You're not alone in this. I lived through it myself....
Marshall Burtcher, Mentor and Coach in Self-love Resiliency & Confidence
My story starts very young, with my mother and father being a codependent and narcissistic match.
I quickly learned as a small child that making my parents feel good lead to me feeling good about me. I found it was the only way to get any attention, nurture or care from them (aside from being sick).
I often found myself lonely, alone and simply not involved in what was happening because my parents didn't actively include me.
This lead me to developing fixing, rescuing and care-taking habits as my primary source of getting affection and love from them...only it wasn't love that I was getting. I was getting imitation love, or "approval".
Fast-forward twenty years, I found myself in an empty, dysfunctional marriage, and I wanted out. But I was terrified of being alone, and what would happen to me if I didn't keep my wife close.
I stayed in that marriage for nearly 10 years longer than I ought to have while I tried to "fix myself" and "fix my feelings".
Does this sound familiar to you?
If so, you may be struggling with self-love deficit disorder (aka codependency).
This "disorder" is a means of getting love from others when love is made "scarce" and difficult to obtain. We become hyper-tuned to the needs and behaviors of our parent/spouse/partner so we can anticipate their "needs" and pre-emptively meet them.
This gives us a strong sense of power, meaning and value in our lives, especially so when we succeed in making them feel good. This is when we get the big "hit" of feeling strong, loved and valuable for what we do.
Its deceptive though. We think we're finally being loved for who we are. But in reality, they're only giving us that praise and attention because they like what we did for them.
This leads us to ask the question, "what is real love then, Marshall?"
Real love is the warm, caring regard for another person and how they feel and what they want. Its accepting them as they are.
But, here's the caveat. This is done while also feeling the same warmth, regard and care for OURSELVES. This empowers us to discern our boundaries, to say NO to things we do not want, and to say YES to things we do.
So, how do you get there?
By educating yourself, exploring and discovering new outcomes, and resolving core "emotional associations" that define your present experience. You must ally yourself with your experience and emotions to breakthrough and liberate from the grasp of shame, confusion and "crazy" that you've been dealing with.
This 7-day course does just this. It:
This gives you the Intellectual Understanding that your experience is real. It defines things clearly so you can move forward in recovering your power, embracing the future with openness and curiosity, and begin to stand with yourself.
This leads to you feeling Confident, Powerful, and Taking Action for the life You WANT.
Duration: Typically 5 Minutes
Each day you receive a video from me discussing an element of your journey and how to respond to it. This include: Codependency, Narcissism, Power, Your Superpower, the Nature of Self-love, and more...
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