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Where Codependency Transforms Into Peace, Freedom, And Satisfaction

You've likely have been trained to distrust yourself, to earn your worth, and distrust your innate intuition and desires. You ache with desire to feel safe enough to love and be loved, to be your real self, and create a life you enjoy. But your body's unresolved trauma around safety, belonging, and worth keeps you locked in survival. My work's purpose to set you free from survival, deeply know and love yourself, and create a satisfying life for yourself.​

Where Codependency Transforms Into Peace, Freedom, And Satisfaction

You've likely have been trained to distrust yourself, to earn your worth, and distrust your innate intuition and desires. You ache with desire to feel safe enough to love and be loved, to be your real self, and create a life you enjoy. But your body's unresolved trauma around safety, belonging, and worth keeps you locked in survival.

My work's purpose to set you free from survival, deeply know and love yourself, and create a satisfying life for yourself.

THE SEMI-ANNUAL ENROLLMENT FOR THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM IS OPEN!

THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM AS ACCEPTING UP TO 50 NEW STUDENTS!

Is It Time To Put Codependency In The Past And Start To Live Life According To Your Needs And Wants? Come Join Us And Learn To Know, Love, And Be Who You Are.

Enrollment is open till August 2nd, 2024 and is limited to 50 new students.

Click below to learn if the Codependency Healing System is right for you!

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MY WORK, TRAININGS, AND TEACHINGS HAVE IMPACTED

9500+*

CODEPENDENTS JUST LIKE YOU WORLDWIDE

*This number includes paid trainings and downloads of free materials

HI! I'M MARSHALL.

I was hopelessly codependent, love addicted, and then, later, love avoidant for much of my childhood and adult life.  I thought something was fundamentally defective with me.

In reality, I was suffering from deep injuries to my identity, worth, and attachment system, resulting in persistent shame, insecurity, panic, and depression.

Over the course of ten years, I discovered and healed the root cause of my codependency, and then embarked on creating a life I enjoy.

Today, I teach fellow codependents how to do the same for themselves: Craft a life that brings them fulfillment, peace, freedom, belonging, and more by knowing, loving, and being themselves.

I’ve helped thousands of codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists actually heal and go on to enjoy their lives.

My purpose is to guide codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists in realizing for themselves they can create and enjoy a life they love.

CODEPENDENCY ISN'T THE PROBLEM...

1. It Is The Strategy Your Body Used To Survive Dangerous Relationship Systems

We each have three core needs that must be nurtured and stable consistently for us to be ourselves and share ourselves with the world:

  • Emotional Safety:  We need to feel emotionally safe to share our feelings, wants, needs, and to say yes and no, and express our unique selves with those we’re connected to
  • Social Belonging:  We need to know we belong, we’re valued, and we will be protected and cared for when we need that. Without that, the world is very scary
  • Independent Self-Worth:  We need to have a strong sense of our own worth, be able to direct our lives from the guidance of that worth, and feel secure that our worth is not in jeopardy if we’re to craft a life we enjoy
 

Your body instinctively knows this, and, at some point, your body realized it wasn’t safe enough to be itself.

This often happens in relationship, family, and cultural systems where the person is repeatedly shamed, attacked, diminished, and discarded.  Obedience, tolerance of scary and harmful behaviors, and prioritizing the emotional regulation of the other is priority. 

This kind of repeating cycle of harm and danger activated your body’s biological defense mechanism called, “fawning”.

2. It Is Your Nervous System Protecting You

Your body has four options to choose from to keep you safe and alive when danger is encountered:

  • It can fight the threat and neutralize it
  • It can flee from the threat to safety
  • It can freeze and play dead till the threat passes
  • It can fawn towards the threat, pleasing and appeasing it in hopes the threat will not harm it
 

Codependent behaviors, like people-pleasing, perfectionism, high tolerance and unboundaried empathy for harmful and hurtful behaviors, emerge when the body chooses to fawn.

This is chosen because the body feels like it’s survival is dependent on the dangerous relationship, so it cannot fight or flee and still survive.

So it must fawn to survive.

3. It Is The Starting Point, Not The End, Of Your Life

Codependency got you here, to this day where you are able to choose a new future by choosing a new path.

This is why I see codependency as brilliant.  Your body and brain were so smart, so attuned, so powerful it saw it could navigate the chaos and pain of abuse and neglect and survive long enough to escape it.

Now the time has come to discover who you are beyond codependency, beyond survival, and beyond coping.

This makes today – right now – the starting point of your life.  Not the end.

And you do not have to do this alone, on your own, or have to figure it all out.

With my trainings, you will quickly learn how to feel safe enough to become yourself, share yourself, and build a life you are proud of.

All of this helps your body stop fawning and start advocating.  

You will never need to be codependent again to thrive in your life when you stop being the survivor and start being the creator of your life.

THE SOLUTION IS BEING YOUR REAL SELF...

1. Your Survival Identity Cannot Go With You Into Your Future

We each have three core needs that must be nurtured and stable consistently for us to be ourselves and share ourselves with the world:

  • Emotional Safety:  We need to feel emotionally safe to share our feelings, wants, needs, and to say yes and no, and express our unique selves with those we’re connected to
  • Social Belonging:  We need to know we belong, we’re valued, and we will be protected and cared for when we need that. Without that, the world is very scary
  • Independent Self-Worth:  We need to have a strong sense of our own worth, be able to direct our lives from the guidance of that worth, and feel secure that our worth is not in jeopardy if we’re to craft a life we enjoy
 

Your body instinctively knows this, and, at some point, your body realized it wasn’t safe enough to be itself.

This often happens in relationship, family, and cultural systems where the person is repeatedly shamed, attacked, diminished, and discarded.  Obedience, tolerance of scary and harmful behaviors, and prioritizing the emotional regulation of the other is priority. 

This kind of repeating cycle of harm and danger activated your body’s biological defense mechanism called, “fawning”.

2. You Outgrow The Survival Identity Through Healing

Your body has four options to choose from to keep you safe and alive when danger is encountered:

  • It can fight the threat and neutralize it
  • It can flee from the threat to safety
  • It can freeze and play dead till the threat passes
  • It can fawn towards the threat, pleasing and appeasing it in hopes the threat will not harm it
 

Codependent behaviors, like people-pleasing, perfectionism, high tolerance and unboundaried empathy for harmful and hurtful behaviors, emerge when the body chooses to fawn.

This is chosen because the body feels like it’s survival is dependent on the dangerous relationship, so it cannot fight or flee and still survive.

So it must fawn to survive.

3. Your Healing Leads You Into Your Creator Identity

Codependency got you here, to this day where you are able to choose a new future by choosing a new path.

This is why I see codependency as brilliant.  Your body and brain were so smart, so attuned, so powerful it saw it could navigate the chaos and pain of abuse and neglect and survive long enough to escape it.

Now the time has come to discover who you are beyond codependency, beyond survival, and beyond coping.

This makes today – right now – the starting point of your life.  Not the end.

And you do not have to do this alone, on your own, or have to figure it all out.

With my trainings, you will quickly learn how to feel safe enough to become yourself, share yourself, and build a life you are proud of.

All of this helps your body stop fawning and start advocating.  

You will never need to be codependent again to thrive in your life.

HOW I TAKE YOU FROM SURVIVOR TO CREATOR

START HERE

RESTORE EMOTIONAL SAFETY, BELONGING, AND SELF-WORTH

Codependency is replaced by advocacy when your body feels safe enough to speak up, stand out, and handle the outcomes. 

Codependents like you achieve this by mastering three specific focuses in their healing: emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self-worth.  I guide you through this in my 15-week experience called FOUNDATION.

Enrollment is open! Class starts June 30, 2024.

GROW HERE

KNOW, LOVE, AND BE WHO YOU ARE

Codependency left you with massive gaps in understanding yourself and life.  This is the impact of neglect and abuse.

Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in.  The Codependency Healing System delivers this.

Only 100 students are admitted annually.

Enrollment opens July and February each year.

CREATE HERE

CREATE AND ENJOY A LIFE YOU CHOOSE

Become the deliberate creator of your life, your desires, and your experiences by aligning your identity and power with purposes and desires that bring you alive.

This 20-week journey puts in your hands your innate power to intend, receive, and enjoy what you really want in your life, leaving behind all need for codependency and survival.

COMING OCTOBER 2024

SEE WHAT REAL STUDENTS EXPERIENCE

Real People.

Healing Their Trauma.

Living Their Happiness.

And More...

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FREE RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING JOURNEY

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COMMUNITY

Healing and thriving without codependency requires healthy, consistent, and reliable connection with others.
 
The Community aims to create such a shelter where you are:
 
  • Supported in discovering life without codependency & navigating the complexities that arise
  • Given access to free trainings, tools, and practices to help you succeed faster
  • Celebrated in your discoveries and successes and supported in your frustrations and challenges
 

Come join us and discover real support for real healing.

 

TOOLS & RESOURCE LIBRARY

Need practices, tools, and information that actually works and is relevant to what you’re facing right now?

Check out the variety of tools, trainings, and guides I’ve created for students, clients, and The Community.

Included are:

  • Tools for soothing anxiety and distress
  • Guides for discerning reality (sane making), healthy relationships, and keeping you sober
  • Practices for emotional healing, integration, and expansion
  • And much, much more

 

All of these are freely available.