
Boundaries & Internalizing Others
A thought on parenting one’s self: Being boundaried means parenting your inner reactions. For example, a boundary I have been practicing is to not internalize
A thought on parenting one’s self: Being boundaried means parenting your inner reactions. For example, a boundary I have been practicing is to not internalize
Talking with a few clients today brought out some deep gems I want to share with you: 1) Codependency often focuses on us tailoring our
Saying no in healthy relationships is safe and will, eventually, feel safe. Being told no in healthy relationships is safe and will, eventually, feel safe.
One of the things from my abuse that haunt me still is the “you’re replaceable” message I received growing up. In the Consumer-Supply relationship, the
Did you know that you deserve to be valued as you are? Did you know value and worth have nothing to do with how well
“How do I know they’ve changed?” “How can I know they’re safe?” Patterns of Behavior are how. But we often misunderstand what this means. Here’s
Note: This article is one several discussing people-pleasing, love, connection, and my approach to each. Conflicts are a fascination for me. They’re dreaded by most
Note: This article is one several discussing people-pleasing, love, connection, and my approach to each. People-pleasing is personal for me. I grew up in a
Connection or being right – that’s often the binary in conversation (especially in conflict). Have you noticed that most of what people discuss these days
Control. So many of us crave it. I crave it. I bet you do, too. We believe if we have control, we will have safety.
This is an necessary category.
This is an non-necessary category.