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Stop Fixing Yourself And Actually Heal

… Even if your therapy or self-help efforts have failed you in the past.

With the right knowledge, practices, and support, you can experience actual peace and healing in your traumas and hurts.

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Stop Fixing Yourself And Actually Heal

… Even if your therapy or self-help efforts have failed you in the past.

With the right knowledge, practices, and support, you can experience actual peace and healing in your traumas and hurts.

Learn More Below.

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It Isn't Your Fault You've Not Healed

Many of us struggle to see results in our efforts to heal and find peace, especially in therapy and self-help.  We tend to blame ourselves, thinking we’ve not done enough, or we’re stupid, or it isn’t in the cards for us.

If this is you, you need to hear this…

This is a knowledge and execution problem.

It is not, and never has been, a YOU problem.

Hi! I'm Marshall Burtcher

Mentor & Teacher In Healing Codependency

I personally experienced the painful, often discouraging, struggle of finding resolution and real peace regarding my traumas and past hurts that don’t seem to heal. 
 
I sought many, many ways to end the crippling panic, anxiety, shame, self-loathing, and crushing anguish I carried for nearly 40 years as a survivor of early childhood sexual abuse, emotional and psychological abuse (narcissistic abuse and religious cult abuse), neglect and abandonment.
 
I did therapy, EFT clearing work, shamanic clearing work, countless hours of reading self-help books, watching YouTube videos, hundreds of affirmation practices, and I still felt so unworthy, broken, hijacked by my emotions, and never really getting past “square one”. 
 
Here’s what I discovered:

I had a fundamental misunderstanding of what healing really was and what was needed.

Most therapists, coaches, mentors, and survivors think healing is about fixing one’s pain through correcting how they think and feel about what they went through.

Reality is this:

Real healing is the result of resolving the impulses in the body.

And this requires you to understand how to create a warm, safe-enough witness for your pain to find its path to resolution and closure.

This is what I help you do.

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I want to help you experience real, lasting peace...

And more joy, peace, and safety being you...

Like most things, we either learn from personal experience or learn it from another

I’ve learned over the past 15 years of personal trauma healing and pain healing what is required to bring warmth, care, and healing to one’s pain.  It is my desire for you to experience this, too.

I achieve this through…

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I have three intentions for you when you join the Actually Heal Trainings:

1) That you understand the 3 essential ingredients of actual healing and easily, successfully implement each of them in your daily life
 
2) That you experience tangible shifts in your level of peace, growth, and clarity in your healing efforts
 
3) That you feel supported and witnessed in your pain and healing efforts

I want you to leave these trainings feeling tangible change in your efforts, confidence in your organic healing ability, and feeling hope and power in your healing work

Come Discover Real Healing

Experience More Peace, More Warmth, More Resolution

I will guide you in making that your reality through these 8 core trainings:

IT ACHIEVES THIS IN 3 STEPS:

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STEP ONE: NURTURE SAFETY

Real, actual healing is not possible when your body feels unsafe or in danger.

Through special practices, you help your body start to feel safe enough to explore, to experiment, and to heal.

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STEP TWO: CULTIVATE CURIOSITY & INQUIRY

Trying to heal so you get a specific outcome or result in your life sets you up to fail.

Real healing is organic and emerges through practices and processes that allow the body to process and integrate the pain and energy it has been living with.

Curiosity and inquiry teach you how to let your body guide your healing work and help you help it heal.

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STEP THREE: WARM WITNESS & CARE

Judgment, shame, resistance, and denial are the common ways we ignore, devalue, and exile our pain.

This comes from the belief our pain is wrong, bad, or needs fixing before we can be loved or cared for. 

These are learned beliefs.  We learned the from the rejection and criticism we received when we had pain and shared it.

In this step, you learn how to reverse this habit and begin nurturing a warm, caring witness to your pain.  This allows you to bring in deeper care and kindness, and begin to heal shame, guilt, and abandonment.

THESE STEPS ARE MASTERED THROUGH 8 TRAININGS:

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TRAINING ONE: WHAT IS FIXING AND WHAT IS REAL HEALING

I show you what is really going on when we’re healing, the invisible loop that as at play, and how to nurture your actual healing through the Curiosity-Inquiry-Care framework.

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TRAINING TWO: CAPACITY AND REAL HEALING

You will learn how capacity directs your healing, how to nurture your capacity at the level of the body, and how to begin navigating your healing efforts with more care.  You will heal for you, not for the expectations of others or some arbitrary timetable.

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TRAINING THREE: BELIEVING YOURSELF AGAIN

You cannot heal what you do not believe deserves healing.  Further, if you do not believe your feelings, pain, needs, wants, and lived experience to be valid and real, your healing efforts will fail. 

I teach you how to restore trust and belief in the validity of your pain, emotions, and lived experience.  This allows your healing to take root in your body and mind, manifesting in more peace and clarity.

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TRAINING FOUR: ASPECTS OF SELF & INNER REALITY

Your pain is carried by internal parts or “aspects of self”.  These are inward versions of you that lived through the experience and carry the thoughts, feelings, needs, and wants you had at the time of pain and trauma. 

When these parts have a shared relationship to a concept (for instance, relationships, love, or money), they create a complex interconnection that must be cared for in order for you and they to experience actual healing. I call these “Constellations”.

You will learn how to discern your inward aspects of Self, begin to care for them, and then identify and navigate trauma constellations.  This will create deep, direct healing and growth while eliminating the frustrations caused by the illusion of “setbacks” and “back to square one” thinking.

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TRAINING FIVE: INQUIRY - UNDERSTANDING YOUR INNER SELVES

You will learn how to inquire about what your body and Aspects of Self need in the healing work that is happening.  You’ll learn how to hear their responses and implement them as best you’re able.

You will learn how to approach these parts and yourself with warmth, concern, and generosity.  This creates a deepening sense of care, rootedness, and healing of inward lonenliness.

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TRAINING SIX: WARM WITNESS & CARE

Healing requires what I call “The Warm Witness”.  A warm witness is a person that is present and aware of your lived experience and what you’re feeling and facing.  They receive all this with gentleness, warmth, care, and concern.  

You will learn how to cultivate your own internal Warm Witness and begin using that witness in your curiosity, inquiry, and care practices.

This will create deeper healing, shelter, and nurture, producing more peace, more clarity, and more self-confidence.

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TRAINING SEVEN: UNTANGLING YOURSELF FROM THE MEANING AND THE PAIN

You will learn how to shift from believing that your pain or  trauma was caused by something in you to understanding and viewing it as an experience you went through. 

This will help you liberate your sense of worth from the judgments of the pain and release any significance that was applied to the pain and events that keeps you stuck reliving them within your body’s reality.

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TRAINING EIGHT: PUTTING THIS INTO PRACTICE - DIRECTED EMOTIONAL PROCESSING

You will learn how to implement everything you’ve learned in the previous seven modules by using Marshall’s mind-body processing method called “Directed Emotional Processing”.

You will leave this training having experienced this simple emotional processing style, along with ongoing live group processing sessions to help you master it in your own healing work.

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COURSE DETAILS

LIVE CLASS DATES AND TIMES

    • Live Class Start Date: Sunday, December 3 – 17, Holiday Break, January 7 – February 4, 2024
    • Course Length: 8 total modules. Go at your own pace in taking each module
    • Class Time: Sundays, 12pm Mountain Time
    • Class Length: 1-2 hours per class
    • Homework Time Investment: 20-60 minutes (varies per training)
    • Access To Recordings And Future Live Sessions: Access to class recordings are provided in video and audio (mp3) format and are available 24/7 for as long as you have an active membership
    • You do not have to attend the live classes to succeed!
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COURSE FEATURES

    • Includes PDF guides and MP3 recordings of tools and classes
    • Access to class recordings and to live classes when taught
    • Support via email and the online student support community
    • You do not have to attend the live classes to succeed!
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COURSE PREREQUISITIES

There are Prerequisites to attend this course:

  • Must either be in therapy, seeking a trauma therapist or be willing to find one if advised
  • Must be in or seeking a support community online and in real life
  • Willing to do the work and take it at their own pace
  • Understand there is no quick-fix or instant healing; it takes persistence and curiosity instead
  • Understand that Marshall is not a therapist; he’s a trauma-informed coach and mentor
  • Agree to 100% responsibility for the actions and choices you take in this course

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$497
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  • UNLIMITED Live Attendance To The Live Classes When Taught
  • UNLIMITED ACCESS To The Recordings
  • UNLIMITED Email Support And Community Forum Support
  • UNLIMITED ACCESS To The Codependency Healing Tools & Meditations Library ($197)
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3-MONTH PAYPLAN ($99 For 3 Months)
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IS THIS COURSE A GOOD FIT FOR YOU?

The Course Is Designed For Individuals That:

  • Identify with being a people-pleaser and seek love through approval
  • That struggle with trusting their own perceptions of reality
  • That doubt their feelings and senses
  • That wonder what is real
  • That feel unreal or invisible
  • Struggle to create healthy relationships, trust, and connection
  • That are seeking to have relationships and friendships that are satisfying
  • That are seeking more purpose and prosperity in their life
  • That want to be themselves without fear, guilt, or shame
  • That want themselves back

There Are Pre-requesites To Join The Course:

  • Must either be in therapy, seeking a trauma therapist, or be willing to if recommended by Marshall
  • Must be in or seeking a support community online and in real life
  • Willing to do the work and take it at their own pace
  • Understand there is no quick-fix or instant healing; it takes persistence and curiosity instead
  • Understand that Marshall is not a therapist; he’s a trauma-informed coach and mentor
  • Agree to 100% responsibility for the actions and choices you take in this course

ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

Will This Interfere With Therapy?

The trainings and practices in the Course are designed with personal therapy in mind.  It is built around the principles that the student leads their therapy.

The courses involve tools that are oriented to the somatic, or felt-sense part of reality and experience, and included cognitive reframing practices using questions, exploration, and experience.

Will I Be Required To Complete Everything In A Specific Amount Of Time (or, Is it REALLY Go At Your Own Pace?)

All trainings and courses are go-at-your-own-pace. 

Is There A Refund Or Guarantee Period?

Refunds are available only for 14 days for purchases.

There are no guarantees, as results are dependent on you doing the work.  However, we commit to helping you identify additional resources if needed for your success with this work.  This may include referrals to therapists or specialists.  Costs for these services are not included in your enrollment. Those costs will be your responsibility.

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REAL PEOPLE. REAL RESULTS.

REAL PEOPLE. REAL RESULTS.

WHO IS MARSHALL?

I MENTOR CODEPENDENTS WHO ARE SEEKING  TO BE THEMSELVES.

After 25 years of codependency and 13 years of freedom from it, I’ve experienced a lot of emotional, relational, and mental terrain that come with knowing, loving, and living who you are.
 
I’ve built healthy, secure intimate and platonic relationships, resilient self-worth, self-trust, and peace in my personal life after a life of trauma, depression, social isolation, and failed relationships.
 
Today, I help survivors experience for themselves peace, love, connection, and the joy of knowing, loving, and living who they are.
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