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Trust Yourself Again, Feel Sane, And Experience More Peace After Abuse & Neglect

If you’re currently in therapy, you can experience real, lasting healing and relief.

If you want to end the constant fawning, people-pleasing, and sense of helplessness, I can help.

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Trust Yourself Again, Feel Sane, And Experience More Peace After Abuse & Neglect​

If you’re currently in therapy, you can experience real, lasting healing and relief.

If you want to end the constant fawning, people-pleasing, and sense of helplessness, I can help.

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Are you struggling to experience peace, self-worth, self-trust, or relief after dealing with codependency, abuse, or neglect?

If so, you need to hear this…

It isn’t you.
 
It is what you’ve been taught and what you’ve not been taught that is the problem.
 
You are not, and never have been, the problem.
You see, I’ve personally experienced the struggle of getting real freedom from my codependent impulses of people-pleasing, rescuing, perfectionism, and playing the martyr.
 
I’ve also worked with over 700 codependents who faced the same struggle.  You, I and them all faced the same aggravating, heart-breaking problem: getting pulled back into our codependent impulses.
 
Here’s what I discovered:

Therapy had been addressing the symptoms, not the cause, of my codependency.

Most therapists, coaches, mentors, and codependents think that codependency is what needs to be healed, stopped, transcended, etc. .

Reality is this:

Codependency is a result of what you’ve been through, not who you are.  It is the SYMPTOM.

What you’ve been through has trained your body and brain to respond to relationships with people, places and things with a specific dominant reaction.

This dominant reaction is called “Fawning.”

This is the cause of codependency.

What is fawning?

It is the impulse to please another or appease them so you can feel safe, feel connection, and even have a sense of identity.

It shows up as:

  • Intense feelings of affection towards people after they stop hurting you
  • A sensation of getting small and submissive in response to someone’s attention or action towards you
  • An impulse to please, appease, or regulate them emotionally so you feel safer and lovable
  • A sense of connection when they approve of you or you make them feel good
 

To end your codependency, you must soothe your fawn response and get reconnected to reality and your personal power.

This is what I help codependents do.

I want to help you experience real, lasting relief from your codependency...

And experience more joy, peace, and safety being you...

Like most things, we either learn from personal experience or learn it from another

I’ve learned over the past 14 years of healing my own codependency what is required to find relief and begin experiencing the peace, freedom, and well-being we are each naturally worthy of having. This is what I aim to help you begin to experience through…

THE HEALING CODEPENDENCY ESSENTIAL TRAININGS

Students share that they feel more clear about their codependent impulses, are able to shift to interdependent options, feel more free from fawning, and more powerful in their own body and personhood.

My students follow a specific approach that gently guides them in understanding their codependent impulses, the needs that drive those impulses, and how to fulfill them while disengaging the fawning impulse that activates their codependency.

This approach utilizes a “bit-by-bit” technique that helps the mind, body, and nervous system adapt to the changes happening in their lives without causing more anxiety and pain.

This approach targets core areas of one’s life and persona that were attacked and harmed through the abuse and neglect they experienced, including:

  • Their experience of what is real
  • Their sense of personal power and legitimacy
  • Their limits and boundaries
 

Self-doubt, distrust of self, and the codependent behaviors of people-pleasing, fawning, playing small, and being invisible end – naturally. 

All by soothing the fawn response and reconnecting to reality and personal power.

In this 8-module training, you are gently guided through decoding your codependency, connecting with reality, soothing your fawn response (aka people-pleasing impulse), and taking back your personal power and authority.

You aren’t doing this alone, either. You and your fellow survivors aid and support each other in shifting into one’s own advocacy and healing aggression.

This is what we do in The Healing Codependency Essential Trainings.

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I Have Two Intentions For You When You Join The Healing Codependency Essential Trainings:

1) That you are able to identify your codependent impulses, fantasies, the needs that drive them, and shift to reality and healthy interdependent behaviors
 
AND
 
2) Soothe your fawn response and experience peace and power instead

My desire is that you experience the healing power connecting to your healthy, assertive self.

Because, when you don't...

You lapse back into people-pleasing

You seek out familiar kinds of relationships

Repeat old wounds and traumas

Condemn yourself and lose faith in yourself

Turn away healthy friendships and relationship opportunities

Suffer in isolation and loneliness

You can enjoy being you.  You can have real love.  You can enjoy your life.

You can feel confident, safe, and at peace being the person you are.

 
Understanding your codependent impulses, connecting to reality, and soothing your fawn response make this possible for you.

I struggled for decades with feeling safe and confident, even after 10 years of trauma therapy and deep work on my codependent impulses…

I was missing the essential steps of understanding what my codependency was trying to get me in my life and soothing the fawning response so I could connect with my own healthy aggression.

I found confidence, peace, and power I never knew when I discovered this essential piece of healing.

I am excited to help you to experience the same.  Quickly.

Teaching this is one of my most favorite activities I do.

Because it creates change so quickly and deeply for survivors like you and I.

Join the 700+ students who have experienced my trainings and experience for yourself more freedom, peace, and care.

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Come Join Us In This Adventure Discovering Who We Are Beyond Codependency

Experience Who You Are Without Fawning

Here's how I will guide you in making that your reality:

FOCUS ONE: MASTERING THE 4 ESSENTIAL CODEPENDENCY HEALING PRACTICES

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TRAINING ONE: UNDERSTAND THE CAUSE, SOOTHE THE CAUSE

Understanding the actual cause of codependency helps you understand why it is happening, and allows you to intervene and reprogram that cause through body-based soothing practices, so the impulse for codependent behaviors is reduced and eventually replaced with confidence and inward security.

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TRAINING TWO: RESTORE YOUR NATURAL, INNATE VALIDITY

Abuse and neglect taught you to believe that you are not valid, real, or legitimate.  This undermines your ability to access and value your feelings, your wants, your needs, and your boundaries, leaving you vulnerable to further harm and manipulation. 
 
This training teaches you how to access your inherent validity and start building trust in it again, starting you on the journey of healing your self-doubt and of believing your feelings, wants, needs, and lived experience again. 
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TRAINING THREE: RECONNECT WITH YOUR NATURAL COMPLETENESS & INHERENT WORTH

Much of codependency is an attempt to try to feel valuable, worthy, and lovable.  This seeking of worth outside yourself leaves you exposed to painful rejection, manipulation, and love-bombing.

This training guides you into experiencing your natural wholeness and intrinsic worth, helping you begin to heal any internalized sense of worthlessness and shame.  This is done through a gentle trust-focused practice.

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TRAINING FOUR: RECONNECT WITH YOUR LIVED REALITY & EMOTIONAL VALIDITIY​

Much of the time, codependents do not feel real or valid.  They question their lived experiences and the emotions they feel.  They wonder if they should be feeling differently or if they can trust their own perception and reality.

This training guides you in healing this devastating trauma to your own self-trust through showing you how to acknowledge, legitimize, and integrate your lived reality and the emotions you feel. 

FOCUS TWO: DECODE YOUR CODEPENDENCY AND TAKE BACK YOUR SANITY AND PERSONAL POWER

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TRAINING ONE: UNDERSTAND YOUR CODEPENDENT IMPULSES

Codependency is our best attempt at meeting our core needs.

Understanding how your need to please, fix, control, avoid conflict, blend in, be small, or be perfect connects to your needs for safety, connection, and identity will help you see better ways to get those needs met.

I guide you through identifying these impulses, what needs they are addressing, and map out new, healthy alternative actions and behaviors to use.

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TRAINING TWO: END THE FANTASY, CONNECT WITH REALITY

Codependency depends on fantasy to survive.  OUr health, happiness, and well-being depend on reality to thrive.

I gently, softly guide you through identifying your fantasies, identify reality, and begin trusting and integrating that experience.

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TRAINING THREE: SOOTHE THE FAWN RESPONSE

The impulse to please, to shower love on an abuser that stopped harming you for a moment, and the feeling of responsibility for their pain are all signals of fawning.

Fawning is trying to protect you.  It believes you are unsafe with this person (or many persons), so it seeks to create safety for you through pleasing and appeasing others.

We soothe this impulse through nervous system care, euphoria breaking, and reconnecting to our inward safety spaces.

I guide you through this powerful series of practices, helping you experience who you are beyond the fawn response.

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TRAINING FOUR: TAKE BACK YOUR PERSONHOOD

We often feel powerless when we’re in our codependent impulses.  This is because power has been given to those outside of ourselves. 
 
To heal, we must reclaim our personal space and autonomy so we can access our power.
 
In this training, I guide you in discovering and embodying your 2 Rights and tapping into what your REAL power and responsibility are.

FOCUS THREE: NURTURE YOUR NEEDS

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STEP ONE: IDENTIFY THE NEED

We don’t know our needs.  We don’t know their signal. And we don’t know how to identify and label them.

This is because of the neglect we’ve endured.  We were not given reflective feedback that helped us learn to reference and tune into ourselves.

Students exit this step understanding how to tune into and understand their needs and how they show up.  They also can identify their 10 Core Needs.

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STEP TWO: KNOW THE NEED

Needs and how they are fulfilled are unique to each person.  Because we are not connected to our needs, we have not come to know them. 

Students in this step discover how to know their need by identifying:

  • How their 10 Core Needs each speak to them through body-based signals
  • How each need gets fulfilled
  • How each need behaves

 

Each student exits this step being able to describe what their need is and how that need gets their attention and how it gets fulfilled.

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STEP THREE: NURTURE THE NEED

Nurturing our needs requires structure, routine, and practice.  The Nurture Process™ helps students:

  • Self-nurture through inward practices that connect them to internal resources for comfort, care, and nourishment
  • Develop interpersonal nurture by identifying healthy, safe people who respond to their needs in the way those needs work
  • Build reliable resources within themselves and within their social network so they can sustain their well-being and nurture

 

This is where students experience reconnection, care, and belonging again in their lives.

THE TRAINING DETAILS:

The Training Details:

    • Length: 16 total modules. Go at your own pace in taking each module
    • Each module includes a 2-hour training & weekly practices for homework
    • Weekly practices take around 20 minutes on average a day
    • Classes are provided in video and audio (mp3) format
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The Training Outline:

FOCUS ONE

Module One:

Topic: Understand and Sooth The Cause of Codependency

Module Two:
Topic: Restore Your Natural, Innate Validity and Legitimacy

Module Three:
Topic: Reconnect With Your Natural Completeness and Worth

Module Four:
Topic: Restore Trust In Your Lived Experience And Emotions

 

FOCUS TWO

Module One:

Topic: Decoding Your Codependency & Mapping New Responses

Module Two:
Topic: Identifying Your Fantasies and Connecting To Reality

Module Three:
Topic: Soothing the Fawn Response

Module Four:
Topic: Taking Back Your Power

 

FOCUS THREE

Module One:

Topic: Neglect And Restoration

Module Two:
Topic: Identifying Your Needs & Legitimizing Them

Module Three:
Topic: Connecting With The Inner Child(ren)

Module Four:
Topic: Intrapersonal Nurture

Module Five:
Topic: Interpersonal Nurture

Module Six:
Topic: Capacity

Module Seven:
Topic: Care

Module Eight:
Topic: Adjusting To Nurture


WHO THIS IS FOR

This Course Is Designed For Individuals That:

  • Identify with being a codependent
  • That struggle with trusting their own perceptions of reality
  • That doubt their feelings and senses
  • That wonder what is real
  • That feel unreal or invisible
  • That are struggling to get process in their own therapy and healing
  • That are seeking more peace, freedom, and happiness
  • That want to be themselves without fear, guilt, or shame
  • That want themselves back

There are Pre-requesites To Attend This Course:

  • Must be in therapy or seeking a trauma therapist or be willing to find one if advised
  • Must be in or seeking a support community online and in real life
  • Willing to do the work and take it at their own pace
  • Understand there is no quick-fix or instant healing; it takes persistence and curiosity instead
  • Understand that Marshall is not a therapist; he’s a trauma-informed coach and mentor
  • Agree to 100% responsibility for the actions and choices you take in this course

IF THIS IS YOU, ENROLL BELOW:

LIFETIME
ACCESS

$ 297 Lifetime Access
  • Focus One: The 4 Essential Concepts and Trainings For Healing Codependency
  • Focus Two: Decoding Your Codependency
  • Focus Three: Nurturing Your Needs
  • The Codependency Healing Tools & Meditations Library ($97)
  • Complete Guide With All Practices And Tools
  • Video & MP3 Versions Included
FULL PAYMENT
$297.00
2-MONTH PAYPLAN
($150 x 2)
3-MONTH PAYPLAN
($99 x 3)

UPGRADE TO THE
FULL SYSTEM

$ 997
  • Unlimited Access To The 6-Focus, 39+ Training System
  • The Codependency Healing Tools & Meditations Library ($97)
  • The 5 Support Courses (HEAL, Thrive Strategy, Reclaiming Innocence, RapidHEAL Guides) ($997)
PAY IN FULL
$997
2-MONTH PAYPLAN
($500 x 2)
3-MONTH PAYPLAN
($333 x 3)
6-MONTH PAYPLAN
($167 x 6)
12-MONTH PAYPLAN
($83 x 12)

REAL PEOPLE. REAL RESULTS.

REAL PEOPLE SHARING THEIR JOURNEY

WHO IS MARSHALL?

I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING  TO BE THEMSELVES.

After 25 years of codependency and 13 years of freedom from it, I’ve experienced a lot of emotional, relational, and mental terrain that come with knowing, loving, and living who you are.
 
I’ve built healthy, secure intimate and platonic relationships, resilient self-worth, self-trust, and peace in my personal life after a life of trauma, depression, social isolation, and failed relationships.
 
Today, I help survivors experience for themselves peace, love, connection, and the joy of knowing, loving, and living who they are.
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