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Do You Struggle To Hear Your Own Voice?

You can listen to this on YouTube or the podcast here: If you were punished, discarded, shamed, or attacked for voicing your own perspectives, feelings,

The S.A.D. Cycle: The Origin Of Codependency

Codependency is a symptom of two cycles happening in the background. Those cycles are: The S.A.D. Cycle The E.D.D. Cycle Today we’re exploring the S.A.D.

Are You Hurting Yourself By Seeking Lessons from Your Trauma?

I grew up in a culture that sought meaning in just about everything. Why didn’t the rain come when I prayed? Why did that person

Are you being replaced or being kept?

One of the things from my abuse that haunt me still is the “you’re replaceable” message I received growing up. In the Consumer-Supply relationship, the

FOCUS – Are you sabotaging your healing and happiness this way?

Are you doing this? 1) Focusing on fixing your shame while… 2) Focusing on fixing your thinking while… 3) Focusing on getting a better job

Take Back Power in Your Happiness And Healing

Father’s Day. This and Mother’s Day are laced with odd patches of emptiness for me. Neglect is the hallmark of my childhood. It was all

Are you mimicking?

Mimicking. It is one of the superpowers of codependency. It is born out of desperation to get some sense of control over one’s environment and

Are You Living This Fantasy?

It looks like this: You’re deeply enamored with them. You catch every little signal on their face. You’ve memorized the sway of their body as

A secret that makes my approach to healing codependency and trauma so damn successful

You’re treating yourself like an object instead of a being. You regard your value as something that competes for importance or recognition or approval. You’ve

[BEING YOU = VALUE]

Did you know that you deserve to be valued as you are? Did you know value and worth have nothing to do with how well