Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self?
Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self? The fawn response focuses our mind and awareness outside ourselves. In my work, I
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Category: Codependent Habits
Essentials: Reclaim Yourself From Enmeshment Through Connecting To Your Innate Sovereignty
Codependency externalizes our sense of authority, personhood, worth, and experience. It outsources these factors to people we feel connected to and dependent on for our
Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging
Note: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one’s own behaviors. Please check in with your
Moving Beyond Ill-intent
#thrivingbeyondcodependency #advancedemotionalcare What I share below is an advanced form of emotional relating. It is a work in progress in my own life, something I
The trap of “becoming a better person”
“Gotta be a better person…” No. Not for me, at least. I grew up under the concept that I was inherently sinful, bad, wrong, and
How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again – The 3 Habits That Are Causing You More Pain
You can listen to this episode on YouTube or the Podcast here: There are three habits we do with emotions that tend to trap and
Empathizing With Their Pain While Denying Your Pain…
A thought on creating sanity for yourself: Once I stopped empathizing with the trauma I assumed was behind their abusive behaviors and making up stories
Self-trust Is The Opposite of Codependency
In codependency, trust others as the authority over you (and distrust your own authority). They define what you should be feeling, thinking, doing, and being.
A bit on “being enough”…
That’s not your job. That’s not even attainable. Because “enoughness” isn’t real. There’s compatibility and incompatibility. There’s fit and not-fit. There’s expansion and contraction. There’s
Boundaries & Internalizing Others
A thought on parenting one’s self: Being boundaried means parenting your inner reactions. For example, a boundary I have been practicing is to not internalize