What Replaces Codependency As You Heal?
Codependency is a strategy the body creates in order to preserve a sense of safety, connection, and self-worth within a chaotic, unsafe, unreliable relationship. The
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Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging
Note: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one’s own behaviors. Please check in with your
A bit on “being enough”…
That’s not your job. That’s not even attainable. Because “enoughness” isn’t real. There’s compatibility and incompatibility. There’s fit and not-fit. There’s expansion and contraction. There’s
Play Is Part Of Healing And Care
Care of self… It includes pleasure. It includes play. It includes a bit of indulgence. You see, part of care for the nervous system and
The Prevention Impulse And What Comes After – My Own Journey
Part of my codependency was the habit of “prevention”. This habit is a fawn response tangled a bit with flight and fight, depending on the
Confronting The Codependent Fantasy
“What is real?” This is a question that frequently shakes me when clients and students ask it to me.The asking of it reveals the deep
Feeling Safe In My Body Looks Like…
What does feeling safe in my body look like? It looks like: – Me responding with care to my emotions when they arise. This care
Sometimes It’s Not Trauma, But Guidance Talking
As you heal and come more attuned to your own voice and sense of self and others, you may discover something a bit weird happening:
Do You Struggle to “Believe In Yourself”?
Do You Struggle to “Believe In Yourself”? I did. For most of my life. I would try to talk myself up, build my self-esteem, praise
Do You Struggle To Hear Your Own Voice?
You can listen to this on YouTube or the podcast here: If you were punished, discarded, shamed, or attacked for voicing your own perspectives, feelings,