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Welcome To the Free The Self Tools Library

You’ll find all the tools I offer for free listed here.

They’re broken down into sections (i.e. meditations, pdf guides, etc).

You’re free to use these as much as you need or want for personal use.  They are not available for commercial purposes and are protected under copyright.

My Other Libraries:

YouTube Trainings

Get deep trainings on understanding codependency, healing the trauma bond, discovering yourself, and happy relationships

S.A.R. Practices

Practice emotional flow and healing using Marshall’s Somatic Awareness & Release practices and discover peace and healing.

PDF Guides

Get my guides on how to build safety, interact with narcissistic people, and care for yourself by clicking below.

The Interviews

Watch my various interviews over the years with other experts in the healing world and see what you learn!

The Masterclasses

Discover more insight around narcissistic people, love addiction, healing codependency and more through my masterclasses.

The Tools Library:

Shame Clearings & Regulators

GENERAL SHAME CLEARING #1

S.A.R. MOVING WITH SHAME v1

S.A.R. MOVING WITH SHAME v2

Guilt Clearings

GENERAL GUILT CLEARING #1

S.A.R. GUILT CLEARING #1

S.A.R. GUILT CLEARING #2

Grief Clearings

S.A.R. GRIEF CLEARING #1

S.A.R. GRIEF CLEARING #2

VALIDATE AND HONOR YOUR GRIEF

Anxiety Regulation

The BE CALM™ System

Get control over your anxiety with easy and fast-to-use tools that calm your mind and body in the BE CALM™ System.  It is free.  Click below to get it now.

Regulate Attachment and Loss Pain

DISTRESS TO REST GUIDE

Restore Safety Training

This training teaches you how to build a safety anchor and build capacity for feeling emotions.  It comes from the BE CALM training and GET CLOSURE NOW Trauma Healing System

The Daily Regulation Practice Guide

The Daily Regulation Practice is a 5-step practice that helps you ground your anxiety, calm your mind and body, and find peace fast.  Each step is outlined in the guide and has mp3 or video guides to help you along

Restoring Sanity, Self, and Validation

The Legitimizer

This tool gets you on YOUR side, empowering you to believe your experience and see that what you feel is a result of your experience, not a flaw in who you are.  This is the first step in compassion and care for yourself.

Praise & Appreciation Tool

Praise and appreciation of ourselves, our efforts, and our discoveries makes growth and change safer.  Use the Praise and Appreciation Guide to foster that love and self-confidence.

The Sane Maker

Abuse, espeically gaslighting, leaves us feeling confused and lost in our experience.  Use the Sane Maker to restore your sense of what is real and get back to reality. This will allow you to make strong decisions for your well-being.

The Euphoria Breaker v1

This tool helps you sober up about a person or experience by helping you ground in reality and exit euphoric states.

The Presence With You v1 Practice

This practice helps you become attuned to yourself and your senses and awareness.  This will assist you in discerning yourself from others

Compassion

The Compassion Tool

This tool helps you foster your self-compassion and nurture innocence and well-being with your relationship to yourself.

Anger

The Anger Validator v1

The Anger Validator empowers you to see the value and importance of your anger.  It helps you move past resistance to it and get more in contact with its message

S.A.R. Moving With Anger v1

This version of the S.A.R. Practice guides you through your anger back to innocence. Use this to navigate powerful anger in your life.

S.A.R. Moving With Anger v2

This version of the S.A.R. Practice guides you through your anger back to innocence. Use this to navigate powerful anger in your life.

Fear

S.A.R. Moving Through Fear v1

This version of the S.A.R. moves through fear. This version DOES   includes a body scan practice.

S.A.R. Moving With Fear v2

This version of the S.A.R. moves through fear. This version does NOT include a body scan practice.

Restoring Safety

The Safety Retrieval Guide v1

Often safety feels dependent on someone else.  This tool helps you take back power and responsibility for your safety and empowers you to do what you need for your well-being.

Releasing Enmeshments

Releasing Responsibility Over Others

This guide helps you let go of responsibility over others, their feelings, their choices, and their lives.

Innate Value Cultivation Tools

Value Retrieval Guide v1

This guide helps retrieve your value from the approval and rejection of others.  It comes from the Know Yourself Strategy (formerly The Happiness Strategy).  Learn more here: https://kys.freetheself.com

Fatigue

S.A.R. Fatigue Release v1

This S.A.R. Practice focuses on moving through fatigue and returning to innocence.