Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging
Note: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one’s own behaviors. Please check in with your
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Category: Indomitable Worth
Why You Care About What Other People Think And What To Do About It
You can listen to the Podcast and YouTube version here: “I’m not supposed to care what people think” Do you try to get yourself to
The trap of “becoming a better person”
“Gotta be a better person…” No. Not for me, at least. I grew up under the concept that I was inherently sinful, bad, wrong, and
Self-trust & One’s Sense of Worth
From a codependent perspective, one’s worth is dependent on what an external authority or person says or does, or doesn’t say or do. Sometimes the
A bit on “being enough”…
That’s not your job. That’s not even attainable. Because “enoughness” isn’t real. There’s compatibility and incompatibility. There’s fit and not-fit. There’s expansion and contraction. There’s
Self-Doubt Is Not Natural
Self-trust is your first natural state. Self-doubt is alien to your actual nature. Self-doubt was placed there through the self-doubt of others, of whom received
Self-Trust & Natural Completeness
The idea that one’s value is fully determined by their utility (aka productivity or how much they please another) is the root of one’s sense
You Were Taught To Question Your Worth
Something to ponder: When were you taught to question your worth? This happened from the get-go for me, but not in a directly abusive way.
Do You Struggle to “Believe In Yourself”?
Do You Struggle to “Believe In Yourself”? I did. For most of my life. I would try to talk myself up, build my self-esteem, praise