Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging
Note: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one’s own behaviors. Please check in with your
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Category: Codependency
Moving Beyond Ill-intent
#thrivingbeyondcodependency #advancedemotionalcare What I share below is an advanced form of emotional relating. It is a work in progress in my own life, something I
Why You Care About What Other People Think And What To Do About It
You can listen to the Podcast and YouTube version here: “I’m not supposed to care what people think” Do you try to get yourself to
How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again – The 3 Habits That Are Causing You More Pain
You can listen to this episode on YouTube or the Podcast here: There are three habits we do with emotions that tend to trap and
Empathizing With Their Pain While Denying Your Pain…
A thought on creating sanity for yourself: Once I stopped empathizing with the trauma I assumed was behind their abusive behaviors and making up stories
Self-trust Is Healing Work
Self-trust has taken me into an important, delicate arena of trauma and connection. This arena is the space of social attachment. This presents itself as
Self-trust Is The Opposite of Codependency
In codependency, trust others as the authority over you (and distrust your own authority). They define what you should be feeling, thinking, doing, and being.
Self-Trust & Perfectionism
Just pondering perfectionism a bit as I work on The Self-Trust Course… Its a bit ironic, don’t you think? Self-trust is, in a way, the
Boundaries & Internalizing Others
A thought on parenting one’s self: Being boundaried means parenting your inner reactions. For example, a boundary I have been practicing is to not internalize
The Prevention Impulse And What Comes After – My Own Journey
Part of my codependency was the habit of “prevention”. This habit is a fawn response tangled a bit with flight and fight, depending on the