Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging
Note: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one’s own behaviors. Please check in with your
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Category: Loving Yourself
Why You Care About What Other People Think And What To Do About It
You can listen to the Podcast and YouTube version here: “I’m not supposed to care what people think” Do you try to get yourself to
How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again – The 3 Habits That Are Causing You More Pain
You can listen to this episode on YouTube or the Podcast here: There are three habits we do with emotions that tend to trap and
A bit on “being enough”…
That’s not your job. That’s not even attainable. Because “enoughness” isn’t real. There’s compatibility and incompatibility. There’s fit and not-fit. There’s expansion and contraction. There’s
Play Is Part Of Healing And Care
Care of self… It includes pleasure. It includes play. It includes a bit of indulgence. You see, part of care for the nervous system and
Undue Tolerance
Normally, tolerance is a benefit to a relationship. It inspires love, connection, relational flexibility, understanding. But in toxic systems, tolerance becomes a quick-sand trap, leading
Feeling Safe In My Body Looks Like…
What does feeling safe in my body look like? It looks like: – Me responding with care to my emotions when they arise. This care
4 Gems For Your Journey
Talking with a few clients today brought out some deep gems I want to share with you: 1) Codependency often focuses on us tailoring our
Choosing Myself, Over and Over
“You’ve got nothing to prove…” This saying drove me crazy as a codependent. “Of course I do. How else will I exist? How else will
Shame swamped me, so I did this…
The morning hours are when I have the most clear contact with my inner world. It is when the pain, joy, or stillness is most