Are you being replaced or being kept?
One of the things from my abuse that haunt me still is the “you’re replaceable” message I received growing up. In the Consumer-Supply relationship, the
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The Arenas of Perfectionism
The Arenas of Perfectionism Often perfectionism is spoken of as a lump-sum kind of thing. I’ve been exploring it a bit lately and, so far,
When Saying No is Scary
Saying no is scary. And it makes sense that it is for you. Saying no may have led to being emotionally abandoned. Saying no may
Shame and Who You Are
Have you felt a reaction of shame when you think about who you are? Is this specific to certain aspects of yourself, or is it
Guilt and Enabling: How It Traps You
Guilt and Enabling. These two are hand-in-glove. Here’s the scenario: The other person is being immature. Maybe they’re breaking their word. Perhaps they keep crossing
Do you have a Love Wound?
The Love Wound Codependency is not who you are and it is not something you have to cope with. In reality, codependency is how we
Feeling Safe Being Loved
Feeling safe being loved What would that be like? Have you felt unsafe letting others love you? Have you felt unsafe when someone says they
When Mother’s Day Strikes
Holidays like Mother’s Day and Father’s Day… Can be a minefield of sorts for us. Maybe we’ve been asked to attend a family dinner. Maybe
Trauma and Codependency
Trauma and codependency… Go hand-in-glove. Codependency is the coping mechanism you created in order to survive the trauma of being love shamed and love deprived.
Victim, hero, watermains
Being the victim is wayyyy too natural. Just today I had the opportunity to choose between hero and victim. This morning (July 15, 2017), I