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People-pleasing is the habit of doing things for others that we believe will cause them to like or choose us. It is a form of worth-seeking that is driven by a fear that rejection defines one’s worth.
It is one of the six core expressions of codependency.
It’s opposite is being yourself, asking directly for what you want, and receiving the outcomes.
Learn what to do to disengage people-pleasing and make asking and sharing yourself safer and easier in today’s episode: