Category: Relationships

Boundaries & Internalizing Others

A thought on parenting one’s self: Being boundaried means parenting your inner reactions. For example, a boundary I have been practicing is to not internalize

4 Gems For Your Journey

Talking with a few clients today brought out some deep gems I want to share with you: 1) Codependency often focuses on us tailoring our

Saying No Should Feel Safe

Saying no in healthy relationships is safe and will, eventually, feel safe. Being told no in healthy relationships is safe and will, eventually, feel safe.

Are you being replaced or being kept?

One of the things from my abuse that haunt me still is the “you’re replaceable” message I received growing up. In the Consumer-Supply relationship, the

[BEING YOU = VALUE]

Did you know that you deserve to be valued as you are? Did you know value and worth have nothing to do with how well

Patterns of Behavior – What You Need to Know

“How do I know they’ve changed?” “How can I know they’re safe?” Patterns of Behavior are how. But we often misunderstand what this means. Here’s

Conflict: Getting to Connection Again

Note: This article is one several discussing people-pleasing, love, connection, and my approach to each. Conflicts are a fascination for me. They’re dreaded by most

Love Equations: People-pleasing

Note: This article is one several discussing people-pleasing, love, connection, and my approach to each. People-pleasing is personal for me. I grew up in a

Conflict & Connection: Be Right or Be Connected

Connection or being right – that’s often the binary in conversation (especially in conflict). Have you noticed that most of what people discuss these days

The Control We Want is Magical Thinking

Control. So many of us crave it. I crave it. I bet you do, too. We believe if we have control, we will have safety.