Welcome To the Free The Self Tools Library
You’ll find all the tools I offer for free listed here.
They’re broken down into sections (i.e. meditations, pdf guides, etc).
You’re free to use these as much as you need or want for personal use. They are not available for commercial purposes and are protected under copyright.
My Other Libraries:
YouTube Trainings
Get deep trainings on understanding codependency, healing the trauma bond, discovering yourself, and happy relationships
S.A.R. Practices
Practice emotional flow and healing using Marshall’s Somatic Awareness & Release practices and discover peace and healing.
PDF Guides
Get my guides on how to build safety, interact with narcissistic people, and care for yourself by clicking below.
The Interviews
Watch my various interviews over the years with other experts in the healing world and see what you learn!
The Masterclasses
Discover more insight around narcissistic people, love addiction, healing codependency and more through my masterclasses.
The Tools Library:
Shame Clearings & Regulators
GENERAL SHAME CLEARING #1
S.A.R. MOVING WITH SHAME v1
S.A.R. MOVING WITH SHAME v2
Guilt Clearings
GENERAL GUILT CLEARING #1
S.A.R. GUILT CLEARING #1
S.A.R. GUILT CLEARING #2
Grief Clearings
S.A.R. GRIEF CLEARING #1
S.A.R. GRIEF CLEARING #2
VALIDATE AND HONOR YOUR GRIEF
Anxiety Regulation
The BE CALM™ System
Get control over your anxiety with easy and fast-to-use tools that calm your mind and body in the BE CALM™ System. It is free. Click below to get it now.
Regulate Attachment and Loss Pain
DISTRESS TO REST GUIDE
Restore Safety Training
This training teaches you how to build a safety anchor and build capacity for feeling emotions. It comes from the BE CALM training and GET CLOSURE NOW Trauma Healing System
The Daily Regulation Practice Guide
The Daily Regulation Practice is a 5-step practice that helps you ground your anxiety, calm your mind and body, and find peace fast. Each step is outlined in the guide and has mp3 or video guides to help you along
Restoring Sanity, Self, and Validation
The Legitimizer
This tool gets you on YOUR side, empowering you to believe your experience and see that what you feel is a result of your experience, not a flaw in who you are. This is the first step in compassion and care for yourself.
Praise & Appreciation Tool
Praise and appreciation of ourselves, our efforts, and our discoveries makes growth and change safer. Use the Praise and Appreciation Guide to foster that love and self-confidence.
The Sane Maker
Abuse, espeically gaslighting, leaves us feeling confused and lost in our experience. Use the Sane Maker to restore your sense of what is real and get back to reality. This will allow you to make strong decisions for your well-being.
The Euphoria Breaker v1
This tool helps you sober up about a person or experience by helping you ground in reality and exit euphoric states.
The Presence With You v1 Practice
Compassion
The Compassion Tool
This tool helps you foster your self-compassion and nurture innocence and well-being with your relationship to yourself.
Anger
The Anger Validator v1
The Anger Validator empowers you to see the value and importance of your anger. It helps you move past resistance to it and get more in contact with its message
S.A.R. Moving With Anger v1
This version of the S.A.R. Practice guides you through your anger back to innocence. Use this to navigate powerful anger in your life.
S.A.R. Moving With Anger v2
This version of the S.A.R. Practice guides you through your anger back to innocence. Use this to navigate powerful anger in your life.
Fear
S.A.R. Moving Through Fear v1
This version of the S.A.R. moves through fear. This version DOES includes a body scan practice.
S.A.R. Moving With Fear v2
This version of the S.A.R. moves through fear. This version does NOT include a body scan practice.
Restoring Safety
The Safety Retrieval Guide v1
Often safety feels dependent on someone else. This tool helps you take back power and responsibility for your safety and empowers you to do what you need for your well-being.
Releasing Enmeshments
Releasing Responsibility Over Others
This guide helps you let go of responsibility over others, their feelings, their choices, and their lives.
Innate Value Cultivation Tools
Value Retrieval Guide v1
This guide helps retrieve your value from the approval and rejection of others. It comes from the Know Yourself Strategy (formerly The Happiness Strategy). Learn more here: https://kys.freetheself.com
Fatigue
S.A.R. Fatigue Release v1
This S.A.R. Practice focuses on moving through fatigue and returning to innocence.