Neglect is what didn’t happen that should have.

You can quickly assess if you’ve been neglected. Ask yourself these questions:

Did you feel sheltered and protected growing up?

Did you feel seen, valued, and loved by your mother and/or father?

Do you have a sense of being “real” and having importance in other people’s lives?

Do you believe others think about you during their day in warm, loving ways?

Do you have a strong sense of your emotions and what they’re telling you?

Are you able to identify what you are in need of and ask for it?

Was there frequent play and rest in your childhood?

Or…

Were you shamed for having needs, wants, and feelings?

Were you told to “grow up” when you were in pain?

Were you told to “figure it out” when you had problems?

Did you feel alone, isolated, and not included by others?

Did you crave attention, to be seen and heard?

Do you feel numb and lost when you’re asked, “do you know who you are?”

Do you find yourself trying to be independent and not need anyone else?

Do you find yourself craving others and hoping they’ll take care of you?

If you relate to the second set of questions – you were neglected.

You were not given consistent, reliable nurture emotionally, mentally, and relationally.

This leads you to feeling numb, burned out, overwhelmed by emotions, craving others and their attention, affection, and love. You struggle to identify your needs and feel safe asking for them and being seen, valued, and loved.

This is the impact of neglect.

I’ve helped 1000’s of survivors reclaim their needs and nurture themselves into satisfaction and fulfillment.

What did they all need?