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Rules For The Support Calls

Below are the rules that govern our time together.
 
The rules outlined below help create a narrow, focused container for each student to get support on their particular path out of codependency, as healing codependency is the only focus of these groups.
 
By clicking “I AGREE & ADD ME TO (Live Mentoring or Homework Hours)” button below, you are agreeing to follow these rules while in the group experience and within the online communities I offer.

 

The Purpose Of These Groups:

The purpose of these live groups is to offer support, understanding, and presence for students in their healing journey from codependency.  It is not a political or religious space.
 
We’re a diverse group of people, so differences will exist.  Please respect these differences and consider approaching each other from positive intent rather than assigning intent to a person’s actions or beliefs. 
 
Note: Traumatic, triggering, or activating material may be shared, as student may share about traumas, abuses, and neglects they’ve endured.  Join only if you have capacity and are ready to care for your emotional state. 
 

What Happens When A Rule Is Violated

Marshall and/or his team will either offer a correction in class, or they will contact the student after class to remind them of the rule.  The rule will be mentioned in the next class as a reminder to the group as a whole.
 
Repeated violation of the rules will result in not being admitted to these groups.
 

The Rules (updated 8/8/2023):

Trauma May Be Shared: This container is appropriate for sharing low-detail (don’t share in explicit detail) experiences of trauma and asking support.  If you need further assistance with a trauma that comes up, contact your therapist, email us at experts @ freetheself.com, share in The Community, or share in the Student Community in the Learning System,

Warmth and Positive Regard to Self and Other Members:  We each come from varied and unique pasts, diverse cultures, and we’re entering the work in various states of growth.  This means sometimes people will say things, share things, or do things we object to. If it was not said or done directly to you, this is a good opportunity to grant them positive regard and see their efforts through the lens of exploration and growth, rather than judgment or making them wrong. 

If needed, process your experience in the privacy of your own being (or with a therapist or separate support group), as well as consider that people are exploring, developing, and growing.  It is also a good time to stay focused on your yard, your healing, your growth. 

In the event a student does something directly to you or says something directly to you that hurts you, this is an opportunity to reach out and discuss it with them, and work towards either resolution or going your individual ways while maintaining politeness in the group containers. 

Only involve Marshall or his staff if there’s a violation of the rules.

Privacy Of All Is Maintained:  Nothing discussed by others in a class or support call will be shared outside that class with others who are not part of that class or have not agreed to their personal details being shared.  You are, however, welcome to share your own personal experience with whom you choose. Do not share names or details of other students, however.

No Sharing Of Politics or Politically Charged Topics: Do not discuss politics or politically sensitive topics, events, or persons (examples: abortion, republican, conservative, liberal, democrat, Trump, Hillary Clinton, etc).

You can use generic phrasing if your experience contains something political.  Something like “this political thing”.  No specifics!

No Sharing Of Religion/Spirituality: Do not discuss or mention religious or spiritual things using specifics, such as naming a religion or spiritual practice by name, or a spiritual person by name.

You can use these general terms: “my higher power” or “a spiritual practitioner” or “spiritual experience” or “spiritual belief system”. 

No Offering Advice To Other Students:

Only Marshall or one of his staff are allowed to offer guidance, feedback, or instruction to other students. Students speak about their own experience; no one else’s.

Use of Pronouns:

If a person has pronouns stated in their ZOOM name description, please remember to use them when referencing that individual. 

If you have preferred pronouns, please place them in your ZOOM name. 

Handling Differences: 

If one feels hurt or activated by the beliefs or perspectives of another, it is worth taking some time to explore that experience, what it means to you, and how you want to care for yourself. This is a place for generating acceptance of difference, not for judgment or trying to change someone else.  Use A-L-I and other tools for navigating that experience. If it is something you need to discuss with a student, you need to get consent from that student before discussing it with them.  Do not involve Marshall or his team in addressing differences unless it involves racism, bigotry, abuse, or violates the rules above.

Feedback To Marshall

Feedback you want to share about your experience to Marshall should be done privately via email.  You can email him at anytime at marshall @ freetheself.com

 

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