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Self-trust is the first element of your existence that was attacked and exiled from your person.  This happened with the first act of gaslighting, abuse, and discard.

To survive, your body reacted with the please-and-appease response (aka fawn response), planting the seed for your future codependent behaviors.

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Navigating New or Foreign Experiences That Come From Your Growth And Healing

Adapting to new results because you`re choosing different people who behave differently is challenging.

It is also one of the more risky parts of our journey, as we may turn to old behaviors to generate a sense of safety or comfort because it is familiar.

I share the gentle approach I teach my students that helps them successfully adapt to new experiences and increases one`s sense of safety as they grow in today`s episode!

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Three questions to ask yourself when you find yourself people-pleasing ...

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3 Signals that you`re acting from codependency!

Join my community here: https://join.freetheself.com
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Remember, your pain isn`t something to fix.

It is something to know, understand, and care for.
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Four questions for codependents to ask themselves when encountering situations in their lives:

1) What am I aware of in my body and senses?

2) Who do I want to be in this situation?

3) What principles do I want to prioritize in this situation?

4) What outcome am I willing to live with?

These help you interrupt the codependent impulses to please, fix, absorb, or perform. This interruption creates space to orient to yourself and inquire into your own wisdom, senses, and lived experience.

Each question works best when you`re practicing the habit of pause-acknowledge-observe (P-A-O). This helps you start to sense into and listen to your body and somatic/felt-sense wisdom.

May this add to your journey.

Note: Quick-lists & Infographics are snapshots on a concept or topic. They are, by nature, limited in their scope. It is entirely expected that the quick-list does not cover everything or may lack certain nuances. Keep that in mind while using them.

Find more on Instagram at @healyourcodependency

#codependency #healing #trauma #relationships #boundaries
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What secrets does your emptiness hold?

Emptiness is often something we fear and can be really intense to confront if we`re not sure why we`re turning towards our emptiness.

But what if emptiness wasn`t something wrong? What if it could add deeply to your healing? What if your emptiness holds the key to more fulfillment and connection?

Learn how to work with your emptiness and discover the secrets it has for you in today`s episode!

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Discover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
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What does it mean to fulfill or nurture a need?

Needs are somatic - meaning they are experienced in the body, and their fulfillment is found in the body.

This makes our needs interdependent experiences - both with you to yourself, you to others, and others to you.

A need being fulfilled or nurtured means your body is having experiences that fulfill the desire that need has.

Example: I want warm affection. I then reach out to a person who has warm affection for me, and we do things that are warm for me - like a movie, deep talk, making each other laugh. These are fulfilling that need.

So, how do you know you have a need?

You feel a hunger or yearning for something. It can be very loud or very quiet, usually growing in intensity the longer it goes without nourishment.

Learn how needs are recongized and fulfilled in today`s episode!

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NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.com

EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM: Get every course I offer and all future courses and never pay another dime. Learn more here: https://efp.freetheself.com

Start your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.com

Join my communities here: https://links.freetheself.com

Discover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
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Feeling connection and a sense of belonging invovles the interaction of three distinct "movements" we each do towards each other and ourselves.

When we understand these movements and deliberately involve them in our relating, we experience more fulfilling connections.

What are these 3 movements?

- How you relate to yourself (You-to-Yourself)

- How you are relating to others (You-to-Others)

- How others are relating to you (Others-to-You)

Let`s dive into each of these in today`s episode!

Link to course in the bio!
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Do You Have Internalized Loneliness?

First of all, what is "Internalized Loneliness?"

It is an enduring, profound sense of being emotionally isolated from others and from yourself.

I visualized it as my being in a transparent glass box where I could see others, hear them, and they could see and hear me, but we could never touch emotionally.

This box also existed within my internal experience of life. I was in a box within myself, cut off from connecting to and knowing myself. I felt cold, gray, empty, and lost.

Another term used is "pathological loneliness". We have been alone and not-known by others for so long that it becomes our habitual, normal state of existing. Feeling lonely is "normal". Feeling like you`re on the outside is the daily vibe.

This is different from what I call "relational loneliness". Relational lonelienss is the longing to have company, companionship, and even special bonds with others. This is a normal, temporary (sometimes LONG temporary) part of our experience.

Internalized Loneliness is a *result* of persistent, deep childhood neglect.

Learn more about what it is and how you can heal it in today`s episode!

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NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.com

Start your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.com

Join my communities here: https://links.freetheself.com

Discover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
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[14 days till NURTURE starts. 12 days till enrollment closes]

Heal the loneliness that dominates your internal world and your relationships, bring peace and fulfillment to the emptiness you walk with, and enjoy more warmth, belonging, and connection in your life.

I teach you how to do this through my 10-week course, NURTURE.

You will learn:

- How to build real connection using my Triangle of Connection Method

- Experience warmth, care, and connection within yourself using the Curiousity-Inquiry-Care Method

- Build your experience of belonging by understanding what your needs are, how they work, and connecting them with people, places, and things that provide fulfilling experiences

The Details:

We start Sunday, March 17, 2024 at 12pm Mountain Time.

Class days: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain Time

We will go for 10 weeks.

You will learn how to create the warmth, fullness, and sense of belonging you chase through your codependency.

Lifetime access to live classes and on-demand classes is included.

Investment: $297

EXISTING STUDENTS: You likely have this course already! Log into the Learning System and check before purchasing!

Enrollment link in the bio!
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Healing requires that we cultivate and nurture a safe-enough internal environment. I help students achieve this through the practice of the Curiosity-Inquiry-Care Framework:

CURIOSITY: This is the act of being open to what you`re sensing, feeling, thinking. You are able to note what is showing up in your awareness. You are paying attention to what else comes into your awareness after what initially shows up.

INQUIRY: This is the act of asking questions to your feelings, sensations, or Aspects of Self. The goal is to help you connect with what they want, need, or trying to tell you. Questions you can ask:

What are you trying to tell me?

What are you needing right now?

What would you like me to do for you?

CARE: This is the practice of receiving whatever shows up with warmth, kindness, and an open embrace. This comes from the warm witness one cultivates towards their pain, pleasure, and feelings through seeing them as parts of themselves worthy of love and kindness.

These skills allow your body to process through it`s pain and stored energy, helping reduce pain, increase peace and care in your daily life.

This is one of over 8 skills you`ll learn in NURTURE starting March 17, 2024.

The Details:

We start Sunday, March 17, 2024 at 12pm Mountain Time.

Class days: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain Time

We will go for 10 weeks.

You will learn how to create the warmth, fullness, and sense of belonging you chase through your codependency.

Lifetime access to live classes and on-demand classes is included.

Investment: $297

Link in the bio!
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THINGS YOU`RE INHERENTLY ALLOWED IN YOUR LIFE

You`re allowed to have limits that others don`t like.

You`re allowed not to be everything for someone.

You`re allowed to exist as you are.

You`re allowed to choose priorities that make you happy.

You`re allowed not to care.

You`re allowed to disappoint people.

You`re allowed to be unhappy.

You`re allowed to be happy.

You`re allowed to ignore other people`s perspectives.

You`re allowed to disagree with others.

You`re allowed to pursue what you want.

#codependency #healing #happy
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3 Tips That Take The Sting And Shame Out Of Disappointing Others

Disappointing others is a terrifying thing when we`ve been rejected, discarded, and harmed by it in the past. Yet, to thrive and enjoy our lives, we must be willing to navigate this, so how do we do that?

Today I give you three tips that take the sting, shame, and intensity out of disappointing others.

- Tip one: acknowledge the discomfort and allow it to be ok to be there. Use the Pause-Acknowledge-Observe practice to help with this: https://freetheself.com/library/library/the-pause-acknowledge-observe-practice/

- Tip two: Practice a bit of trust that their disappointment doesn`t put you in danger or make you wrong

- Tip three: Release the significance you give to their approval. Use the Releasing Signficance Tool to help with this: https://youtu.be/wKfJF2hmvvI

Check bio for links to the tools and course offering!
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10 WAYS TO SELF-PARENT

Set standards for your behaviors and choices

Practice seeing yourself through lens of worthiness, love, and kindness

Trust in your own senses and perceptions to guide you

Appreciate yourself & show loyalty to your values and desires

Take 100% ownership of your choices and actions

Check-in with your needs and wants regularly

Be honest with yourself about what you need, want, and feel

Practice trusting in your worth and it`s guidance

Let yourself play and explore

Note: Quick-lists & Infographics are snapshots on a concept or topic. They are, by nature, limited in their scope. It is entirely expected that the quick-list does not cover everything or may lack certain nuances. Keep that in mind while using them.

#codependency #mentalhealth #selfrespect
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A crucial and often not taught or discussed aspect of healing and growth is valuing, praising, and appreciating our efforts REGARDLESS of the outcome.

Growing up, my worth and my confidence were deeply tethered to outcomes. If the outcome was the "right one", I was worthy, safe, loveable, and could trust myself. If the outcome was the "wrong one", shame, self-distrust, and repentence was in order. There was no *actual* room for error, mistake making, or discovery despite all the talk about there actually being room for it.

This made my healing work very, very impossible. I was deeply oriented to getting the "right outcome" to please the healer or teacher. I was not oriented to my own discovery.

To heal this, I began a practice of praising and appreciating my efforts.

Learn how this works in today`s episode!

Links to courses is in the bio
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Is This Misconception Sabotaging Your Healing?

In the early days of my healing, I would try tools, concepts, approaches, and practices in hopes they would change things in my relationships, life, or solve my problems.

I felt frustrated, discouragement, and even resentment when this didn`t happen.

This is due to a misunderstanding of what healing is really about and what the tools are actually doing for you.

Learn how to use your tools and practices so that you succeed in today`s episode.

All course/tools references are linked in the bio
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Healing one`s pain is a difficult, nebulous concept until we start to actually get *experience* with it. This makes healing a bit of a catch-22. I`ve found that there are usually three habits that are keeping the pain locked in a loop in your body, perpetuating it`s cycle.

Once you can identify which of these is happening in your relationship to your pain, the pain will start to change. Sometimes it gets bigger or more intense first, then begins to gradually drop if you have the right processes in place to help the body do what it does naturally: integrate and bring to rest pain.

Learn what these three habits are and what to do with them when they show up so your pain can begin to ease.

Links to referenced courses and guides are in the bio!
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The Important And Necessary Step Of Being Open And Available

Being open and available enables your deepest healing and reconnection to yourself to emerge and become your normal. This allows you to be able to receive and contribute in a holistic, genuine away far outside the transactional, survival nature of codependency and narcissistic systems.

Listen today to learn why openness is essential and how to begin nurturing it.

Course and tool links in the bio
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WHO IS MARSHALL?

I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING  TO BE THEMSELVES.

After 25 years of codependency and 13 years of freedom from it, I’ve experienced a lot of emotional, relational, and mental terrain that come with knowing, loving, and living who you are.
 
I’ve built healthy, secure intimate and platonic relationships, resilient self-worth, self-trust, and peace in my personal life after a life of trauma, depression, social isolation, and failed relationships.
 
Today, I help survivors experience for themselves peace, love, connection, and the joy of knowing, loving, and living who they are.