Seeking Permission is Seeking Protection
[Seeking Permission is Seeking Protection] I have a little foggy part of my thinking that is always seeking permission from others for something. Permission to be me, namely. Be me in business. Be...
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Ouch! Healing Broken and Aborted Attachment
Codependency being a coping mechanism serves several purposes for us. It attempts to be a surrogate for stable emotional connections with others. It tries to be a means of getting emotional, physical, and mental...
The Arenas of Perfectionism
The Arenas of Perfectionism Often perfectionism is spoken of as a lump-sum kind of thing. I’ve been exploring it a bit lately and, so far, found that there are 4 areas where perfectionism really...
When Saying No is Scary
Saying no is scary. And it makes sense that it is for you. Saying no may have led to being emotionally abandoned. Saying no may have resulted in physical abuse. Saying no might have...
Shame and Who You Are
Have you felt a reaction of shame when you think about who you are? Is this specific to certain aspects of yourself, or is it more general? Did you know that this is not...
Guilt and Enabling: How It Traps You
Guilt and Enabling. These two are hand-in-glove. Here’s the scenario: The other person is being immature. Maybe they’re breaking their word. Perhaps they keep crossing a boundary. Maybe we just don’t want what they’re...
Do you have a Love Wound?
The Love Wound Codependency is not who you are and it is not something you have to cope with. In reality, codependency is how we survived LOVE NEGLECT. It was the survival strategy our...
Feeling Safe Being Loved
Feeling safe being loved What would that be like? Have you felt unsafe letting others love you? Have you felt unsafe when someone says they love you? Were you immediately guarded and reserved? Did...
When Mother’s Day Strikes
Holidays like Mother’s Day and Father’s Day… Can be a minefield of sorts for us. Maybe we’ve been asked to attend a family dinner. Maybe there is a pressure or sense of being expected...
Trauma and Codependency
Trauma and codependency… Go hand-in-glove. Codependency is the coping mechanism you created in order to survive the trauma of being love shamed and love deprived. It is the strategy that gave you some control...
