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Stop Fixing Yourself & Start Loving Yourself.

Do This By Liberating Yourself From Codependency.

LEARN HOW WITH CODEPENDENCY EXPERT,

Marshall Burtcher

Stop Fixing Yourself & Start Loving Yourself.

Do This By Liberating Yourself From Codependency.

LEARN HOW WITH CODEPENDENCY EXPERT,

Marshall Burtcher

Learn The 8 Factors That Heal Your Codependency Permanently

Discover the real cause of codependency, the three hidden needs it is trying to nurture, and the eight essential factors that end codependency - permanently in the 8 Factors That Heal Your Codependency Permanently Workshop

Happening on December 14th, 2022. Attendance is FREE. Get your seat by clicking below!

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HOW IS CODEPENDENCY SHOWING UP IN YOUR LIFE?

Codependency can be hidden in our daily life interactions because we often believe what we’re doing is “normal” and not codependent.

Take my quick assessment and discover how much codependency is showing up in your daily life.

Click below to start now:

DISCOVER HOW THE EIGHT FACTORS THAT HEAL CODEPENDENCY PERMANENTLY

Codependency is not permanent.  Fixing yourself is not necessary.  Having a life you enjoy living, loving yourself, and having healthy relationships is utterly doable.

Learn how you can make this happen in your life in my 1-day workshop.

You will learn:

  • What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is (hint: it is not a disease or an identity!)
  • The 8 factors that end codependency permanently
  • The 3 Necessities and how they’re crucial to your healing and well-being
 

Workshop Details:

Date:  December 14th, 2022

Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (taught twice for your convenience)

Length: Roughly two hours

Investment: FREE

Grab your seat by clicking below!

UPCOMING WORKSHOPS & TRAININGS

DISCOVER HOW THE EIGHT FACTORS THAT HEAL CODEPENDENCY PERMANENTLY -
DECEMBER 14, 2022

Codependency is not permanent.  Fixing yourself is not necessary.  Having a life you enjoy living, loving yourself, and having healthy relationships is utterly doable.

Learn how you can make this happen in your life in my 1-day workshop.

You will learn:

  • What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is (hint: it is not a disease or an identity!)
  • The 8 factors that end codependency permanently
  • The 3 Necessities and how they’re crucial to your healing and well-being
 

Workshop Details:

Date:  December 14th, 2022

Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (taught twice for your convenience)

Length: Roughly two hours

Investment: FREE

Grab your seat by clicking below!

NOT TRYING TO FIX YOUR WORTH AND DISCOVER YOUR INDOMITABLE WORTH -
JANUARY 25 & 27, 2022

Low self-worth is not a natural, nor permanent state of being.  It is a result of neglect, harm, and being conditioned to respond to yourself with shame and guilt.  You can be free of this 
 
I teach you how to liberate your worth from the clutches of shame, guilt, perfectionism, failure, and rejection in my 2-day training.
 

You will learn:

  • The real cause of your low self-worth
  • Why self-esteem and fixing yourself will always fail for you
  • How to discover your self-worth
  • How to experience your self-worth
 

Training Details:

Dates:

Training One – Possibility:  Wednesday, January 25th, 2023

Training Two – Discovery: Friday, January 27th, 2023

Class Times: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (taught twice for your convenience)

Class Length: Roughly two hours

Includes Practice Guide PDF

Investment: $50.00

Enrollment opens January 2023

HEAL FOR REAL

Take the 5-day workshop and begin healing

I teach you the four essential practices you need for successful healing of and freedom from codependency. 

Here’s what you will learn:

  • Practice One: How to sooth your anxiety and tension
  • Practice Two: How to begin trusting yourself again
  • Practice Three: How to befriend and believe the legitimacy of your emotions and lived experience
  • Practice Four: How to access, know, and feel your real, innate worth
 

Experience more peace, freedom, and self-worth tomorrow by starting today.

Click below to start today!

THE HEALING CODEPENDENCY ESSENTIAL TRAININGS

I guide you through mastering four essential codependency healing practices and decoding your codependent habits, fantasies, and retaking your power.
 

This course is taught in two parts.  Part One teaches you:

  • Training One: How to sooth your anxiety and tension
  • Training Two: How to begin trusting yourself again
  • Training Three: How to befriend and believe the legitimacy of your emotions and lived experience
  • Training Four: How to access, know, and feel your real, innate worth
 
Part Two Teaches you:
 
  • Training One: Identify your codependent behaviors, the needs that drive them, and then new behaviors to get those needs met
  • Training Two: Identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies
  • Training Three: Identify your Fawn Response and Soothe it
  • Training Four: Identify your personal power and personhood and take it back
 

Get the essential skills, tools, and knowledge for setting yourself free from codependency by enrolling today. Click below to learn more.

THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: SELF-STUDY EDITION

The Codependency Healing System: Self-Study Edition guides you through mastering how to actually thrive without codependency.  I teach you how to:

  • Trust and value yourself
  • Build safety, sanity, and occupy your personal right to exist (aka sovereignty)
  • Know, love, and live life based on who you ARE, not who you’ve been programmed to be
  • Build happy, resilient relationships of all types based on compatibility, connection, and safety
 

This is where codependency is transformed into healthy, fulfilling interdependency.

Learn more by clicking below:

Resources For Your Healing & Journey

THE
COMMUNITY

Healing and thriving without codependency requires healthy, consistent, and reliable connection with others.
 
The Community aims to create such a shelter where you are:
 
  • Supported in discovering life without codependency & navigating the complexities that arise
  • Given access to free trainings, tools, and practices to help you succeed faster
  • Celebrated in your discoveries and successes and supported in your frustrations and challenges
 

Come join us and discover real support for real healing.

 

TOOLS & RESOURCE LIBRARY

Need practices, tools, and information that actually works and is relevant to what you’re facing right now?

Check out the variety of tools, trainings, and guides I’ve created for students, clients, and The Community.

Included are:

  • Tools for soothing anxiety and distress
  • Guides for discerning reality (sane making), healthy relationships, and keeping you sober
  • Practices for emotional healing, integration, and expansion
  • And much, much more

 

All of these are freely available.

PODCAST & SUMMIT APPEARANCES

Wanting to learn more from Marshall?

Check out his guest appearances (past, present, and future) below.

Upcoming:

  • None scheduled
 
 

Past Appearances:

 

Check Out The Latest From Marshall

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THE TWO COMMITMENTS FOR A CODEPENDENCY FREE LIFE

COMMITMENT ONE: Honesty with yourself and safe others. This involves being willing to acknowledge what you feel, what you are experiencing, and what is actually happening. This involves the end of fantasy making and toxic hope.

This means acknowledging the pain you're feeling, their abusive and neglectful behavior, and any habits of denying the patterns of behavior and impact in the relationship.

This also includes confronting fantasies of changing them, of their potential, and it means being honest with what is actually happening.

COMMITMENT TWO: Loyalty to your well-being and safety first. Relationships do not require the loss of your Self, your well-being, your sanity. The real work in healthy relationships is building connection and understanding. This starts with loyalty to yourself.

Put your well-being first, respect your pain, choose according to what adds to your well-being, say no to what doesn't, and stay loyal to your boundaries and values.

#codependency
#healing
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#healthyrelationships
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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) The real cause of codependency and how that is crucial to your lasting freedom and healing

2) The three hidden needs codependency is trying to satisfy and how these play a central role in lasting healing

3) The 8 factors you must have in your healing work to successfully end your dependence on codependent behaviors to survive and thrive

4) My strategy that implements the 8 Factors with gentleness, warmth, and care

Included is a specially priced 10-day enrollment opportunity in The Codependency Healing System.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: December 14th, 2022

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability: The replay will be available December 15th, 2022

Click the link in the bio to get to the signup page!
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As we're in the thick of the holiday season, remember the 3 Questions:

- Do I Want This?

- Do I Have Capacity For This?

- Does This Add To My Long-term Well-being and Happiness?

This will help you prioritize yourself first so you know what to say yes or no to.

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#codependency #codependencyrecovery #narcissisticabuse #healing
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Saying No Is Your Sovereign Right.

It Protects Your Happiness, Your Well-being, And Your Joy.

It Makes Space For Happiness And Connection.

Say No Now So You Can Say Yes When It Really Matters To You.

#codependency #healing #boundaries
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#indomitableworth

Are you trying to fix yourself to be worthy?

Fixing is the habit of trying to change ourselves in order to become "right", "correct", or "worthy" in some particular way.

Fixing assumes there is something wrong, bad, or deficient with who we are and confuses skills mastery with identity and worth.

Learn how I address this in today's training.

Link for the upcoming workshop is in my bio!
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#indomitableworth

Your sense of worth determines the outcomes you live with.

It is a puppet and puppeteer situation. The puppeteer is the sense of worth. The puppet are the choices and actions one does.

Basically, one's sense of worth commands the motions of one's power. Over time, this becomes an identity or role you play.

If your sense of worth is oriented around shame, inadequacy, or unworthiness, you will create outcomes that reflect that pain. This will become an identity trap that is difficult to liberate yourself from.

Join the upcoming workshop by clicking the link in the bio!
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What shifts when you trust, just a bit, that your worth isn't defined by rejection or approval?

Use this question to explore the possibility your worth is not dependent on rejection or approval.

#codependency #healing #narcissism
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Are You Suffering From Transactional Worth?

For most of us, we've been valued for what we DO.

We've been given praise, attention, appreciation, connection, and even affection when we do something someone else likes.

This is extremely potent if we've grown up starved of the warmth, love, and kindness of being valued and wanted becuase we exist.

This is what I call "Transactional value".

Transaction value is why:

- People only connect with you when they want something
- People's feelings towards you suddenly change when you do something they like or don't like
- You feel anxiety about people's praise and approval. You know it can be taken away if you "do the wrong thing"
- You fixate on trying to do "the right thing"
- Perfectionism and people-pleasing make so much sense to do in your relationships. Its the only way to navigate these relationships

This transactional value trains your brain to source your identity, worth, and even what feelings you should feel outside your own awareness. Basically, you're "centering" your worth in the reactions, opinions, and feelings of others.

This creates the illusion that your value varies based on their responses to you. It creates internal division and hostilities towards your needs, wants, feelings, and person.

This is where you learn to reject, criticize, and even hate yourself.

Learn how I unlock your value from this trap of transactional worth.

Links for workshop and resources are in the bio!

#codependency #healing #selfworth #selflove
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What shifts when you choose to see your experience and pain as worthy of compassion?

Share below

#codependency #healing #compassion
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#indomitableworth

Are you in the self-esteem trap?

Most of the time, people equate this to building or raising their "self-esteem".

I definitely did.

In fact, sometimes I'd think of it like going to the gym and trying to build muscles and whatnot.
I'd practice the emotional leg day of affirmations and the love-myself arm day of telling myself all the good things I do, did, and will do.

Then rejection, failure, or comparison would come along, and bam. My self-esteem would implode.

Sometimes this implosion would leave me feeling deeply insecure, especially if it was a rejection from a romantic interest.

Other times, the implosion would spark a drive to be more perfect and perform more, especially if it was a mistake or a failure that happened.

Sometimes these changes would bring me attention, validation, and praise, causing me to believe this was the right path to self-esteem that wouldn't shift, fluctuate, vanish when I needed it, and deflate instantly.

This was the Self-esteem trap.

Watch or listen to learn why this happens and how to become free of it.

Links for workshop and resources are in the bio!

#codependency #healing #selfworth #selflove
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Three questions for codependents to ask themselves when encountering situations in their lives:

1) Who do I want to be in this situation?

2) What principles do I want to prioritize in this situation?

3) What outcome am I willing to live with?

These help you interrupt the codependent impulses to please, fix, absorb, or perform. This interruption creates space to orient to yourself and inquire into your own wisdom, senses, and lived experience.

Each question works best when you're practicing the habit of pause-acknowledge-observe (P-A-O). This helps you start to sense into and listen to your body and somatic/felt-sense wisdom.

May this add to your journey.

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Know the differences between love and euphoria so you can keep yourself properly focused and directed in your healing work.

#codependency #loveaddiction #narcissism #healing
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Codependency has a habit of tolerating toxic behavior patterns in hopes that such tolerance will help the other person change and act in more healthy ways.

This actually ends up enabling the toxic patterns while harming the well-being, safety, and health of all involved.

Understanding how toxic accommodation shows up and what it's healthy equivilent is can help you show up better for yourself and others.

Use this quick-list to help you deepen your awareness of toxic and healthy accommodation.

Note: Quick-lists & Infographics are snapshots on a concept or topic. They are, by nature, limited in their scope. It is entirely expected that the quick-list does not cover everything or may lack certain nuances. Keep that in mind while using them.

TOXIC ACCOMMODATION

- You ignore your pain while maximizing the importance of their pain
- You ignore their responsibility for the outcomes they are creating with their choices and actions
- You enable their behavior by solving the problems they create from themselves
- You ignore your own boundaries and well-being in order to accommodate their toxic behaviors
- You take on debt, commitments, or agreements on their behalf
- You stop engaging in your life, your priorities, friendships, and desires to manage them
- They're the primary focus of your world

HEALTHY ACCOMMODATION

- You have clear boundaries about what you expect and clear agreements you and they have agreed to
- You let them inherit and solve the problems they create for themselves
- You point them to professional resources
- You execute boundaries as required by the agreements made
- You recognize and celebrate their successes and do not excuse their failures
- You let them solve their problems and take the actions needed for that to happen
- You are willing to let go of the relationship for your own health
- You focus on your life, relationships, and well-being first

#codependency #narcissist #trauma #relationships
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Unhealthy relationships come with strong positive anomalies.

Those anomalies do not equate to future potential.

Believe the patterns, not the anomalies. Those tell the truth.

#codependency #narcissism #relationships #mentalhealth #healing
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To cause or prevent: The Two Functions of Codependent Behaviors

Codependency functions from two types of behaviors: preventative and causal. Basically, this means we do certain codependent behaviors to either prevent something from happening or cause something to happen. More often, we're attempting to prevent a thing and cause another thing instead.

Knowing what we're trying to prevent and trying to cause can help us decode what needs we're trying to meet and how we're trying to do that.

An example: I fear being rejected by a person I really like. I start to shape-shift myself to them, aligning with their preferences in hopes they'll like me.

In this scenario, I am attempting to prevent rejection AND get them to like me.

This is how I'm attempting to meet my need for a sense of safety, connection, and value in relationship with that person.

Join this month's Decoding Codependency workshop by clicking the link in the bio!
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Perfectionism is a symptom of having one's identity and worth fused with one's behavior and output.

Differentiating and detangling one's self from one's results is a process of releasing shame, embracing boundaries, and deeply connecting with and embodying one's innate, sovereign worth.

It also entails incorporating a shift into discovery and curiosity as a way of life.

Use this quick-list to help guide in you in embracing your natural ability to discover and grow.

PERFECTIONISM

- Is frequently paralyzed by fear or anxiety when doing new or different things
- Outcomes determine worth
- Feels stuck, hopeless, or powerless
- Avoids risk and failure as much as possible
- High anxiety and depression are present
- Tries to control outside factors to feel safe
- Tries to do it all themselves
- Expectations that are unrealistic for outcomes and for self
- Shames and criticizes one's self
- Ignores successes, magnifies failures
- Tries to prevent rejection, failure, and other people's disappointment by being perfect

DISCOVERY & GROWTH

- Curious about outcomes
- Praises and appreciates one's efforts
- Invites discovery and allows outcomes to inform and teach them
- Accepts one's limitations
- Celebrates success, learns from failure
- Focuses sense of self on ability to learn rather than perform
- Seeks out appropriate, qualified help in areas they are seeking support in
- Practices self-care in failure and success
- Surrounds self with supportive, loving, honest people
- Their sense of worth emanates from their natural worthiness
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Codependency has you trying to prevent things from happening and performing to get things to happen.

Today, consider taking a step back, pausing, and observing this cycle within your body and your thinking.

You may realize pretty quick that this cycle is in everything you're currently doing. If so, you're normal. This shows how powerful a lifestyle strategy codependency is.

Pausing, acknowledging, and observing helps stop this cycle and allows you to intervene.

In this month's Decoding Codependency Workshop, I will give you the 3-step I-S-I practice that helps you create new ways of self-care and relating by interrupting, soothing, and inquiring when you catch yourself people-pleasing, trying to be perfect, trying to earn love, fix or control someone, tolerating toxic behavior, or seeking someone to complete you.

Come join 131 other survivors for this free workshop and leave with practices and knowledge that will help you experience more peace, purpose, and fulfilling relating in your daily life.

Date: September 28, 2022

Cost: Free

Click link in BIO to sign up!
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Your feelings already matter.

Observe how they're treated rather than seeking validation of their legitimacy.

This will help you understand if that person is healthy for you.
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