You’re nervous and unsure how to date without getting sucked into another abusive, painful relationship.
Further, you may not be sure what to even look for that would tell you if the person you’re seeing is healthy, safe and a good risk for you to take.
This makes dating scary, foreboding, and even paralyzing to the point you don’t take the risk.
Yep. Control. In the driver’s seat. You’d finally be the one with the advantage that gives you a sense of security, confidence and insight into what was happening.
You’d be able to:
Hi! I’m Marshall Burtcher.
Before I found my freedom from codependency, I was suffering in a nightmare of cyclical abuse with my parents, stuck in a dead-end marriage, and barely coping with my shame, panic, and trauma.
I found myself on the edge of suicide, trying to run from the monsters in my head and the voices that told me I was worthless, harmful, and I deserved all the crazy-making, emotionally harmful behavior I’d lived with for over 30 years.
My codependency had led me to destroy my marriage, my financial security, and my friendships because I felt so entirely unworthy and so desparately needed others to validate me so I could feel worthy.
I believed that to be lovable, I must be loved first. Without being loved, I was no longer lovable.
This changed when I took a leap of faith and decided that codependency and my toxic behaviors were a result of my experience, not the expression of who I am.
The healing that occurred within a year of that choice was so profound that I became an advocate for a new point of view: that codependency was a survival response to the threat of being discarded. I call it, “The Discard Trauma”.
Fast-forward from 2008 to today and I have helped over 750+ people find happiness, some for the first time, with my unique systems of healing.
Today I’m a proud father of 2, a fun boyfriend, and a mentor that is obsessed with eliminating codependency in your world and making happiness a day-to-day reality for you.
Hi! I’m Marshall Burtcher.
Before I found my freedom from codependency, I was suffering in a nightmare of cyclical abuse with my parents, stuck in a dead-end marriage, and barely coping with my shame, panic, and trauma.
I found myself on the edge of suicide, trying to run from the monsters in my head and the voices that told me I was worthless, harmful, and I deserved all the crazy-making, emotionally harmful behavior I’d lived with for over 30 years.
My codependency had led me to destroy my marriage, my financial security, and my friendships because I felt so entirely unworthy and so desparately needed others to validate me so I could feel worthy.
I believed that to be lovable, I must be loved first. Without being loved, I was no longer lovable.
This changed when I took a leap of faith and decided that codependency and my toxic behaviors were a result of my experience, not the expression of who I am.
The healing that occurred within a year of that choice was so profound that I became an advocate for a new point of view: that codependency was a survival response to the threat of being discarded. I call it, “The Discard Trauma”.
Fast-forward from 2008 to today and I have helped over 750+ people find happiness, some for the first time, with my unique systems of healing.
Today I’m a proud father of 2, a fun boyfriend, and a mentor that is obsessed with eliminating codependency in your world and making happiness a day-to-day reality for you.
Codependency and narcissistic abuse brought with it profound neglect of how to identify healthy people and cultivate healthy connection with them.
This also makes most modern dating approaches ill-suited for the specific needs ex-codependents have, including:
DATING 101 gives you this roadmap and wisdom so your dating is safe, fulfilling, and ultimately successful.
Codependency and narcissistic abuse brought with it profound neglect of how to identify healthy people and cultivate healthy connection with them.
This also makes most modern dating approaches ill-suited for the specific needs ex-codependents have, including:
DATING 101 gives you this roadmap and wisdom so your dating is safe, fulfilling, and ultimately successful.
You will understand if you’re ready to date or not, how to confront the Codependent Fantasy, and address the “Bare-minimum” problem in your relationship maps and expectations, and how to address Pitfall #1: What Am I Ignoring?
You will be able to discern patterns of behavior, understand if someone is truth-worthy or not, and identify healthy and unhealthy patterns through my set of Pattern Questions and worksheets to reveal the truth, and address Pitfall #2: Undo Tolerance
You’ll be able to determine if you’re losing yourself in the relationship, get yourself back into your territory, and discern between Connection and Enmeshment quickly , as well as Pitfall #3 (yep, not gonna give this one away).
This shift is critical to your success in dating. I show you how to make that happen by understanding the 4 Phases of Dating as well as confronting the biggest Pitfall you’ll face (Pitfall #4: Rushing)
Get the expert mentorship you need to navigate your dating experience. Over the course of 4 workshops, you will learn what to look for, when to call it quits, and more.
Get out of the fog of “not being sure” and make sense of what you’re experiencing with my guides and assessments.
You will understand if you’re ready to date or not, how to confront the Codependent Fantasy, and address the “Bare-minimum” problem in your relationship maps and expectations, and how to address Pitfall #1: What Am I Ignoring?
Tobhiyah came to me seeking brilliance and freedom from past trauma of abandonment and neglect. Within a few months, she met her future husband and has gone on to create a thriving marriage and business.
Dorann believed she’d never heal and never find real, healthy love. But through the processes of RapidHEAL™, she discovered how wrong she was. Today she’s happily married to a healthy, loving man an has a thriving wedding business.
Sondra was lost in trying to define a concrete direction after her divorce from a narcissistic spouse. Using the Dating 101 approach, she found a man that she adores and that adores her
Ask your questions, get answers from myself and other students, experience understanding and connection, and build friendships.
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Classes: 1.5 hours once a week
Daily Practices: 15-60 minutes a day depending on the course
Yes, it does. My courses are built on mindfulness-based practices and cognitive exploration exercises.
Yep. I encourage you to! Students report massive results doing the practices 3 times a week or less sometimes. The trick is to be CONSISTENT and FOCUSED in your follow-through.
Reach out to our staff and we’ll get you more direction for your situation!
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