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Really, Actually Love Yourself With Ease And Do It Live With Marshall And Others...

Join me in The Actually Love Yourself Membership and let’s do this together!

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Marshall Burtcher – Helping codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists get aligned with their real worth, purpose, and satisfaction so they create a life they enjoy!

Introducing

All the power being lovingly coached and mentored without the massive cost

All the results of healing and change you desire without wasting more time, energy, or money

All the freedom, love, and peace you deserve

What would it mean for your life, your family, your happiness if you could immediately switch to feeling love for your *regardless* of circumstance or situation?

What would it mean for your friendships, your relationships, your dreams and desires if love was something easily tapped into rather than earned, chased, or forced?

These outcomes depend on you mastering the skill of loving yourself regardless of circumstance and outcome.  

This is what I teach and practice with you in the Actually Love Yourself Membership

BEGIN MASTERING THE ART OF LOVING YOURSELF

In February of 2012, I was weathering a divorce, bankruptcy, loss of close friendships, and the breakdown of my life. I hated myself, deeply. 

Shame, doubt, and severe judgment dominated my thoughts, feelings, and self-image.

By 2015, I had learned how to shift this quickly. 

Friendships were growing, my confidence expanding, my shame dropping, and I was building my business and life.

New romantic experiences, deeper friendships, more peace from trauma (abandonment and neglect, specifically), emerged and I found myself thriving.

This continues to grow today as I take on the challenges, desires, and dreams I have for my life.

What Would Being Able To Feel Love For Yourself At Any Time, In Any Place?

What Is THE ACTUALLY LOVE YOURSELF MEMBERSHIP?

The Actually Love Yourself Membership is a community coupled with twice-a-month live trainings and practice sessions that make loving yourself easy, fun, pleasant, and deeply supportive.  It is powered by my proven Actually Love Yourself 4-step Framework that uses somatic practices to integrate love and release anything that stands in the way of that love.

Body-focused Practices That Work

The Actually Love Yourself Membership practices uses body-focused practices to help your mind and body come together to experience safety, trust, and love within yourself.

You no longer have to force love, try to love yourself, or earn it.  Instead, you can apply the 4-step framework and begin feeling love for yourself quickly.

Love, Healing, And Growth That Scales With Your Life

Once you’re tapped into your natural ability to love yourself, you will find yourself advocating for yourself with more confidence, saying no with more ease and less guilt, feeling more clarity about your own values and desires, and enjoying an in-body sense of confidence.

You will live from the state of nurturing love for yourself, ending your eternal quest to be enough, be accepted, and belong.  Instead, you’ll enjoy those outcomes because they are a natural part of you.

WHAT THIS MEMBERSHIP IS NOT

This Membership Is Not...

A Short-Term Fix

Short-term fixes lead you into pits of despair and frustration. These set you up for more loss, discouragement, or even hopelessness.

Not A “Fix Myself” System

My work sees you as naturally whole, complete, and not in need of alteration to grow or succeed.  You do not need fixing.  You need to be known and warmly loved.

A Self-esteem Building System

Self-esteem is transactional, conditional worth cloaked in the promise that you can solve your insecurity by building yourself up. Real worth does need building. All that is required is you to come to know it, trust it, and be it.

Done-By-Yourself System

You’re not dumped into a course and expected to figure it out on your own.  Real healing and thriving needs connection, community, support, and guidance.  We’ve got your back in this work.

Hi, I'm Marshall Burtcher

...And I Hated Myself.

I lived with a deep shame, revulsion, and utter resentment towards myself.

This deep hatred led me to create painful, toxic relationships in my life. I used money, sex, and success to try to make myself “worthy”.

I chased after approval, sacrificing my self-trust, and even my health, for the hit of being liked or wanted.

Then, after my son was born, I had a wake-up call. I was barreling down the path to imploding my family.

So I sought out help.

I read sooo many books, did sooo many meditations, prayed and chanted all the mantras, did therapy – all resulting in more shame, more hatred, more resentment towards myself.

Then, in 2015, an unexpected breakthrough happened and I saw myself as lovable for the first time.

This shift set me on fire, driving me to go deeper in this emerging love of myself. I wanted to understand it, replicate it, and relish it.

Today, I enjoy a profound FEELING and SENSATION of love towards myself.

All because of 3 very simple, yet-not-obvious, shifts I made towards loving myself.

And I Help You Master These Shifts Through Live, Personal Practices And Trainings Twice A Month.

Here's Why You've FAILED TO LOVE YOURSELF...

If You’re Wondering Why You’re Experiencing…

  • No progress despite your efforts (two steps forward, one step back) in your healing efforts?
  • Confusion about what to do, when to do it, and how to do it?
  • The same repeating feelings of shame, guilt, and self-hate?
  • Tools, practices, and therapies that are not making any difference?
  • Feeling unworthy of loving yourself and no matter what you do, you can’t seem to change it?
  • A growing sense you’re not allowed to be loved or be lovable?
 

You’ve been encountering the same mistakes 1,000s of other survivors have in their efforts to love themselves:

  • Not having the right knowledge about what you’re facing and dealing with
  • Not having the correct tools and practices for the challenges you face and the results you seek
  • Not having the right support that can guide you in understanding how to use the knowledge and tools in YOUR problems and life, and celebrate and support you in your discoveries and challenges
  • Not having these things in the correct order so results become reliable, strong, and consistent for you

And It is NOT YOUR FAULT.

You’ve been given the wrong love map by society, family, and culture. 

All you need to succeed is the right map that connects you to the right tools in the right order.

The Truth About LOVING YOURSELF

I’ve been involved in personal healing and growth for 20+ years, and a mentor to codependents for 15+ years, and I have learned on crucial fact over and over:  If you have the right tools, knowledge, and support, you *naturally* heal.  If you’re not healing and growing,  it’s either the knowledge, the tools, or the support that are not correct.  The Actually Love Yourself Membership solves these problems.

What Makes The ACTUALLY LOVE YOURSELF MEMBERSHIP WORK?

Practice-Focused Design

Change does not happen through knowledge gathering or consumption.  It happens through practices designed to create the specific result you’re going for.

The Actually Love Yourself Membership’s design is based on this truth.  You will learn the essential, correct knowledge, and then pair that with practices that make that knowledge into experience, creating the results that lead to more peace, freedom, and joy in your daily life.

Accurate, Up-to-date Knowledge

I don’t teach a training once and let it stand. I actively update it’s materials and tools throughout the year.

These updates are inspired by a combination of my own ongoing training, healing, and feedback from students and their needs.  This makes the Actually Love Yourself Membership a living, dynamic membership that adapts to its students rather than students adapting to it.

Capacity-Led Pacing

Overwhelm, pressure, fear, and urgency sabotage real healing and real change.

This is why the Actually Love Yourself Membership is a gentle, twice-a-month system that is also deeply affordable so money is also not a stress factor.  This nurtures capacity for you to explore, experience, and adapt to loving yourself.

Community-Centered Learning

Learning and experiencing self-love alone and isolated does not work (ask me how I know!)

We need safe caring community to support, celebrate, and guide our efforts. 

This is why The Actually Love Yourself Membership includes live trainings, practice periods, and online communities for support, friendship, and care.

Unparalleled Support

Knowing that you have access to live trainings and practice periods makes this work easier, safer, and exponentially more effective than doing it on your own.

Proven, Real-life Results

The practices, knowledge, and support offered in the Actually Love Yourself Membership comes from over 15 years of teaching, practicing, and evolving the work of self-love.

This creates predictable results for students.

That’s the point right?  You deserve to get the results you’re investing in.

HOW THE MEMBERSHIP WORKS

TWICE-A-MONTH LIVE TRAININGS

Twice a month we meet together and apply the 4-Step Actually Love Yourself Framework to a specific topic or challenge in our lives.

All classes are recorded and uploaded to the library so you can review and repeat as much as you desire.

ACCESS TO THE ESSENTIALS COURSE

Deepen your healing by taking the on-demand trainings from The Essentials Course.  You will learn:

  • How to regulate and soothe your nervous system
  • How to build capacity while reducing pain
  • Legitimize and believe yourself again
  • Tap into your own sanity and power
  • Discover your indomitable worth
  • Discover and build relationships with safe people

To Succeed, You Only Need To Do Four Things:

  1. Watch the class recordings or attend the live classes
  2. Do the practices consistently (2 – 3 times a week)
  3. Get support when you need it
  4. Go at your own pace

Do this and you will start experiencing results. 

RULES & PRINCIPLES FOR THE COMMUNITY

GUIDING PRINCIPLES:

  • Inclusivity: We are an inclusive community, supporting the LGBTQIA community, Transgendered individuals, neurodivergent individuals (Autism, ADHD, etc), and minorities. Respect the pronouns of those that specify their pronouns
  • Kindness: Speak kindly and directly with others. No shaming, gossiping, or putting down others
  • Positive Intent: Assume positive intent on the part of others, as the majority of persons do not have ill intent in their actions, even if it is a painful impact
  • Boundaries: Stay in your lane and do not try to fix or coach others

RULES:

Generally, these rules are here as a means of creating structure and clarity about expectations.  It is rare that there is a conflict in these areas.

  • Political, religious, and spiritual discussion is not allowed unless it is in a spiritual, political, or religious group.  These types of groups are currently not available in the Communities
  • Bigotry will not be tolerated
  • Racism will not be tolerated
  • Harassment of any type (sexual, religious, racial, etc) will not be tolerated
  • Emotional, verbal, or online harassment, abuse, or intimidation will not be tolerated
  • Proselyting or preaching will not be tolerated
  • Communication and other rules are outlined here:  Community Rules
  • Resolve conflicts, disagreements, or misunderstandings between each other with care.  Do not involve Marshall or his staff in personal conflicts with other students.
 
Individuals that violate the values of the membership will be removed from the communities, and possibly the entire system, and their membership canceled.  Generally, if a violation occurs, a discussion will be had, a commitment to change made, and then evaluation.  However, if there is a bigoted attack or racist attack, that person will be removed without notice.
 
By joining, you agree to be accountable to these rules.
 
If this is not acceptable to you, do not join.

RESULTS FROM THE WORK...

  • Experiencing real feelings of love and warmth towards yourself
  • Experiencing more peace
  • Enjoying more confidence
  • Feeling empowered and safer in your life
  • Deeper respect and trust in one’s self
  • Easier time saying no
  • Less guilt
  • Less shame

AND, ULTIMATELY, YOU LOVING YOURSELF ANY TIME, ANY PLACE.

CLASS TIME, FEATURES, ETC

LIVE CLASS TIMES:

  • Class Start: Monday, June 3rd, 2024
  • Class Day and Time: Mondays at 6pm Mountain Time
  • Recordings released the following day at 8am

THE COURSE FEATURES:

  • Video and audio versions of the trainings
  • Printable PDF homework guides and class slides
  • Follow-along MP3 and video versions of tools and practices that guide your healing and growth
  • Online access via PC or Smartphone via Chrome browser for login

YOUR TIME INVESTMENT IN YOUR HEALING:

  • Class averages 60 minutes in length
  • Trainings come with printable PDF version of the slides for note-taking

IS THIS A GOOD FIT FOR YOU?

This Is Designed For Individuals That:

  • Identify with being a people-pleaser and seek love through approval
  • That struggle with trusting their own perceptions of reality
  • That doubt their feelings and senses
  • That wonder what is real
  • That feel unreal or invisible
  • Struggle to create healthy relationships, trust, and connection
  • That are seeking to have relationships and friendships that are satisfying
  • That are seeking more purpose and prosperity in their life
  • That want to be themselves without fear, guilt, or shame
  • That want themselves back

There Are Pre-requesites To Join:

  • Must be in therapy, seeking a trauma therapist, or be willing to if recommended by Marshall
  • Must be in or seeking a support community online and in real life
  • Willing to do the work and take it at their own pace
  • Understand there is no quick-fix or instant healing; it takes persistence and curiosity instead
  • Understand that Marshall is not a therapist; he’s a trauma-informed coach and mentor
  • Agree to 100% responsibility for the actions and choices you take in this course

ALL FOR...

6-MONTH MINIMUM COMMITMENT REQUIRED

Your Membership Gets You:

  • The Actually Love Yourself Live Class Access
  • The Actually Love Yourself Sessions Library
  • The Essentials Course ($497 value)
  • The Codependency Healing Tools & Meditations Library ($197 value)

STANDARD PRICE: $2400

Pay In Full And Get:

  • The Codependency Healing System
  • Lifetime access to course upgrades
  • The Q&A Calls
  • The Practice Sessions Library
  • The Specialized Focus Trainings Library
  • The Codependency Healing Tools & Meditations Library ($197 value)
  • The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings ($597 Value)
  • The Actually Heal Trainings ($597 value)
  • PAY-IN-FULL BONUS: The Self-Trust Special Focus Course ($997 Value)
  • PAY-IN-FULL BONUS: The Reclaim Innocence Course ($197 Value)
  • PAY-IN-FULL BONUS: Dating 101 For Ex-codependents ($249 Value)

STANDARD PRICE: $2400

You Get:

  • The Codependency Healing System
  • Lifetime access to course upgrades
  • The Q&A Calls
  • The Practice Sessions Library
  • The Specialized Focus Trainings Library
  • The Codependency Healing Tools & Meditations Library ($197 value)
  • The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings ($597 Value)
  • The Actually Heal Trainings ($597 value)

ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

Will This Interfere With Therapy?

The trainings and practices in the Codependency Healing System are designed with personal therapy in mind.  It is built around the principles that the student leads their therapy.

The courses involve tools that are oriented to the somatic, or felt-sense part of reality and experience, and included cognitive reframing practices using questions, exploration, and experience.

Will I Be Required To Complete Everything In A Specific Amount Of Time (or, Is it REALLY Go At Your Own Pace?)

All trainings and courses are go-at-your-own-pace, so you can go as slow as you want.

Is There A Refund Or Guarantee Period?

No refunds are granted on membership purchases

There are no guarantees, as results are dependent on you doing the work.  However, we commit to helping you identify additional resources if needed for your success with this work.  This may include referrals to therapists or specialists.  Costs for these services are not included in your enrollment. You will be required to pay for those.

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REAL PEOPLE. REAL RESULTS.

REAL PEOPLE. REAL RESULTS.

WHO IS MARSHALL?

I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING  TO BE THEMSELVES.

After 25 years of codependency and 13 years of freedom from it, I’ve experienced a lot of emotional, relational, and mental terrain that come with knowing, loving, and living who you are.
 
I’ve built healthy, secure intimate and platonic relationships, resilient self-worth, self-trust, and peace in my personal life after a life of trauma, depression, social isolation, and failed relationships.
 
Today, I help survivors experience for themselves peace, love, connection, and the joy of knowing, loving, and living who they are.