Category: Abuse

Are You Hurting Yourself By Seeking Lessons from Your Trauma?

I grew up in a culture that sought meaning in just about everything. Why didn’t the rain come when I prayed? Why did that person

Are you being replaced or being kept?

One of the things from my abuse that haunt me still is the “you’re replaceable” message I received growing up. In the Consumer-Supply relationship, the

Take Back Power in Your Happiness And Healing

Father’s Day. This and Mother’s Day are laced with odd patches of emptiness for me. Neglect is the hallmark of my childhood. It was all

Are You Living This Fantasy?

It looks like this: You’re deeply enamored with them. You catch every little signal on their face. You’ve memorized the sway of their body as

[BEING YOU = VALUE]

Did you know that you deserve to be valued as you are? Did you know value and worth have nothing to do with how well

Patterns of Behavior – What You Need to Know

“How do I know they’ve changed?” “How can I know they’re safe?” Patterns of Behavior are how. But we often misunderstand what this means. Here’s

The Abuse Made Life Work Backwards For Us

Codependency and narcissistic abuse taught us to respond to the world in a backward way. Instead of conflict leading to comfort and understanding, it led

Do People with Toxic Behaviors Deserve Compassion?

I got this question from a few of y’all thanks to the posts as of late and it is an important one. I also am

Why You Can’t “Work Out” A Toxic Relationship

We often make the mistake of assuming all relationships start off with the same premise. This is understandable since we tend to give people the

Ouch! Healing Broken & Aborted Attachment

Codependency being a coping mechanism serves several purposes for us. It attempts to be a surrogate for stable emotional connections with others. It tries to