And if you’re currently in therapy, you can achieve deeper, faster self-esteem and clarity right now.
If you want to break free of craving for the abuser, the obsessive need to please, and the fear of being alone forever, I can help.
Mentor To Survivors Of Narcissistic Relationships
Codependency and narcissism often leave us divorced from ourselves. We’ve been deeply unmet, unseen, and undervalued for who we are.
We’re left feeling invisible, empty, and lost.
This is a result of being taught that your worth is EARNED.
Self-worth is often taught as something you create or earn. This is a lie that comes from transactional value.
What is Transactional Value? Basically, it is the claim that your worth or value is determined by what you do.
This is a lie.
You discover your self-worth by nurturing your awareness of it. I call this Innate Value.
Innate Value is a a somatic (felt or physical) experience of worth. It is found in your body, not your mind.
It is the energy and feeling of unconditional worth. It is free of limitation, rules, or boundary.
This Innate Value is built into you. You’ve experienced it every time you’ve felt that surge of worth when someone approved of you or loved you.
This happens because your brain is programmed to give you that sense of worth when they give you permission to to feel it. That permission is given through their approval.
Imagine what your life would look like if your Innate Value were freedom from that need for permission.
Here’s how it shows up in clients and students’ lives:
These are results of you knowing and living your liberated Innate Value.
To achieve these outcomes, they needed:
A PROVEN PROCESS TO FOLLOW: Love addiction is rooted in severe neglect of your core needs and a belief that only a special other can complete you. You need a step-by-step process that helps you undo the neglect, restore your sense of connection to yourself, heal the loneliness and bring healthy connection back into your life.
THE RIGHT KNOWLEDGE: Survivors of narcissistic abuse and codependency comes from a different world than those who haven’t been through that hell.
This means you need the correct knowledge at the right time to make the correct changes and choices that result in lasting healing for yourself.
THE TOOLS & PRACTICES THAT ADDRESS THE CORE CAUSES: Neglect and being unseen is the core cause of low esteem and lack of self-respect. You heal this by learning how to self-orient and then root yourself within your inherent worth and value. You become real to yourself and alive within your own wisdom.
THE CORRECT EXPERIENCE & TIMING: Understanding your experiences helps you make wiser choices. To have that right understanding, you need to have the correct experiences in the correct time. Survivors build confidence and clarity fast when they know how to respond to the milestones in relationships as well as how to walk the path to those milestones.
A SAFE HAVEN: Survivors need real-time, active feedback on their experiences. A strong community coupled with bi-weekly live mentoring beyond the classroom helps them succeed fast and maintain their growth and achievements.
ON-GOING RELIABLE RESOURCES & REINFORCEMENT: Most survivors I’ve worked with needed consistent access to support, feedback, cheer-leading, and celebration as they ventured into the world and experienced life. Knowing someone has your back makes adventure and risk so much safer.
The Know Yourself Strategy™ is built for codependents and survivors of narcissistic abuse that are ready to go deeper in knowing who they are, loving who they are, and living who they are. They’ve worked to restore their safety, sanity, and self, and are aching to grow a life they enjoy.
The Know Yourself Strategy™ targets and helps heal the injuries to your sense of worth, help you tune into your voice, and start following your own brilliance for your life.
The Know Yourself Strategy™ has one objective: Teach you how to know, love and live who you are
Most people don’t actually know their value, must less feel it, trust it, and live it.
What they’re actually doing is analyzing, justifying, and earning their worth.
I train you how to access, feel, and follow your value through:
– The Innate Value Retrieval Practice
– The Innate Value Activation Practice
– The Innate Value Rooting Practice
You exit this step feeling, believing, and orienting to your innate value. You are free from the dread of rejection, worthlessness, and shame.
Ever struggle to know what you’re feeling, what you want, or don’t? Have you ever wrestled with what to do with a relationship, a job, or even your life?
This is solved by knowing your voice and listening to it. You’ll know your intuition and hear it when it speaks. You’ll be able to slow down and listen to your own guidance and sense of people, situations, and opportunities. You’ll be able to access your own inspiration, direction, and desires for your life.
I help you tune your voice in loud and clear through:
– Tuning In Your Voice Practices
– Self-Inquiry Practice
You exit this step being able to identify your voice from others and follow it. This ends the confusion about knowing what you think, feel, sense and perceive.
Vision is the result of viewing the world and yourself through your innate value and listening to your inward guidance. I train you how to tap into that and use it to guide you in the decisions you make, the actions you take, and the goals you choose for your life.
You will live from a clear compass and desire for your life. This inoculates you from repeating unhealthy relationships and self-sabotaging habits. It empowers fulfilling, healthy, and fun relationships, careers, and life purposes. You will live what you desire rather than just day dream about it.
I help you achieve this through:
– The Lensing Practice
– The Presence With You Practice
– Intuition Listening Practice
You exit this step knowing how to see your path, follow it, and learn from the results.
The curriculum is broken down into sections. Each builds on the one previous to it, teaching you a new lifestyle and daily living practice that sets you up for lasting success.
Note: Course outline may change as this is course is revised throughout the year.
FOUNDATION OF KNOWING YOURSELF
Topic: How You Lost Yourself (Or Never Gained Yourself)
Topic: Identity & Root Conclusions
Topic: Where You Begin
Topic: Building Personal Awareness
Topic: The 3 Voices
Topic: Deepening Discernment Part One
Topic: Deepening Discernment Part Two
Topic: The 4 Traps
Topic: Discerning Your Value
Topic: Activating Innate Value
Topic: The Nature Of Vision
Topic: Vision Shifting/Lensing
Training: Guidance and Intuition
Training: Self Inquiry
Training: Living Boundaries
Live Mentoring Hours is your chance to get custom coaching from Marshall at any time in your journey through the trainings.
Live Mentoring Hours includes:
*Guaranteed for a minimum of 12 months
Taking the leap on your own healing is scary. I know it was for me. What made the difference is a warm, supportive community that I could turn to with my questions, my needs for understanding and support, and guidance.
I provide you with this support through:
Go deep on healing the core cause of codependency: the trauma bond. You are guided back to yourself through 3 simple steps: restoring your safety, sanity, and self.
This is all achieved through 24 modules that gently guide you in adopting simple practices that set you free and empower your natural well-being and happiness.
The chaos, crazy-making, and roller-coaster of emotions and intensity is why you feel anxiety. The BE CALM System empowers you with tools that calm your mind and body quickly. They help you have power and have a say in what you feel
These tools are built on Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing trainings. You will feel more calm and grounded.
Abuse and neglect may have taught you to associate yourself with being the problem. If only you were different, right? If only you had no needs, or different feelings, or a different personality.
This is the impact of abuse. We begin healing it through reclaiming your innate innocence in your feelings, personality, wants, needs, and even mistakes.
HEAL gently guides you in reclaiming yourself from the shame, guilt, fear, and fatigue you learned in the toxic experiences within your relationships, including your parents, siblings, peers, partners, and yourself.
NURTURE gently teaches you a practice called “The Nurture Process”. This simple process allows you to begin identifying, nourishing, and maintaining your emotional needs in healthy ways that promote healing interdependence and self-empowerment.
The RapidHEAL Guides empower your growth and healing and add special support through gentle meditations that reprogramming your emotional associations and help you release your codependent habits.
My courses are designed to be used from the smart phone and the desktop computer or laptop.
Each course is broken down into a series of small trainings. These trainings build on each other (think legos). As you advance through each training, you place another block in your healing, freedom, and peace.
You will exit each training and each course with a new skill-set and the understanding of how to apply it to your life.
My courses are self-paced regardless of they’re the live edition or the recorded edition. They’re designed to adapt to your lifestyle and needs. This is achieved with my Building-block™ course design (means they work like following a recipe).
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REAL SELF-LOVE: You’ll go beyond knowing you’re worthy and valuable. You’ll feel it, believe it, and be rooted in it.
KNOWING YOURSELF: Instead of trying to find yourself, you’ll be able to discern, hear, and follow YOUR voice and vision for your life.
DEEP CLARITY: You’ll know how to find answers to the questions and challenges you face in your world and be able to utilize your brilliance to create more well-being and happiness in your life.
PERSONAL POWER: You’ll know how to use your Personal Power for your well-being and happiness, increasing your satisfaction with your life.
SELF-CONFIDENCE: Instead of questioning yourself, you’ll be rooted in a living self-trust that you can know and live what is real and valid for you.
MORE HAPPINESS: You will know how to create your personal happiness because you’ll know what matters to you real-time and you’ll trust it and follow it.
Hi! I’m Marshall Burtcher.
Before I found my freedom from codependency, I was suffering in a nightmare of cyclical abuse with my parents, stuck in a dead-end marriage, and barely coping with my shame, panic, and trauma.
I found myself on the edge of suicide, trying to run from the monsters in my head and the voices that told me I was worthless, harmful, and I deserved all the crazy-making, emotionally harmful behavior I’d lived with for over 30 years.
My codependency had led me to destroy my marriage, my financial security, and my friendships because I felt so entirely unworthy and so desperately needed others to validate me so I could feel worthy.
I believed that to be lovable, I must be loved first. Without being loved, I was not lovable.
This changed when I took a leap of faith and decided that codependency and my toxic behaviors were a result of my experience, not the expression of who I am.
The healing that occurred within a year of that choice was so profound that I became an advocate for a new point of view: that codependency was a survival response to the threat of being discarded. I call it “The Discard Trauma”.
Fast-forward from 2008 to today and I have helped over 750+ people find happiness with my unique, effective approach to healing.
Today I’m a proud father of 2, a fun boyfriend, and a mentor that is obsessed with eliminating codependency from your world and making happiness a day-to-day reality for you.
HOW DO I KNOW THIS IS THE RIGHT COURSE FOR ME?
Ask yourself this question and listen to you body’s response: “Will this course get me where I want to be?”
If you find yourself heavy and confused, then your answer is no.
If you find yourself light, expansive, and clear, then your body’s answer is yes.
That answer is what I call your “intuitive answer”.
Trust your inner guidance.
WHAT IF I GET STUCK OR GO SLOWLY?
This is anticipated in the design of all my courses. You see, this course is teaching you new practices and a new lifestyle. It will take time to adopt, explore, and experience what you learn.
You can go at your pace and you’ll always have support and guidance along the way.
WHAT IF I DECIDE IT ISN’T FOR ME AFTER ENROLLING?
I recommend not enrolling if you’re wrestling with this question. Instead, share with me your concerns or questions by messaging me here: https://www.facebook.com/freetheself
There are no refunds for subscriptions.
I’M REALLY BAD WITH TECHNOLOGY AND COMPUTERS. WILL THAT GET IN THE WAY?
All my courses are designed to be accessed through email. If you’re comfortable with using email, you can do the courses.
All live classes are through the ZOOM app. Links to the ZOOM classrooms are in all class emails and titled “Link to Classroom”. Click the link and you’ll be entered into the classroom.
If you have difficulties, reach out to support here: firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll help you get it working.
The only issue we do not troubleshoot is email delivery. We recommend having a GMAIL, HOTMAIL, MSN, YAHOO account for the class emails. Other email services may block or move to spam course emails.
I’M IN THERAPY. WILL THIS INTERFERE?
All my courses are built on cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and somatic therapies. This means it will likely be compatible with your therapy and enhance what you’re learning there.