Category: Knowing Yourself

Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self?

Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self? The fawn response focuses our mind and awareness outside ourselves. In my work, I

What Replaces Codependency As You Heal?

Codependency is a strategy the body creates in order to preserve a sense of safety, connection, and self-worth within a chaotic, unsafe, unreliable relationship. The

Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging

Note: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one’s own behaviors. Please check in with your

A bit on “being enough”…

That’s not your job. That’s not even attainable. Because “enoughness” isn’t real. There’s compatibility and incompatibility. There’s fit and not-fit. There’s expansion and contraction. There’s

Play Is Part Of Healing And Care

Care of self… It includes pleasure. It includes play. It includes a bit of indulgence. You see, part of care for the nervous system and

The Prevention Impulse And What Comes After – My Own Journey

Part of my codependency was the habit of “prevention”. This habit is a fawn response tangled a bit with flight and fight, depending on the

Confronting The Codependent Fantasy

“What is real?” This is a question that frequently shakes me when clients and students ask it to me.The asking of it reveals the deep

Feeling Safe In My Body Looks Like…

What does feeling safe in my body look like? It looks like: – Me responding with care to my emotions when they arise. This care

Sometimes It’s Not Trauma, But Guidance Talking

As you heal and come more attuned to your own voice and sense of self and others, you may discover something a bit weird happening:

Do You Struggle to “Believe In Yourself”?

Do You Struggle to “Believe In Yourself”? I did. For most of my life. I would try to talk myself up, build my self-esteem, praise