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Ready To Know How To Love Yourself, How To Know Yourself, & How To Be Yourself

And if you’re currently in therapy, you can know, love and live who you are faster.

If you want to break free feeling worthless, lost, and confused about yourself, I can help.

Keep On Reading To Learn How This Is Possible For You

Marshall Burtcher

Mentor To Survivors Of Narcissistic Relationships

HAVE YOU BEEN...

HAVE YOU BEEN...

  • Wondering where you lost yourself?
  • Trying to answer the question, “how do I love myself?”
  • Struggling with self-esteem and self-worth after narcissistic abuse?
  • Seeking your value and worth through approval of others?
  • Dreading rejection and trying to avoid it at all costs?
  • Feeling lonely and lost in your life?
  • Seeking purpose and direction?
  • Wondering “who am I?”

THIS IS YOUR NEGLECT TALKING

THIS IS YOUR NEGLECT TALKING

Codependency and narcissism often leave us divorced from ourselves.  We’ve been deeply unmet, unseen, and undervalued for who we are. 

We’re left feeling invisible, empty, and lost. 

This is a result of being taught that your worth is EARNED.

Self-worth is often taught as something you create or earn.  This is a lie that comes from transactional value.

What is Transactional Value?  Basically, it is the claim that your worth or value is determined by what you do. 

This is a lie.

You discover your self-worth by nurturing your awareness of it.  I call this Innate Value.

Innate Value is a a somatic (felt or physical) experience of worth.  It is found in your body, not your mind. 

It is the energy and feeling of unconditional worth.  It is free of limitation, rules, or boundary. 

This Innate Value is built into you.  You’ve experienced it every time you’ve felt that surge of worth when someone approved of you or loved you. 

This happens because your brain is programmed to give you that sense of worth when they give you permission to to feel it. That permission is given through their approval. 

Imagine what your life would look like if your Innate Value were freedom from that need for permission. 

Here’s how it shows up in clients and students’ lives:

  • Saying no without hesitation, guilt or fear
  • Saying yes without guilt, fear, or hesitation
  • Enjoying your personal brand of happiness
  • Enjoying being in your body, feeling and experiencing your life as it unfolds for you
  • Having reliable, safe, and stable friendships and relationships
  • Feeling close, included, and supported by others
  • Feeling secure and trusting within yourself
  • Knowing your purpose and acting from it
  • Making money and having a career that fulfills you
  • Playing and indulging in life’s joy

 

These are results of you knowing and living your liberated Innate Value.

To achieve these outcomes, they needed:

THEY NEEDED...

THEY NEEDED...

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A PROVEN PROCESS  TO FOLLOW: Love addiction is rooted in severe neglect of your core needs and a belief that only a special other can complete you.  You need a step-by-step process that helps you undo the neglect, restore your sense of connection to yourself, heal the loneliness and bring healthy connection back into your life.

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THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE: Survivors of narcissistic abuse and codependency comes from a different world than those who haven’t been through that hell.

This means you need the correct knowledge at the right time to make the correct changes and choices that result in lasting healing for yourself.

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THE TOOLS & PRACTICES THAT ADDRESS THE CORE CAUSES: Neglect and being unseen is the core cause of low esteem and lack of self-respect.  You heal this by learning how to self-orient and then root yourself within your inherent worth and value.   You become real to yourself and alive within your own wisdom.

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THE CORRECT EXPERIENCE & TIMING:  Understanding your experiences helps you make wiser choices.  To have that right understanding, you need to have the correct experiences in the correct time.  Survivors build confidence and clarity fast when they know how to respond to the milestones in relationships as well as how to walk the path to those milestones.

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A SAFE HAVEN: Survivors need real-time, active feedback on their experiences.  A strong community coupled with bi-weekly live mentoring beyond the classroom helps them succeed fast and maintain their growth and achievements.

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ON-GOING RELIABLE RESOURCES & REINFORCEMENT: Most survivors I’ve worked with needed consistent access to support, feedback, cheer-leading, and celebration as they ventured into the world and experienced life.  Knowing someone has your back makes adventure and risk so much safer. 

FROM THE MOUTH OF STUDENTS...

FROM THE MOUTH OF STUDENTS...

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW, LOVE, AND LIVE WHO YOU ARE, I CAN HELP

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW, LOVE, AND LIVE WHO YOU ARE, I CAN HELP

I’ve found most survivors are drowning in a sea of information.  They lack structure, support, and direction.   This cycle of disappointment and failure ends when they have the right structure, support, and knowledge.  
 
Survivors begin to heal, find peace, and find sanity again when they have the practices, support, and tools that are tailored for their unique journey.
 
I help them achieve this through The Know Yourself Strategy™.

INTRODUCING THE KNOW YOURSELF STRATEGY™

INTRODUCING THE KNOW YOURSELF STRATEGY™

The Know Yourself Strategy™ is built for codependents and survivors of narcissistic abuse that are ready to go deeper in knowing who they are, loving who they are, and living who they are. They’ve worked to restore their safety, sanity, and self, and are aching to grow a life they enjoy.

The Know Yourself Strategy™ targets and helps heal the injuries to your sense of worth, help you tune into your voice, and start following your own brilliance for your life.

The Know Yourself Strategy™ has one objective: Teach you how to know, love and live who you are

IT ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

IT ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

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STEP ONE: KNOW YOUR VALUE

Most people don’t actually know their value, must less feel it, trust it, and live it.

What they’re actually doing is analyzing, justifying, and earning their worth.

I train you how to access, feel, and follow your value through:

– The Innate Value Retrieval Practice
– The Innate Value Activation Practice
– The Innate Value Rooting Practice

You exit this step feeling, believing, and orienting to your innate value. You are free from the dread of rejection, worthlessness, and shame.

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STEP TWO: KNOW YOUR VOICE

Ever struggle to know what you’re feeling, what you want, or don’t? Have you ever wrestled with what to do with a relationship, a job, or even your life?

This is solved by knowing your voice and listening to it. You’ll know your intuition and hear it when it speaks. You’ll be able to slow down and listen to your own guidance and sense of people, situations, and opportunities. You’ll be able to access your own inspiration, direction, and desires for your life.

I help you tune your voice in loud and clear through:

– Tuning In Your Voice Practices
– Self-Inquiry Practice

You exit this step being able to identify your voice from others and follow it. This ends the confusion about knowing what you think, feel, sense and perceive.

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STEP THREE: KNOW YOUR VISION

Vision is the result of viewing the world and yourself through your innate value and listening to your inward guidance. I train you how to tap into that and use it to guide you in the decisions you make, the actions you take, and the goals you choose for your life.

You will live from a clear compass and desire for your life. This inoculates you from repeating unhealthy relationships and self-sabotaging habits. It empowers fulfilling, healthy, and fun relationships, careers, and life purposes. You will live what you desire rather than just day dream about it.

I help you achieve this through:

– The Lensing Practice
– The Presence With You Practice
– Intuition Listening Practice

 

You exit this step knowing how to see your path, follow it, and learn from the results.

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

Real People.

Living Their Happiness.

From Loss and Heart-break To Love, Clarity, And Satisfaction

From Confusion and Lost to Direction and Clarity

THIS RESULTS IN YOUR ABILITY TO...

THIS RESULTS IN YOUR ABILITY TO...

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IDENTIFY YOUR BOUNDARIES

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GET MORE OF WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE

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KNOW AND LIVE YOUR REALNESS

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SAY NO AND YES BASED ON WHAT YOU WANT GUILT AND SHAME FREE

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LOVE AND LIKE YOURSELF

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ENJOY FREEDOM FROM BEING TANGLED UP IN OTHER PEOPLE'S EMOTIONS AND CHOICES

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ENJOY HAPPINESS YOUR WAY

AND BE YOURSELF CONFIDENTLY

COURSE INFORMATION

COURSE INFORMATION

The Course Details

    • Length: 16 Modules Taught Over 16 Weeks
    • Recordrded and Live Editions included. Next Live Edition Starts February 22, 2021
    • Live Class Times:  Class is taught at 11am and 7pm Mountain Time
    • Lifetime Access To Live and Recorded Classes Each module includes a 2-hour training & weekly practices for homework
    • Weekly practices take around 20 minutes on average a day
    • Classes are provided in video and audio (mp3) format
    • Includes access to over 34+ hours of training, comprehensive PDF guides for the practices, and 20+ MP3 tools, including guided meditations, release tools, and more

The Course Modules

The curriculum is broken down into sections.  Each builds on the one previous to it, teaching you a new lifestyle and daily living practice that sets you up for lasting success.

Note: Course outline may change as this is course is revised throughout the year.

FOUNDATION OF KNOWING YOURSELF

Module One:
Topic: How You Lost Yourself (Or Never Gained Yourself)

Module Two:
Topic: Identity & Root Conclusions

Module Three:
Topic: Where You Begin

Module Four:
Topic: Building Personal Awareness

Module Five:
Topic: Sovereignty

 

VOICE

Module One:
Topic: The 3 Voices

Module Two:
Topic: Deepening Discernment Part One

Module Three:
Topic: Deepening Discernment Part Two

Module Four:
Topic: The 4 Traps

 

VALUE

Module One:
Topic: Discerning Your Value

Module Two:
Topic: Activating Innate Value

 

VISION

Module One:
Topic: The Nature Of Vision

Module Two:
Topic: Vision Shifting/Lensing

 

APPLICATION TRAININGS

Training: Guidance and Intuition

Training: Self Inquiry

Training: Purpose

Training: Living Boundaries

 

INCLUDES LIVE SUPPORT FOR LIFE*...

INCLUDES LIVE SUPPORT FOR LIFE*...

LIVE MENTORING HOURS™ ($4999/yr)

ACCELERATE YOUR HEALING & HAPPINESS WITH LIVE GROUP SUPPORT & COACHING

Live Mentoring Hours is your chance to get custom coaching from Marshall at any time in your journey through the trainings. 

Live Mentoring Hours includes:

    • Access to the Live Mentoring Hours Vault.  Watch over 2 years worth of custom trainings for past students
    • Access to the twice-a-week live group support (aka Live Mentoring Hours)  that happen on Tuesdays @6PM MDT and Thursdays @ 11am MDT (Mountain Time, Boise Idaho)
    • You’re no longer doing it alone.  You’ve got the support of Marshall and the Community at your back each step of the way
     
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HOMEWORK HOURS™ ($3000/yr)

HOMEWORK DONE TOGETHER

Do course homework in the warmth and presence of others students and Marshall.

This allows you to ask questions, share homework with others, and enjoy companionship.

Homework Hours details:

    • Access to the twice-a-week live group support (aka Live Mentoring Hours)  that happen on Tuesdays @5PM MDT and Thursdays @ 10am MDT (Mountain Time, Boise Idaho)
    • You’re no longer doing it alone.  You’ve got the support of Marshall and the Community at your back each step of the way
     
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LIVE & ON-LINE COMMUNITY (Priceless)

THE COMMUNITY HAS YOUR BACK

Taking the leap on your own healing is scary.  I know it was for me.  What made the difference is a warm, supportive community that I could turn to with my questions, my needs for understanding and support, and guidance.

I provide you with this support through:

  • Weekly check-ins via email on your progress
  • Email support from my staff and I (usually a 48-hour turn around)
  • Access to the private and secure Community™ of 2500+ survivors making their way through the same journey as yourself
  • Twice-a-week live group support to give you the personal touch you deserve and need in your journey

AND POWERFUL SUPPORT COURSES...

AND POWERFUL SUPPORT COURSES...

The HEAL YOURSELF Strategy ($497)

HEAL CODEPENDENCY AT ITS ROOT

Go deep on healing the core cause of codependency: the trauma bond.  You are guided back to yourself through 3 simple steps: restoring your safety, sanity, and self.

This is all achieved through 24 modules that gently guide you in adopting simple practices that set you free and empower your natural well-being and happiness.

The BE CALM System ($197)

REGULATE AND CALM YOUR ANXIETY AND DISTRESS

The chaos, crazy-making, and roller-coaster of emotions and intensity is why you feel anxiety.  The BE CALM System empowers you with tools that calm your mind and body quickly.  They help you have power and have a say in what you feel

These tools are built on Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing trainings.  You will feel more calm and grounded.

The Reclaiming Yourself Course ($197)

REDISCOVER YOUR INNATE INNOCENCE AND SEE HOW YOUR HEALING FLOURISHES

Abuse and neglect may have taught you to associate yourself with being the problem.  If only you were different, right?  If only you had no needs, or different feelings, or a different personality.

This is the impact of abuse.  We begin healing it through reclaiming your innate innocence in your feelings, personality, wants, needs, and even mistakes.

The HEAL Course ($997)

HEAL THE SHAME, GUILT, FEAR, AND FATIGUE FROM YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

HEAL gently guides you in reclaiming yourself from the shame, guilt, fear,  and fatigue you learned in the toxic experiences within your relationships, including your parents, siblings, peers, partners, and yourself.

The NURTURE Course ($297)

HEAL THE EMOTIONAL NEGLECT BY RESTORING NURTURING CARE TO YOUR NEEDS

NURTURE gently teaches you a practice called “The Nurture Process”.  This simple process allows you to begin identifying, nourishing, and maintaining your emotional needs in healthy ways that promote healing interdependence and self-empowerment.

The RapidHEAL Guides ($297)

SPECIALIZED MEDITATIONS AND GUIDES THAT PROPEL YOUR HEALING AND THRIVING

The RapidHEAL Guides empower your growth and healing and add special support through gentle meditations that reprogramming your emotional associations and help you release your codependent habits.

ALL COURSES ARE...

ALL COURSES ARE...

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WATCH & LISTEN FROM ANYWHERE YOU HAVE INTERNET ACCESS

My courses are designed to be used from the smart phone and the desktop computer or laptop. 

This means:

  • You can log in via the Kajabi App and resume or start your course at any time
  • Listen to the course via MP3 edition or watch the video
  • Print nothing; the PDF’s are a guide; use a notebook or digital document to track your results
  • Do the practices from the convenience and privacy of your smart phone. Most practices take about 20 minutes 3-to-5 times a week.

DESIGNED FOR EFFECTIVENESS

THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE & TOOLS YOU NEED

Each course is broken down into a series of small trainings.  These trainings build on each other (think legos).  As you advance through each training, you place another block in your healing, freedom, and peace. 

You will exit each training and each course with a new skill-set and the understanding of how to apply it to your life.

DESIGNED TO GO AT YOUR PACE

THERE'S NO RUSH!

My courses are self-paced regardless of they’re the live edition or the recorded edition.   They’re designed to adapt to your lifestyle and needs.  This is achieved with my Building-block™ course design (means they work like following a recipe).

This means:

  • You can stop at any point and focus on that step till you’re ready to move to the next step and STILL SUCCEED
  • There’s no time pressure or expectation.  Most students take their time and have wild results despite going slowly
  • Real results happen because of the PROCESS, not the knowledge or understanding you gain.  Do the processes, get the results!

GOT A QUESTION?

GOT A QUESTION?

Get An Answer

CONFIDENCE IN YOUR CHOICE IS WHAT MATTERS FIRST

Get answers to your questions by submitting your question to me and I’ll get back to you within 48 hours. 

Just click below and fill out the question form.

YOU EXIT THE COURSE WITH:

YOU EXIT THE COURSE WITH:

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REAL SELF-LOVE: You’ll go beyond knowing you’re worthy and valuable.  You’ll feel it, believe it, and be rooted in it. 

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KNOWING YOURSELF: Instead of trying to find yourself, you’ll be able to discern, hear, and follow YOUR voice and vision for your life. 

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DEEP CLARITY: You’ll know how to find answers to the questions and challenges you face in your world and be able to utilize your brilliance to create more well-being and happiness in your life.

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PERSONAL POWER: You’ll know how to use your Personal Power for your well-being and happiness, increasing your satisfaction with your life.

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SELF-CONFIDENCE: Instead of questioning yourself, you’ll be rooted in a living self-trust that you can know and live what is real and valid for you. 

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MORE HAPPINESS: You will know how to create your personal happiness because you’ll know what matters to you real-time and you’ll trust it and follow it.

WHO THIS IS FOR

This Course Is Designed For Individuals That:

  • Identify with being a codependent
  • That struggle with trusting their own perceptions of reality
  • That doubt their feelings and senses
  • That wonder what is real
  • That feel unreal or invisible
  • That are struggling to get process in their own therapy and healing
  • That are seeking more peace, freedom, and happiness
  • That want to be themselves without fear, guilt, or shame
  • That want themselves back

There are Pre-requesites To Attend This Course:

  • Must be in therapy or seeking a trauma therapist
  • Must be in or seeking a support community online and in real life
  • Willing to do the work and take it at their own pace
  • Understand there is no quick-fix or instant healing; it takes persistence and curiosity instead
  • Understand that Marshall is not a therapist; he’s a trauma-informed coach and mentor
  • Agree to 100% responsibility for the actions and choices you take in this course

IF THIS IS YOU, JOIN THE HAPPINESS AFTER CODEPENDENCY SYSTEM TO START THIS COURSE

Meet Your Mentor

Meet Your Mentor

WHO IS MARSHALL?

I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING  TO BE THEMSELVES.

After 25 years of codependency and 13 years of freedom from it, I’ve experienced a lot of emotional, relational, and mental terrain that come with knowing, loving, and living who you are.
 
I’ve built healthy, secure intimate and platonic relationships, resilient self-worth, self-trust, and peace in my personal life after a life of trauma, depression, social isolation, and failed relationships.
 
Today, I help survivors experience for themselves peace, love, connection, and the joy of knowing, loving, and living who they are.

COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED

COMMON QUESTIONS ANSWERED

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HOW DO I KNOW THIS IS THE RIGHT COURSE FOR ME?

Ask yourself this question and listen to you body’s response: “Will this course get me where I want to be?”

If you find yourself heavy and confused, then your answer is no.

If you find yourself light, expansive, and clear, then your body’s answer is yes.

That answer is what I call your “intuitive answer”.

Trust your inner guidance.

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WHAT IF I GET STUCK OR GO SLOWLY?

This is anticipated in the design of all my courses.  You see, this course is teaching you new practices and a new lifestyle.  It will take time to adopt, explore, and experience what you learn.

You can go at your pace and you’ll always have support and guidance along the way.

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WHAT IF I DECIDE IT ISN’T FOR ME AFTER ENROLLING?

I recommend not enrolling if you’re wrestling with this question.  Instead, share with me your concerns or questions by messaging me here: https://www.facebook.com/freetheself

There are no refunds for subscriptions.

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I’M REALLY BAD WITH TECHNOLOGY AND COMPUTERS.  WILL THAT GET IN THE WAY?

All my courses are designed to be accessed through email.  If you’re comfortable with using email, you can do the courses.

All live classes are through the ZOOM app.  Links to the ZOOM classrooms are in all class emails and titled “Link to Classroom”.  Click the link and you’ll be entered into the classroom.

If you have difficulties, reach out to support here: support@freetheself.com and we’ll help you get it working.

The only issue we do not troubleshoot is email delivery.  We recommend having a GMAIL, HOTMAIL, MSN, YAHOO account for the class emails.  Other email services may block or move to spam course emails.

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I’M IN THERAPY. WILL THIS INTERFERE?

All my courses are built on cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and somatic therapies.  This means it will likely be compatible with your therapy and enhance what you’re learning there.

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