Do you struggle with...

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    ​Disappointing others?
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    ​Saying No! without feeling guilty?
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    ​​Being the doormat in your relationships?
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    Getting sucked into fixing, pleasing or rescuing others from their feelings?

Do you fear...

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    ​Telling your truth about something?
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    ​Standing up for yourself?
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    ​"Rocking the boat"?
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    ​Setting boundaries with others?
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    ​Standing out and live life your way by your rules?
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    Saying what you want or need?
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    Asking for what you want or need?
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    Changing your mind on something?

Do any of these "resonate" with you?

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    ​being "codependent"
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    ​being a "people-pleaser"
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    ​lived through narcissistic abuse
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    ​survived childhood emotional neglect
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    ​wrestled with anxiety and/or depression
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    ​procrastination and avoiding life
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    ​anxiety and fear of change in your life
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    ​fear of uncertainty and the unknown
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    being occupied with worry about what others think of you
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    pressure and obsessing about getting others to validate you

My friend, what you're facing here is the experience of love neglect. 

You see, none of these things are a natural result of who you are.  Instead, they tell the story of what you've survived.  You've likely faced a world that was hostile to your feelings.  Your needs and wants were met with criticism, indifference, or worse, abuse.  You've wandered through life trying to make others happy in hopes they'll do the same back to you.  Instead of finding that success, you've likely found yourself repeatedly feeling emptied, ignored, and attacked.

If you are ready to understand yourself in a way that allows you to break free of your dysfunctional thinking, believing, speaking and behaving....

The Neglect and Narcissistic Abuse Undone 12 Weeks To Radical Healing & Transformation Course has been created just for you

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    ​Do you struggle to trust that you know what you feel?
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    ​Have you been told or taught that you'll have to cope with this the rest of your life?
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    ​Have you found therapy to bring little relief or change to your life?
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    ​Have you tried other systems only to find you make no progress?
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    ​Do you fear having to feel your emotions?
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    ​Do you struggle to know ​how​ to feel and what to do with your emotions when they show up?​​​

Do you find yourself nodding yes to these things?  If so, you're in the right place.  

Now, there's an important thing I want you to consider accepting:  None of this is your fault.  None of these things are caused by who you are.  In fact, these habits and fears and concerns are a natural response to chronic neglect and abuse of your needs, wants and feelings.


Its all a result of the programming your brilliant brain created to help you navigate the scary, hostile, neglectful times in your life.  It actually helped you survive so you could one day thrive.


You see, what you've learned from your childhood created a "relating map" that told you what to feel and what to do and what to expect in relationships.  This relating map was outlined by what you learned as you tried to relate with your caregivers and peers.   Childhood scientists and psychologists have been uncovering this phenomenon over the past several decades.

What they've found is:

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    ​Children raised by dysfunctional parents/caregivers take on the role of the parent to the parent
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    ​This teaches the child to believe that what they feel, think and believe is irrelevant, and that the other person's feelings are all that matter
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    ​This makes it impossible for the child to feel confident, to believe their own feelings, and to feel their own worth and value
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    ​If we cannot value what we think and what we feel, we are unable to have healthy boundaries, healthy relationships, and experience our genuine happiness

In a most literal way, children of dysfunctional families and parents have been programmed to behave with the same dysfunction that they see modeled by their caregivers.  They are literally brainwashed into feeling insecure, believing they're invisible and do not matter, and that they have no actual value (beyond what they do for others, of course).  

This radically changes when we take on the skills to mindfully observe the programming of our dysfunctional behaviors (they're stored within  our subconscious mind) and begin to rewrite those programs with healthy, loving programming.

Neglect & Narcissistic Abuse Undone 12 Weeks to Radical Healing & Transformation Course is designed to take the wounded adult child that is aware of their codependent behaviors and transform their pain and their programming into love and conscious living from who they really are: love.  

It is a literal undoing of the old programming.  This creates the natural space for your Real Self to emerge.  This is where you start to hear your own voice again.  You get to know what you want, get to know what your boundaries are, and begin to choose you first in your life without the fear, guilt or shame.

Neglect & Narcissistic Abuse Undone 12 Weeks to Radical Healing & Transformation Course helps you:

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    ​End the shame about asking for your wants and needs
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    ​Discover and evolve false beliefs that have been controlling your life and relationships
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    ​Create awareness to understand your programming, and then change it
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    ​Access, feel and heal emotions that have been hiding in healthy and loving ways
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    ​Bring forgiveness to yourself for staying, for not knowing what to do, and for the confusion you felt
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    Gain power in managing your thoughts and becoming free of them
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    ​Retrieve and call home the lost parts of who you are
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    Find and ​feel​ the worth that you ​really ​are
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    Naturally set and maintain boundaries in your life with others
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    Connect you to and validate your natural needs
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    Create and adopt beliefs that empower your happiness and love and goals

You see, you're here because of old programming that helped you survive your toxic childhood.  But that same programming gets us in trouble with adult relationships.  Have you noticed that you keep repeating the same kinds of relationships over and over?  When you take a deeper look at them, how to they mirror your experience with your parents?

This happens because of that relationship map I mentioned earlier.  One of the biggest roles a parent as in a child's life is to show them how to have relationships.  Children are not born knowing how to relate, how love works, or what to do with conflicts or problems.   They also are not born knowing what to do with the feelings and emotions they experience.


The child depends on the parent to help them understand these things.  This is partly why the child mirrors the parent to some degree.  The child's brain uses the parent as a reference point for what to do in certain situations, and with certain feelings.  If the parents are dysfunctional in handling their emotions and relationships, the child will be too.  

One of the deepest messages children of dysfunctional families get is this:  I'm not worth of being loved for who I am.

This comes from abuse.  Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional and psychological harm. It can also show up in what didn't happen - aka neglect.  Child of abuse are prone to:

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    ​Pleasing others
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    Fixing, rescuing or enabling abusers
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    Allowing themselves to be abused by narcissistic individuals
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    Depression and anxiety
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    Low self-esteem and confusion about one's value
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    ​Frustration with love
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    ​Deep anxiety about getting needs met, being vulnerable and being seen
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    ​Self-neglect - denying their own boundaries and feelings
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    ​Feeling empty and lost in life - aka "I don't know who I am"

Now, there is great news!

With the right skills, the right information, and the right tools and support, we can change our thinking, and thus, our feeling, and our behaviors. This can happen because our brain and subconscious are flexible.  Scientists call this "neuroplasticity".  This means we can deliberately create new pathways in the brain.  

These pathways are essentially the "instructions" the brain executes when the brain experiences something (for example, when we experience someone smiling at us, we have a automatic response to smile or frown back depending on our programming).  

With specific experiences, the brain can rewrite these pathways to produce a new thought, feeling or behavior.  This is how we learn new habits.

Neglect & Narcissistic Abuse Undone 12 Weeks to Radical Healing & Transformation Course helps you change those instructions so you start feeling different feelings about the same topic/subject.  For an example:  one of my clients used to fear confronting people when they were being rude to her.  After rewriting a past memory where she was abused for standing up for herself into a story of standing up for herself and thriving, she was able to confront a rude neighbor without guilt, fear or shame.  

I help you achieve this through special meditations, clearings, discovery exercises, and community support, and live Q&A support from me.

You see, your brain has been forced to be in survival mode in order to cope with the toxic experiences of your childhood and your present life.  This causes what is called, "post-traumatic stress".  This is where the body and mind are stuck in a loop of "freeze".  Emotions run in loops, repeating themselves over and over, often causing distress, racing thoughts, and mental overwhelm.

None of this is your fault.  It is the result of the abuse and neglect you've survived.   The neglect and abuse led you to create beliefs about yourself that are false.  One of those beliefs is "its my fault. Who I am caused this".  Another is, "my needs and wants are bad".  

To transform, those beliefs must be evolved into a true belief (such as: "my parents did what they did because of their programming - not because of my needs.  Their behavior was not my fault. I did not cause them to act that way").

Neglect & Narcissistic Abuse Undone 12 Weeks to Radical Healing & Transformation Course helps you identify those beliefs and then begin to evolve them through my specialized meditations and clearings.  This creates the new pathways in the brain that cause you to naturally feel and think differently - much like my client experienced when her neighbor tried to tell her what to do in her own home!  My client told the neighbor to "mind your own business and get a life!"  

Each week of the twelve weeks you will receive:

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    ​​Video lesson from me
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    ​A specialized meditation that reinforces the lesson and starts shifting your beliefs
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    ​A specialized clearing to release all the shame, toxic messaging and feelings, and bring wholeness back to you
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    ​A Discovery and Mapping PDF that helps you understand where you've been and track your progress
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    ​Connection with others through my private Facebook community
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    ​Live Q&A twice a week to support your growth
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    ​Access to ​The 10 LAWS: FOUNDATION ​Master Course for deep development of the life and relationships skills that make your life thrive (this starts at week 13)​​​ post-healing
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    Access to ​The Closure Technique​ - my premier tool for creating deep healing in the subconscious mind​​​
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    On-going support through emails and course updates

This course is go-at-your-own-pace.  This means that you can tailor how fast or slow you go with the material and meditations.  You have life-time access to the course and to support via the private Facebook group (although joining the group is not mandatory).  

Neglect & Narcissistic Abuse Undone 12 Weeks to Radical Healing & Transformation Course was created from my own journey out of codependent coping.

In 2003, I had a sobering realization that my life was not what I wanted to live through.  I was not in love with my then-wife.  I was drowning in deep depression, shame and anxiety.   I was trapped in a mental hell of self-loathing.  I lived with a gripping sense of dread.  I was afraid to disappoint my family, friends, and bosses.  

Yet, I wanted to thrive in life.  I had bigger dreams for me that living at a 9-5 job and driving a Ford Focus.  I wanted to have a relationship that brought me joy and laughter and play. I wanted to be a dad that was deeply engaged in my children's lives.  I wanted to contribute to the world in a way that makes lasting change for others and me.

All of this forced me to stop and get deeply honest with myself.  I quickly began to see that I was:

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    Living for other people's approval
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    Living a lie about who I was
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    Deeply depressed and miserable
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    Hiding from my own truth about life and myself
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    Didn't believe anyone really loved me or wanted me in their lives
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    ​Felt like a burden and selfish for having needs and wants
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    Living with weekly panic attacks
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    Suffering with racing thoughts and overwhelm
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    ​Aching to love and be loved by someone I was in love with
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    ​Afraid of my parents and friends judgments about my failures and my successes
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    ​Drowning in debt
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    Thinking it was all my fault, and all because of who I am (and my feelings, wants and needs)!

On an early August evening in 2003, I knew I had to face the music and live with the consequences. I knew it was going to hurt - and it did - at first.  I also knew how good the freedom from it all felt to me.  

So I took the first step: I got real with myself

I started to dig deep into what was happening to me, and why it was happening.  I instinctively knew I was going to have to do this on my own.  My culture and family and friends wouldn't understand or trust what I was going through.  They had already shown confusion about what I was talking about.  

I was terrified. But, I hungered for that truth.  I ached for that freedom. I wanted relief. 

I started to see that:

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    ​I was terrified of being seen and revealed because I believed no one would want me if I were the real me
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    ​I was full of anger about my past and the hurt and neglect I'd endured
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    ​I wanted to rest and relax, but was full of tension and anxiety
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    ​I had confused being needed with being loved
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    ​I didn't trust anyone to be "safe"
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    ​I believed my feelings were toxic and harmful to others
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    ​I thought if I pleased others, they'd love me back
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    ​I thought if I "did a good enough job" people would like me​
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    ​I believed if I made mistakes or disappointed others, I would be abandoned
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    ​I thought if I was accommodating, others would be accommodating to me
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    I believed the golden rule: do unto others as you'd like done unto you - but it wasn't working!

I was terribly, terribly wrong.

Instead, I lived with the pain, the shame, and the frustration.  I suffered in silence while others got what they wanted.  I ached with a hunger to be loved.  I was riddled with shame and anxiety attacks.

I'd wake up in panic.  I'd waste hours zoning out in computer games, movies and food trying to medicate my feelings.  I'd buy stuff so I could "fill the void".  I'd cry myself to sleep as I tried to numb the pain.

Little did I know that 15 years in the future I'd be assisting beautiful, powerful people in their exit from codependency and narcissistic abuse.  Little did I know I would be living a life where I had control of what I was feeling.  I never dreamed of having the loving network of close friends and community that liked me just as I am.  I didn't fathom I could create an lasting impact with my journey in other's lives through my business.

I never thought I'd feel at peace with who I am.  I find it even now surprising how much I don't care about the opinion of others nowadays.  

You can have this too.  Over the past 9 years of coaching people out of their pain and into their thriving lives, clients have reported:

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    ​Healing their fear of being loved
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    ​Finding peace with old trauma
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    ​Being able to feel love for themselves for the first time in their lives
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    ​Freedom from shame and guilt
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    ​Being able to say no and be at peace with it
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    ​Know what they want and take action to get it
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    ​Have honest, open relationships with others
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    ​Freedom from toxic thoughts and self-hate
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    Freedom from the fear of succeeding in their lives
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    ​Peace with failure and disappointing others
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    ​Indifference to being rejected
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    Confidence in facing conflict and doing the hard things in life
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    Better jobs and health
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    ​Thriving romantic relationships

One of the core things I realized in my journey was this:

My feelings matter.  They are equally important and valuable with others.  They belong.  And through them, I can come to know who I am more and more.  

My feelings of anger, hurt, judgment, shame and guilt were the result of being shamed for what I was feeling.  This shaming taught me not to value my emotions, and thus, I don't matter.  


That is what emotional denial does to a child.  This is why you struggle to feel valuable and worthy - because feeling valuable, worthy and loved comes from your emotions being valued, honored, and respected.

My dear friend, all of the pain, all of the habits, all of the thoughts are a result of neglect and abuse. Its not who you are. Its not your identity.  Its not caused by you.  Those feelings, thoughts and beliefs are your responses to being fed deep, painful lies through what you've survived.  

Now, you can discover all that you should have been taught as a child.  This includes:

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    ​How deeply worthy you are of being loved for who you are
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    ​How much who you are matters to the world
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    ​Your feelings matter and they are valued by the ​​right​ people for you​​​​​​
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    ​That shame and guilt are always lies
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    ​That you belong without having to change or "fit in"
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    ​You're worth knowing, loving, and keeping
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    ​You're beautiful, sexy and deserving
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    ​That you can trust your feelings and intuitions
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    ​That its normal and healthy to say no and let others manage their feelings
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    ​Its natural and ok to not fix feelings or protect people from consequences
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    ​Its ok to disappoint others - you come first in your life

Neglect & Narcissistic Abuse Undone 12 Weeks to Radical Healing & Transformation Course will take you into your pain and help you bring closure to it.  You will find lasting peace starts growing within you as you practice the clearings and meditations. Your understanding of your past and your experiences will expand as you do the Discovery Practices.

You will feel connected back to your nature - back to who you really are.  The light, enthusiasm, and life you once knew will return to you.  

When we make space and honor the innocence of our inner child, reconnect with them and bring them up with love and kindness, we thrive.  


You can heal, my dear friend.  Its built into your DNA to heal.  All you need is the right tools and processes to trigger it.

Neglect & Narcissistic Abuse Undone 12 Weeks to Radical Healing & Transformation Course has the processes and tools that make that happen.

I invite you to join me on the journey hundreds of others have - to the liberation of you from the clutches of your past through...

NAU (short for Neglect & Narcissistic Abuse Undone) Gets You:

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    ​12 Instruction Videos that build on the topic of each clearing and meditation
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    13 specialized meditations that ​end the shame, eliminate the confusion, bring relief to the pain, and pour love, nurture and kindness into your aches, pains and hurt
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    ​​​14 clearings that restore: Confidence, real self identity, curiosity, emotional connection, natural and safe vulnerability, courage, love and affection safety, ​ boundaries and sense of being a whole being
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    12 Discovery and Mapping Practices that helps you understand where you've been and track your progress
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    Connection with others through my private Facebook community

Live Class Starts March 19th, 2018 @ 10am

Live Class Pricing:

One Time Payment of $997

​3 Payments of $375 each

The Live Class Includes:

Marshall Burtcher - ​Shamanically Trained Mentor to Thriving Survivors of Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse all over the world.  He's been mentoring for 9+ years, using specialized tools and principles he learned in his journey out of his own codependency and childhood emotional abuse from narcissistic parents.

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    ​Live Q&A twice a week ​with Marshall Burtcher:  I answer your questions, help you apply the tools to your specific situation and more!
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    Access to Nurture: 36 Meditations For Nurturing Your Inner Child and Real Self ($297.00 value)
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    Access to ​The Closure Technique Training Course​:  ​Experience relief and closure in your deepest pains and hurts (a $497.00 bonus)
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    ​Life-time updates: This means you get new meditations, new Discovery Practices, etc, when they're released! (a $497.00 value)


Comes with a 14-day Refund Policy. Just contact Support within 14 days of beginning the program and request a cancellation.  Refunds take 3 - 5 business days to process.

Disclaimer; Marshall Burtcher is a Shamanic Practitioner and Life Coach and not a psychiatrist or psychologist.  All members take part in this revolutionary type of healing program at their own risk, knowing that they will be triggered as part of the work involved in this online program.  All members are responsible for their own mental health and take part knowing that this program in no way is to take the place of professional mental help therapies.  All members understand that this coaching program is not one to one coaching.  This is an online group coaching program opposed to one to one coaching. 

By purchasing, you agree to these Terms and Conditions



SOLO VERSION Available March 16th, 2018 @ 10am

Solo Version Includes:

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    ​12 Instruction Videos that build on the topic of each clearing and meditation
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    13 specialized meditations that ​end the shame, eliminate the confusion, bring relief to the pain, and pour love, nurture and kindness into your aches, pains and hurt
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    ​​​14 clearings that restore: Confidence, real self identity, curiosity, emotional connection, natural and safe vulnerability, courage, love and affection safety, ​ boundaries and sense of being a whole being
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    12 Discovery and Mapping Practices that helps you understand where you've been and track your progress
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    Connection with others through my private Facebook community
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    Access to Nurture: 36 Meditations For Nurturing Your Inner Child and Real Self ($297.00 value)

One Time Payment of $​497

​​2 Payments of $275 each


Comes with a 14-day Refund Policy. Just contact Support within 14 days of beginning the program and request a cancellation.  Refunds take 3 - 5 business days to process.

Disclaimer; Marshall Burtcher is a Shamanic Practitioner and Life Coach and not a psychiatrist or psychologist.  All members take part in this revolutionary type of healing program at their own risk, knowing that they will be triggered as part of the work involved in this online program.  All members are responsible for their own mental health and take part knowing that this program in no way is to take the place of professional mental help therapies.  All members understand that this coaching program is not one to one coaching.  This is an online group coaching program opposed to one to one coaching. 

By purchasing, you agree to these Terms and Conditions



What Clients and Students are Saying

Remember, You're Getting:

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    ​12 Instruction Videos that build on the topic of each clearing and meditation
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    13 specialized meditations that nurture your connection with your subconscious and install new beliefs
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    ​​​14 clearings that restore: confidence, real self identity, curiosity, emotional connection, natural and safe vulnerability, courage, love and affection safety, ​ boundaries and sense of being a whole being
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    12 Discovery and Mapping Practices that helps you understand where you've been and track your progress
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    Connection with others through my private Facebook community
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    ​Live Q&A twice a week to support your growth
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    Special Early-bird Access to ​The 10 LAWS: FOUNDATION ​Master Course for deep development of the life and relationships skills that make your life thrive (this starts at week 13)​​​ post-healing (a $2,000 bonus)
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    Access to ​The Closure Technique Training Course​:  ​experience relief and closure in your deepest pains and hurts (a $497.00 bonus)
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    On-going support through emails and course updates

Live Class Starts March 19th, 2018 @ 10am

Live Class Pricing:

One Time Payment of $997

​3 Payments of $375 each

The Live Class Includes:

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    ​Live Q&A twice a week ​with Marshall Burtcher:  I answer your questions, help you apply the tools to your specific situation and more!
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    Access to Nurture: 36 Meditations For Nurturing Your Inner Child and Real Self ($297.00 value)
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    Access to ​The Closure Technique Training Course​:  ​Experience relief and closure in your deepest pains and hurts (a $497.00 bonus)
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    ​Life-time updates: This means you get new meditations, new Discovery Practices, etc, when they're released! (a $497.00 value)


Comes with a 14-day Refund Policy. Just contact Support within 14 days of beginning the program and request a cancellation.  Refunds take 3 - 5 business days to process.

Disclaimer; Marshall Burtcher is a Shamanic Practitioner and Life Coach and not a psychiatrist or psychologist.  All members take part in this revolutionary type of healing program at their own risk, knowing that they will be triggered as part of the work involved in this online program.  All members are responsible for their own mental health and take part knowing that this program in no way is to take the place of professional mental help therapies.  All members understand that this coaching program is not one to one coaching.  This is an online group coaching program opposed to one to one coaching. 

By purchasing, you agree to these Terms and Conditions



SOLO VERSION Available March 16th, 2018 @ 10am

Solo Version Includes:

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    ​12 Instruction Videos that build on the topic of each clearing and meditation
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    13 specialized meditations that ​end the shame, eliminate the confusion, bring relief to the pain, and pour love, nurture and kindness into your aches, pains and hurt
  • check
    ​​​14 clearings that restore: Confidence, real self identity, curiosity, emotional connection, natural and safe vulnerability, courage, love and affection safety, ​ boundaries and sense of being a whole being
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    12 Discovery and Mapping Practices that helps you understand where you've been and track your progress
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    Connection with others through my private Facebook community
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    Access to Nurture: 36 Meditations For Nurturing Your Inner Child and Real Self ($297.00 value)

One Time Payment of $​497

​​2 Payments of $275 each


Comes with a 14-day Refund Policy. Just contact Support within 14 days of beginning the program and request a cancellation.  Refunds take 3 - 5 business days to process.

Disclaimer; Marshall Burtcher is a Shamanic Practitioner and Life Coach and not a psychiatrist or psychologist.  All members take part in this revolutionary type of healing program at their own risk, knowing that they will be triggered as part of the work involved in this online program.  All members are responsible for their own mental health and take part knowing that this program in no way is to take the place of professional mental help therapies.  All members understand that this coaching program is not one to one coaching.  This is an online group coaching program opposed to one to one coaching. 

By purchasing, you agree to these Terms and Conditions



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    ​Phone: 208.918.0907
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    ​Email: marshallb@freetheself.com
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    ​Address: 520 Almond St, Nampa, Idaho, 83686

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