Why You Care About What Other People Think And What To Do About It
You can listen to the Podcast and YouTube version here: “I’m not supposed to care what people think” Do you try to get yourself to
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Category: Acceptance
The trap of “becoming a better person”
“Gotta be a better person…” No. Not for me, at least. I grew up under the concept that I was inherently sinful, bad, wrong, and
A Paradox With Feeling Safe
There’s a paradox about nurturing safety… Safety is not the lack of intense emotion, or of feeling anxiety, unsure, or even insecure. These are emotions
Do You Struggle To Hear Your Own Voice?
You can listen to this on YouTube or the podcast here: If you were punished, discarded, shamed, or attacked for voicing your own perspectives, feelings,
Are you being replaced or being kept?
One of the things from my abuse that haunt me still is the “you’re replaceable” message I received growing up. In the Consumer-Supply relationship, the
Are you mimicking?
Mimicking. It is one of the superpowers of codependency. It is born out of desperation to get some sense of control over one’s environment and
Relief by letting others choose not to like or accept me
This is one of the odd, yet powerful, gains of Personal Sovereignty: the right of others to choose what and who they like and want
Being limited and flawed is essential to intimacy
[Being limited and flawed is essential to intimacy] Never thought you’d hear that, I bet. Have you noticed that people who project or attempt to
Make Gratitude Safe Again
[Make Gratitude Safe Again] Gratitude is often used to smother disappointment, hurt, loss, and grief. Our genuine feelings go unaddressed and acknowledged when we’re told,