Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging
Note: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one’s own behaviors. Please check in with your
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Category: Emotional Health
Moving Beyond Ill-intent
#thrivingbeyondcodependency #advancedemotionalcare What I share below is an advanced form of emotional relating. It is a work in progress in my own life, something I
Why You Care About What Other People Think And What To Do About It
You can listen to the Podcast and YouTube version here: “I’m not supposed to care what people think” Do you try to get yourself to
The trap of “becoming a better person”
“Gotta be a better person…” No. Not for me, at least. I grew up under the concept that I was inherently sinful, bad, wrong, and
How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again – The 3 Habits That Are Causing You More Pain
You can listen to this episode on YouTube or the Podcast here: There are three habits we do with emotions that tend to trap and
Boundaries & Internalizing Others
A thought on parenting one’s self: Being boundaried means parenting your inner reactions. For example, a boundary I have been practicing is to not internalize
What healing is to me…
Another thought from my journey so far… Healing, for me, is about care and nurturing myself. This means there is pain. This means there are
Undue Tolerance
Normally, tolerance is a benefit to a relationship. It inspires love, connection, relational flexibility, understanding. But in toxic systems, tolerance becomes a quick-sand trap, leading
The 5 Truths
I thought I’d never heal from my need for codependency. After all, it was how I loved others. It was how I felt loved, seen,
Is it fawning or is it love?
The fawn response can induce feelings of affection within a survivor towards an abuser or threat. These feelings motivate the survivor to appeal and please