy of your smart phone. Most practices take about 20 minutes 3-to-5 times a week.

DESIGNED FOR EFFECTIVENESS

THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE & TOOLS YOU NEED

Each course is broken down into a series of small trainings.  These trainings build on each other (think legos).  As you advance through each training, you place another block in your healing, freedom, and peace. 

You will exit each training and each course with a new skill-set and the understanding of how to apply it to your life.

DESIGNED TO GO AT YOUR PACE

THERE'S NO RUSH!

My courses are self-paced regardless of they’re the live edition or the recorded edition.   They’re designed to adapt to your lifestyle and needs.  This is achieved with my Building-block™ course design (means they work like following a recipe).

This means:

  • You can stop at any point and focus on that step till you’re ready to move to the next step and STILL SUCCEED
  • There’s no time pressure or expectation.  Most students take their time and have wild results despite going slowly
  • Real results happen because of the PROCESS, not the knowledge or understanding you gain.  Do the processes, get the results!

GOT A QUESTION?

GOT A QUESTION?

Get An Answer

CONFIDENCE IN YOUR CHOICE IS WHAT MATTERS FIRST

Get answers to your questions by submitting your question to me and I’ll get back to you within 48 hours. 

Just click below and fill out the question form.

YOU EXIT THE COURSE WITH:

YOU EXIT THE COURSE WITH:

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KNOWING YOUR NEEDS ARE REAL AND LEGITIMATE: You’ll know how to identify and fulfill your core needs and who you can rely on them for that.

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GREATER PEACE: You’ll know how to calm your mind, your body, and your pain using tools designed specifically for your journey.  You’ll feel more empowered in being able to care for yourself and feel more safe and at peace.

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REAL SAFETY: You’ll know what safety feels like, what you need it in, and how to determine if you’re getting that.  You’ll be able to foster and reinforce a deep, body-felt sense of safety in your space, healing loneliness and isolation.

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WHOLENESS: You’ll feel more complete, more fulfilled, and more real to yourself as you nurture your needs and connection with self and others.

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CONNECTION: Instead of feeling like an outsider, excluded and unwanted, you’ll experience a sense of belonging and connection with others as you build healthy connections with yourself and them.

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YOURSELF: You’ll know how to connect with yourself, nurture your intra-connection and your inner world with you, how to keep yourself (aka sobriety), and how to build safe, secure attachment with you.

IS THIS A GOOD FIT FOR YOU?

This Is Designed For Individuals That:

  • Identify with being a people-pleaser and seek love through approval
  • That struggle with trusting their own perceptions of reality
  • That doubt their feelings and senses
  • That wonder what is real
  • That feel unreal or invisible
  • Struggle to create healthy relationships, trust, and connection
  • That are seeking to have relationships and friendships that are satisfying
  • That are seeking more purpose and prosperity in their life
  • That want to be themselves without fear, guilt, or shame
  • That want themselves back

Not A Good Fit For Individuals That:

  • Are seeking a quick fix to their pain
  • Want to go deeply in analyzing their past (this isn’t necessary to heal)
  • Do not enjoy personal sharing or a more relaxed atmosphere in class (Marshall is professional, but not clinical in his teaching approach)

So... What's All This Worth?

Let's Break Down The Value

  • The complete system, trainings, and updates: $797 +
  • Unlimited access to the Facebook Community: $997
  • Unlimited access to the bonuses: $494
  • Lifetime access to all the above: Priceless

TOTAL: $2,288

BUT YOU CAN ENROLL RIGHT NOW FOR:

HOW TO JOIN

ENROLL IN NURTURE TODAY

Heal Loneliness & Build Connection
$797
$ 297 Lifetime Access
  • Unlimited Access To NURTURE™ 10-week Live Course +
    On-demand Edition
  • Unlimited Access To The BE CALM System ($297)
  • Unlimited Access To The Codependency Healing Tools And Meditations Library ($197)
  • Includes Video and & MP3 versions

Meet Your Mentor

Meet Your Mentor

Who's Your Mentor?

Hi! I’m Marshall Burtcher.

Before I found my freedom from codependency, I was suffering in a nightmare of cyclical abuse with my parents, stuck in a dead-end marriage, and barely coping with my shame, panic, and trauma.

I found myself on the edge of suicide, trying to run from the monsters in my head and the voices that told me I was worthless, harmful, and I deserved all the crazy-making, emotionally harmful behavior I’d lived with for over 30 years.

My codependency had led me to destroy my marriage, my financial security, and my friendships because I felt so entirely unworthy and so desperately needed others to validate me so I could feel worthy.

I believed that to be lovable, I must be loved first.  Without being loved, I was not lovable.

This changed when I took a leap of faith and decided that codependency and my toxic behaviors were a result of my experience, not the expression of who I am.

The healing that occurred within a year of that choice was so profound that I became an advocate for a new point of view: that codependency was a survival response to the threat of being discarded.  I call it “The Discard Trauma”.

Fast-forward from 2008 to today and I have helped over 750+ people find happiness with my unique, effective approach to healing.

Today I’m a proud father of 2, a fun boyfriend, and a mentor that is obsessed with eliminating codependency from your world and making happiness a day-to-day reality for you.

ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

Is There A Test Drive Of The Class?

You can watch a 18-minute sample from a live class below.  It includes a content section, then homework descriptions.  It has been edited to preserve the privacy of the students in the class.

Video below:

Is There A Sample Of The Homework?

Yes, I do.  You can download the homework sample by clicking below:

Will This Interfere With Therapy?

The trainings and practices in FOUNDATION are designed with personal therapy in mind.  It is built around the principles that the student leads their therapy.

The courses involve tools that are oriented to the somatic, or felt-sense part of reality and experience, and included cognitive reframing practices using questions, exploration, and experience.

Will I Be Required To Complete Everything In A Specific Amount Of Time (or, Is it REALLY Go At Your Own Pace?)

All trainings and courses are go-at-your-own-pace, so you can go as slow as you want.

Is There A Refund Or Guarantee Period?

No refunds are granted for any reason.

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